Looks like i have been very, very stupid doesn't it? I had stopped believing in love and kept myself alone for a long time. Now the minute i meet someone, the whole thing is ruined before it even began.
If you really love him, how come your belief is so weak that you will bring the topic in here. Here lives many kind of men and women. Some are innocent, some are pigs (and ms. pigs), some are polish cakes baked in USA oven, some are people who just cannot stick with one person.
Everyone views the world with their own eyes. Every Individual is carrying a unique picture of this world. Some are bad, others are worse, few are good to learn from.
I know a POLISH woman (a widow) of around 80 yrs of age. Her POLISH husband died in a road accident when she was 43!! She has a son and a daughter. She stayed his widow, she raised her children well. And her children are remarkable human beings with wonderful warm family lives. They are a family whose presense makes people believe in real love. So I love this family! Some may find their attitudes towards life very poor! Some might even feel that they are DOGS. It depends on people's thought.
But the important thing is that they are all happy and healthy. They have their own lives. They take the decision that gives them comfort in all respects. Now this family is not very religious...very rare in churches!
I know another women (my friends mom), who have married 1 man (and divorces), and by now has lived with 3 different men. She is now again looking. She is around 40. Her husband used to be better than the rest of her boyfriends (as my friend says, about her dad). However, she felt she found her real love with another man...and so on...etc. But, didnt work out later. So this lady is a strict Catholic, and a strong Polish Nationalist. She also brought up her children (with the help of her x-husband in many major financial matters). Her children are wonderful and intelligent people.
I personally have no wish to have a life like her (or be in any kind of love with a lady like her). It doesnt mean that I dont respect her (its my opinion).
But some people would do everything what she has done in life, because they might find it more logical. Some can have a different explanation of love and relationship. Some might even despise this life.
We all have various opinions. They might not (or might) give you any help. Out of this many views on the same topic...how will you choose?... Everyone will give a good presentation...because they follow that (and they feel confident about that).
One way is to talk with the PERSON INVOLVED. Dont think about anyone here, or that: MEN ARE PIGS, WOMEN SHOULD KEEP LOOKING, BE ALONE BETTER, GET KICKED AND CHEATED BY THE MAN AND STILL BE WITH HIM!!.... Just go ahead, see what kind of man he really is, talk with him, meet any relatives he has. Get married! Go home, and then disscuss some topics in computer or with friends (not being influenced by any of them). Only then you can have a happy life.
Happy New Year :)...And in my next talk i will propose my Japanese Girl friend...and i care less of the MYTHS of humanity...