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Why are polish girls more approachable than north american girls


Ranj 21 | 947  
15 Dec 2006 /  #31
why are european lets say in specific polish girls more approachable then north aamerican girls?

I think if one has confidence in themself, they shouldn't be intimidated by approaching anyone---male or female; Polish, American, Canadian, English, etc.... So the question you should probably ask yourself is not "why are Polish women more approachable than North American women?" but "why am I afraid to approach women from North America?"

IMHO I don't find N American women unapproachable.

See, now FISZ is someone with a sense of confidence----he's not intimidated because he knows there's no reason that he should be:)
Maxxx Payne 1 | 196  
16 Dec 2006 /  #32
Any European/ American woman is easier to approach than a Swedish/Finnish woman. These viking women (swedish) and wanna-be viking women (finnish) are so full of themselves, thinking that they are the desire of every man in the world. Narcists to the extreme:)
Frank 23 | 1,183  
16 Dec 2006 /  #33
Well....Maxx.........the Swedish "look" of woman is much sought ofter, why do so many women dye their hair blonde....go for that look, tanned, toned elegant?

How many blondes do you know who've gone black or brunette....or pale....or short?

Plus they don't rely on guys for their self worth.

I don't know any, to approach though!
Maxxx Payne 1 | 196  
16 Dec 2006 /  #34
Well....Maxx.........the Swedish "look" of woman is much sought ofter, why do so many women dye their hair blonde....go for that look, tanned, toned elegant?

Because of rascism. The Swedish/Finnish women are always whining about rascism, but when rascism in society's beauty standards(tall longfaced blonde blue-eyed viking) gives them an ego boost , rascism is suddenly not a problem.

I find it sad that women of different backgrounds are driven to dye their hair and become this ideal aryan woman. As if they cannot be accepted they way they are :(

Plus they don't rely on guys for their self worth.

There is difference in having a good self-esteem and being narcist. Besides I haven't met any west-european / east-european woman who has to rely on man for self worth. They are independent and proud without thinking they are some kind of ubermenschen.
Frank 23 | 1,183  
16 Dec 2006 /  #35
Not so sure....
Maati 1 | 178  
16 Dec 2006 /  #37
Maybe I was unlucky, but in the US I met many American girls, who behave like sluts.
Sorry about that, but there is no other way to call them. And they were all well-educated, working for well-known companies, some of those girls even quite pretty etc. I couldn't understand that behaviour of them.
Maxxx Payne 1 | 196  
16 Dec 2006 /  #38
What do you mean by sluts here, Maati ?
Maati 1 | 178  
16 Dec 2006 /  #39
Trying to jump into my bf bed while I was there .These women knew about me and our family.
I couldn't believe they would destroy somebody's family just for sex.
I mean, one woman had a bf and she still wanted to have a relation/sexual relationship with my bf. She sent him her nude pics,even. I think she was having sex with somebody else every night...I guess "no strings attached" or sth like this.
Maxxx Payne 1 | 196  
16 Dec 2006 /  #40
That's quite bad Maati. She could have been an sex-addict and that is similar to drug addiction. They don't care anything else but "getting a fix". That's more of a personal problem not a problem of society/culture.
Maati 1 | 178  
16 Dec 2006 /  #41
All of them had an emotional problem? Maybe they were trying to be sexually liberated , but did not know how to do it without hurting everybody else around ? I mean, I met not only this one. Many her girlfriends were like she. And all of them called themselves open-minded swingers. We do not have in Pl these terms: swinger and no strings attached.
iwona 12 | 542  
16 Dec 2006 /  #42
It is a bit like this in UK.

I think that in Poland we are much more family orientated and loyal....In USA ,UK....family ties are very loose so these women don't have much restraint.
Amathyst 19 | 2,702  
17 Dec 2006 /  #43
sex it an intimate thing, how can you get intimate with a stranger and truly enjoy it..

Iwona, what you say is very true but not all women in the UK are like that, we have a hell of a lot that are but there are those that have self-control and self-worth.
Patrycja19 62 | 2,688  
17 Dec 2006 /  #44
Patrycja19,

I'm not quite sure how to take your post. Are you having a go at me now ?

Or are you speaking in general terms ?

I am glad you ASKED instead of feeling my tone of post was all at you :)

no I am venting, basically because I feel like people are not understanding
that America Women and Men are 2nd and third and 4th Generations of poles
germans, czecs , English, I mean comeon, even canada is known for its French
roots (heavy) roots I might add, so knocking down American Women or men
really, your knocking down your Old countrymen and women.

As Babylon had said in some previous posts, American is not a Culture!
Polish, German, Romanian, etc etc etc all came here because they wanted
a better life, some found it, some went back, but it was FREEDOM from Fighting
WAR that drove my grandparents out!

when I see posts like that, I think to myself, well, Maybe there is not much to post
about, so lets see if we can just knock down someone a knotch.
I dont come on here making my self feel all superior.
I know you dont, but the posts (tone) or Question of Why are Polish women
more Approachable. <~ did anyone run out of things to think of?

my mother always said to us growing up, if you have nothing good to say to
someone, dont say nothing at all.
the good old "silence is golden"

I dont think he meant to hurt or make anyone feel bad, but I was having a
very bad night, and the posts struck me as stupid, so I thought it best to
explain myself, I dont have too, but being the person I am, its in my nature
to make sure It is right and no I am not argueing with you Wroclaw, I rather
respect a great deal on here, but My point is, no one knows why women do
not want men approaching them, like in the earlier posts, it could be a number
of things that men get rejected. or why polish women are more approachable
well, I dont think they are any more approachable then anyone else, unless
you look like you havent taken a shower, or hair is scraggly, beard is down to
your ankles and you cant see the mans face. or maybe you forgot to put on
deoderant, or after shave, I think even a well, brought up, sweet innocent
polish girl would have second doubts and is brought up to NOT talk to strange
men who look like they could be a serial killer!

Wroclaw, no, Not Having a go at ya :) lol

family ties are very loose so these women don't have much restraint.

as max said, it was a personal problem, and also could be drinking as well, alot
of young students on the weekends do have partys at their frat houses, go to
bars, this is just a age problem, not limited to the states, but all over.

but in the end, they lose alot just because they wanted to drink, as for sluts, I
know this "statment" is all over the world, I am sure if someone wants someone
bad enough, they will do whatever it takes to get it, not caring who is in their path
or who they hurt in the process, and Ive been in your shoes maati, and my
first thougts were should I kill this person? but my good angel came to my shoulder
and said, no, just dump the idiot and get on with your life :)

sex it an intimate thing, how can you get intimate with a stranger and truly enjoy it..

Its unfortunate that people dont think this way in some instances, but like
max said, it isnt a cultural thing, this is a personal problem that lyes within
the person who is doin this, they could have been hurt before and are going
on a hurt everyone else binge (I have heard this) or plain and simple dont
understand that this is something you dont do to your friends , I had a friend who
was like Maati's, she was total slut, no respect, but she wanted sex, she didnt
care who it was "disgusting" finally I told her , I couldnt take it, and didnt want to
be friends, I had enough, I couldnt trust her and couldnt deal with the stress she
caused.

some could have been sexually molested as young children, and think this is
how they find love, <~saw that On a television show. but in truth, it is truth
as One of my other friends would do the same, her uncle molested her and
she was a total crazy person around men, she even had sex with her first
cousin, which was my BF at the time, that is what I was talking about who i
got rid of. because he was as much to blame.

there are some sick people out there. but its everywhere you just have to keep
your morals in check and watch your back and stick with those who you feel are
your best friends, you wont find no others like emm :)

P
shewolf  
17 Dec 2006 /  #45
Maybe I was unlucky, but in the US I met many American girls, who behave like sluts. Sorry about that, but there is no other way to call them. And they were all well-educated, working for well-known companies, some of those girls even quite pretty etc. I couldn't understand that behaviour of them.

Women have strong sex drives and it sounds like people don't understand that. There's nothing sick about it. It's a natural, biological, never ending drive. And the reason women fulfill their needs with different men is because there's nothing in America anymore that requires women to deny their desires. But as I said before, not all American women behave that way.
Amathyst 19 | 2,702  
17 Dec 2006 /  #46
but we have evovled and no longer need to go with the "animal instinct" self-control should be the order of the day, women have sex drives the way they have because of the need to procreat and the more you do it the better the chance the more children, but that isnt neccessary these days, also Aids is on the rise and so are other sexually transmitted deseases in the UK, they have re-introduced the Aids adverts, updated versons of the ones that were out in the early 80is which is quite scarey..

I sound like a right prude, Im not, I just think that women and men are different and should behave differently in that department, it will never be acceptable for a women to sleep about, she's never going to be the girl a guy takes home to meet the parents if she's the local bike.
Wroclaw 44 | 5,369  
17 Dec 2006 /  #47
Amathyst,

If they show the AIDS add of people walking around in a circle, pay attention, I'm in it.

But of course you'd have to know what I look like.
Amathyst 19 | 2,702  
17 Dec 2006 /  #48
this is true, I'll just look at all of them and take a wild guess and let you know who I think it is ...:)
shewolf  
17 Dec 2006 /  #49
I sound like a right prude, Im not, I just think that women and men are different and should behave differently in that department, it will never be acceptable for a women to sleep about, she's never going to be the girl a guy takes home to meet the parents if she's the local bike.

Don't worry, you don't sound like a prude at all. I agree that people should not behave that way. But the truth is that society has made people believe that women should behave different than men. It's not nature. In societies that were not influenced by European ideas, people were very promiscuous starting at a very young age. The term Missionary Position came into existence because it was not how people did things before Missionaries came along.

Even though women no longer need to procreate as before, the sexual desire does not go away in a woman. And it has become acceptable in America to satisfy desires. And in America, it's easy to hide it. A woman can hide behind a nice career, a business suit and glasses and get a decent man without him knowing her past.
OP Cyprian 2 | 69  
17 Dec 2006 /  #50
usually I can too, but sometimes reading some of this generalization gets a bit
irritating.

if someone were to say that the reason why they are unapproachable is because
so many men screw them over, why bother?

this is a viscious cycle that happens daily all across the globe!
a fair generalization would be to say that most of the time men are only lookin
for a good time from young girls wouldnt you say so?

I get it now, your talking about Vancouver girls IE north american! gotcha!

yeah, Canada is a great Place to live isnt it?

I am really confused... what are you talking about and where are you going with anything you say... noone is screwing over anybody...wtf??? you have a relaly bad perseption on things, maybe because of the way u think u relaly do get screewed over.... or you just take it that way..... im personally seeing a few girls 2 of them im very close with and the others we are on and off... im not screwgin anyone over they are not screwqing me over... its all about communication... they know where i stand and i know where they stand............ the generalization is based on my experainces and what i have noticed is that when in europe, in asia....when i tlak to ppl not even neccesarly women but guys as well more ppl are responisive and are social.... im not a shy guy and i enjoy being aroudn ppl and meeting new ppl, however i have found that in north america the most comon way i meet girls is through other freinds, when i chat to ppl on the street i get lots of strange faces like im invading there privacy or seomthing its very strange, like i even hear ppl sayin who is that guy why is he talkin me what weirdo... when they are the weirdos because they cant communicate normally with another person.......

why am I afraid to approach women from North America?"

hahaah thats funny...... if anything i would be more nervous to appraoch a sexy european girl with personaitly then a sexy North american simple minded girl.

These viking women (swedish) and wanna-be viking women (finnish) are so full of themselves, thinking that they are the desire of every man in the world

Yes but arent they....Sweden proabbaly has the sexiest girls on the world by population, and there quiet educated and carry themselves very well... i love them and dont blame them for there attitudes.... whereas a stupid sexy northamerican girl who base their lives on mtv i try to challenge their belifes and make them question themselves.... like rellay who do these girls think they are

Maybe I was unlucky, but in the US I met many American girls, who behave like sluts.

U know it.... however i find the educated part a little wrong they may be book smart but when it comes to common sense many north american girls lack it

I know you dont, but the posts (tone) or Question of Why are Polish women
more Approachable. <~ did anyone run out of things to think of?

my mother always said to us growing up, if you have nothing good to say to
someone, dont say nothing at all.
the good old "silence is golden"

This thread wasnt to put down north american girls \.. even though i do think less of them... but its something i have noticed and was curious to hear other ppls opinoins..... hey cheer up lifes not that bad, u seem to be a very pessemistic person.... maybe some counselling would help :)
shewolf  
17 Dec 2006 /  #51
however i find the educated part a little wrong they may be book smart but when it comes to common sense many north american girls lack it

How do educated American girls lack common sense compared to women of other countries? Do you have examples?
OP Cyprian 2 | 69  
17 Dec 2006 /  #52
worldy knowledge... most european girls spealk more then 1 language and are intersted in learnign about other coutnries, cultures languges .. wheres as north ermican girls could relaly care less, and they just think they are the best but having nuthing behind that for them to even think they are so good.....ummm....met some girls here who , didnt know how to tip, how to take public transit,how to pump gas.. went through full service always, no sense of where they are when there driving or when ther out on the town they have to in familair seeting or around there frinsd becuase if there left alone there lost.... wouldnt think to look north for mountains which would give them a good understand of there location
shewolf  
17 Dec 2006 /  #53
lol. Seriously? Real airheads, then.
OP Cyprian 2 | 69  
17 Dec 2006 /  #54
yes.... more then just a few , quiet a lot of them actually.... the sadest thing is that for alot of them the way they empower themselves is through there looks and through sex... either by doing it or teasing... its so ridiculous... ive told a number of them get a personaltiy, coomon sense, and passion/ambition... some hate me for teling them that others love it because nooen else has ever told them that ..
shewolf  
17 Dec 2006 /  #55
ive told a number of them get a personaltiy, coomon sense, and passion/ambition

But if they do that, American men feel intimidated by them. Men can't stand a woman being smarter than them and they leave them for the stupid girl. Women sometimes have to act dumb and helpless to get a man and to avoid being alone.

Ambitious women are not considered marriage material.
OP Cyprian 2 | 69  
17 Dec 2006 /  #56
thats bad... women shouldnt do that at all.... thats silly on thier part to dumb themselves in order to be with someone... that just makes women dumb themselves because they dont realize that there only doing themselves damage and that if they hold off they could find someone equal to their intelligence

Ambitious women are not considered marriage material.

what u are soooo wrong....they are the sexiest women alive and the kind of woman i will marry...
shewolf  
17 Dec 2006 /  #57
It's hard to find love and equal intelligence at the same time. Sometimes you love someone who doesn't have the college degree and career and you want to be with them. And you just have to not show them that you know more than them.

what u are soooo wrong....they are the sexiest women alive and the kind of woman i will marry...

But you don't sound like you're American. That's the difference.

American men see ambitious women as competition, not wives.
OP Cyprian 2 | 69  
17 Dec 2006 /  #58
It's hard to find love and equal intelligence at the same time. Sometimes you love someone who doesn't have the college degree and career and you want to be with them. And you just have to not show them that you know more than them

if you say so... i would never do that and wouldnt expect that from my girlfreind especailly if i was to marry her... and your right im not american

erican men see ambitious women as competition, not wives.

Yea u maybe got me thinking abotu something ... like the behavious of american dudes may be the result or partial result to how american girls act to guys.......i personally would want to work with my lady for a common goal rather then compete i mean we are in it togther
shewolf  
17 Dec 2006 /  #59
It also sometimes starts with American fathers who treat their daughters like they aren't capable of doing things and like they need a man's help. Sometimes girls can do things better and faster than their fathers but their fathers insist on doing things for them. And fathers get hurt if their daughters don't let them help.

It's so common for an American father to insist on hooking up computers or DVD players or all other electronic things and assembling things like desks and whatever. And sometimes girls can do these things faster and better than their fathers but they learn not to show it.

.i personally would want to work with my lady for a common goal rather then compete i mean we are in it togther

Suppose the woman in your life has a Master's degree or higher, is the president of a big company and makes alot of money but you work for a small company, never get recognition in your job and make very little money. Would you still feel confident next to her? Would you be able to see her as an equal?
OP Cyprian 2 | 69  
17 Dec 2006 /  #60
Suppose the woman in your life has a Master's degree or higher, is the president of a big company and makes alot of money but you work for a small company, never get recognition in your job and make very little money. Would you still feel confident next to her? Would you be able to see her as an equal?

First off i doubt i would never get recognition for my work... as i usllly stand out.... and even if i was to make less then my lady..... money shoudl nt matter... its all about what each person give to the other mentally and physiclaly not monetraly......i still would, she obviously is with me because there i do something or give her soemthing that means more then money.... but with that money we could do something togther to better our situation

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