Foreigners in relationships with Poles - do your in-laws accept you?

Her loss another womans gain....

Im so glad that my parents have never put restrictions on who I have decided to date, not that I would have taken any notice....

I so, know where you are coming from.........

<smile> my parents died before I got married. I think for a lot of people, first marriages don't work out. My husband wasn't Polish. I nearly got married off at 16, like an arranged marriage..........:(

Wonder what nationality you will go for next <grin>

My parents have never put restrictions on me either. I have never met on/off's parents and probably wouldn't want to unless things become more serious (although if they were over here visiting I wouldn't avoid them). His friends accept me though and this is okay for me for now.

My parents used to hippies so for them - anything goes - lol :-)

LOLZ!!!

This was seven and a half years ago. ;)
There's been Polish, Lithuanian, Jewish and Jamaican since then. But like half the world, I still seek that Polish girl of my dreams - my parents have a lot to answer for!!!! :D


True!! He was an IT Consultant as well. So the last laugh was on me :D :D :D


Neither would I. Fortunately my parents attitude is "whatever makes you happy", but that doesn't stop them still trying to marry me off to someone in Poland lol :D

There is just no accounting for taste....

Yeah :)


Yeah :) I'm smiling for a reason. I think some of us want and need to go back to our Polish Roots !!

My parents died when I was in my early 20's they were right to a certain extent.....but you don't see that when you are so young :(

You are so correct, as were my parents. It's all about going back to my roots these days. :D

I dont actually get it since you were both born here and raised here, I know there must be Polish influences in your life - but I still dont get it - hey what do I know :)

It's more than that Amathyst. It's in your genes. It's sometimes difficult to explain. But it's lovely when you come across someone else who understands.

I've always felt I had no roots in the UK. But I was born here, speak impeccable English, my home is here but my genes are 100 % Polish.....:) If you can imagine that you were born in another country, with a different language but your parents brought you up in their culture. Maybe you could understand a bit. Being Polish and finding your roots is so very, very important <for me anyway>

Okay I understand to a certain degree, but I think environment influences you not your genes, they merely serve as "genetic make-up" what you look like etc.... not who you are as a person. Maybe its something you yearn for...

Lady in Red has already explained it better than I could. ;)

I think you are the perfect match for each other...you have my blessing...:D

<coffee-on-keyboard moment> :D :D :D

Obviously you would be more perfect for me but Im not Polish so I will stand aside and let LIR have you :)

Okay, let me write a bit more. It's true your environment influences you and in my case, the majority of my environment was at home with my parents (both polish ) who did everything Polish. Customs, traditions, food, language, polish church, polish saturday school etc etc My first language was Polish because we all spoke Polish at home. I only learnt about english food when I had school dinners.......I know I have a foot in both camps and I'm happy to have both but I don't really yearn for Polish things because I already am Polish. Does that make any more sense ?

I'll keep adding because it's nice to know you are interested :)


Lol Amathyst don't be silly :)

lol @ you two :D :D :D :D

Thats the lamest ever protest I have ever heard!!!


I am curious, but I think your post made me understand more...so your environment was Polish even though the outside world was one that was English...


Who said Im joking

I suppose I may as well add my bit.

I agree with the above, however I also feel influenced by my environment, in the sense that I have often felt out-of-place when I had to live or spend a lot of time in an all-white, all British environment, but do not find this when I am in Poland. I grew up in multi-racial inner cities/peripheral estates, however like LIR, our home was traditional Polish.

Because of my upbringing, I love Britain's multiculturalism, and dislike areas which are non-multicultural or where indigenous populations dominate. However, I love being in a Polish environment above all else.

(please note that this does NOT mean that I despise the British - this is not the case).

It's often the little things which really make you feel Polish - for example, if we invited a non-Pole to a Wigilia meal, they would probably enjoy it for what it is, but for us the evening has a very special atmosphere which is difficult to explain - it has to be felt.

I suspect that this makes no sense at all, but this is how I feel about my Polishness. :)


<unsubscribes and hides> :)

I wrote all that then didn't post because I thought someone else would add to the thread and I didn't want to dominate the board. ......I totally understand your thoughts on this :)

I loved it when I found this forum and some people started talking about pierogi <grin>

Are you sure you're not my twin brother <smile>


But you could learn all Polish things, like cooking, cleaning, sewing....going to church and having polish babies.........don't worry.......:)

<cheeky grin>

it's all about finding the right person anyway........u2 cud be the perfect match :)

Unfortunately, neither my sister nor my brother speak Polish (long story), so this is not possible. ;)

It does feel good to find someone else who feels the same. And it's good we have Polish Forums for that. I rarely mix with Polish people and I do miss that a lot.

I didn't realise how much till I came on this forum. I like the Polish zany sense of hunour too and all the other quirks. But I do still feel British in some ways too........my Polish is rusty just because I haven't spoken it for so long, but I can still read it and understand it totally when people speak it to me.

I'm glad this forum exists.........


we could have been separated at birth you know <joke>

I've often had doubts about my brother, so you never know <g> ;)

Lol.......now where has Amathyst gone..........you two were getting on so well.......:)

I've only been to Poland once. Have you been many times ?

I can do all those, I had a traditional English upbringing, I know my way around a kitchen and a sewing machine - as for the cleaning well every thing in its place and all that :)


To have a long soak,

LIR honestly you can have him, just think of the hours of fun talking about the different fillings of Perogi...lol

See :) There you go and you want babies too :)

Just make sure you invite me to the wedding and have pierogi at the reception......
but I'm not wearing a hat !!

<big smile>

I can give you some lessons on being Polish too.......no probs and am happy to help <grin>

Quite a few times, yes. Going again on Thursday, and again in September. :D

Do you like movies about gladiators? Have you ever been in a Turkish prison? :D :D

yeah.. sounds like a good idea........

I can think of better things to do than talking about fillings :)

but I'm not looking at the moment :(

night, night amathyst

Dont bother with the Polish I had lessons from a friend for 6 months......my best sentense is "I dont speak much Polish, Im English" impressive aye!

Nice. I'm going to go for a few months next year........I have it all planned.


No but one time when I was leaving a country, the chief of immigration called me into his office. the plane was due to leave in 30 minutes. I was scared (was a tin pot country) and all he wanted to know and he had never seen me before. was could he please have my phone number and address so he could contact me. I said, yes and gave him false details. I've never been so scared in all my life. Was a long time ago <grin>

What's your favourite number and what star sign are you ? What star sign are you Amathyst ?

Night :) Hope the migrain clears up properly