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My Polish boyfriend and his drinking habit.


PennBoy 76 | 2,432  
19 Feb 2009 /  #31
he sound like a d**k and an alkoholic, if he just stoped and thought for a min. if he had any maners whatsoever he would be embaresed apologize and wouldn't drink for a while to show u that he's not a raging alkoholic and is serious about wanting to be with u. he may be a nice guy deep down but its the alkohol making him do that hes not thinking straight, if he contines to it will only get worse, have a serious talk with him when he's sober, if he wont understand than he's a simple F**K and u shouldn't bother with him, there are plenty of better Polish guys out there for ya.
mephias 10 | 296  
19 Feb 2009 /  #32
How old is he ? When I was in early twenties, I was drinking like that without any reason. Even I lost a girlfriend because of that. Now I am around thirty and I drink repsonsibly. It was a youth stupidity for me. It was also fun for that ages I am not very regretful.

Of cours it could be worse if I was addicted.
Wroclaw Boy  
19 Feb 2009 /  #33
theres lots of drop him comments on here, maybe he needs some help. if you love him that much then try and give it a go.

I used to be a party animal aswell.
Seanus 15 | 19,672  
19 Feb 2009 /  #34
If it's a phase that he is going throughm then ok. Some are affected by Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD) and others have their own problems. Still, the rub-off effect on you is what you must consider. Does it distract you from your job? If so, move away maybe.
Wroclaw Boy  
19 Feb 2009 /  #35
Some are affected by Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD)

What! do me a favour, he just likes drinking down the pub with his mates. Nothing more.

If so, move away maybe.

I dont think she has to leave the country just yet.
Seanus 15 | 19,672  
19 Feb 2009 /  #36
Probably yes but he may be affected by something like SAD, who knows?

I meant move away as in put a bit of distance between themselves. A bit of breathing space helps.
ShelleyS 14 | 2,893  
19 Feb 2009 /  #37
Probably yes but he may be affected by something like SAD, who knows?

He'd be affected with a large baseball bat if he manhandled me and told me to clear his sick up ;-) We just have to face facts Seanus, some men are just arseholes...
Seanus 15 | 19,672  
19 Feb 2009 /  #38
Very true, but make that people
ShelleyS 14 | 2,893  
19 Feb 2009 /  #39
Sorry, my mistake, women are every bit as bad...
Seanus 15 | 19,672  
19 Feb 2009 /  #40
Well, it just depends what you believe. I don't believe the stories that many young Polish women get hammered that often. Many keep themselves in control. There is a lot of social pressure to perform so alcohol must be kept to a minimum.
ShelleyS 14 | 2,893  
19 Feb 2009 /  #41
Im not talking about drinking and I wasn't specifically aiming the "women" comment at Polish women it was women in general, it was also about behaviour and lack of respect for others in general.
Seanus 15 | 19,672  
19 Feb 2009 /  #42
Well, men take the lead on that one but the number of complaining old women really outnumbers that of complaining old men so that redresses the balance ;) ;)
sueswalkies 2 | 32  
19 Feb 2009 /  #43
It is my experience that polish men enjoy their drink, and when they are drunk they may say and do stupid things. Show your boyfriend these comments and if he agrees he was an asshole that night when he puked all over the place. Give him another chance but if he EVER GETS in that state again walk away, leave him alseep in the middle of the street if you have too. His drinking is not your problem its his.
Harry  
19 Feb 2009 /  #44
Give him another chance but if he EVER GETS in that state again walk away, leave him alseep in the middle of the street if you have too.

Bollocks to that. Drag the twat home via a curry house (fill up on spicy stuff) and a pharmacy (buy some Ex-Lax). Put the dickhead in bed, wait until he passes out, eat the Ex-Lax, park your guts on his chest and walk out leaving the muppet with a huge steaming turd on his chest.

Or just dump him before he has a chance to ever get drunk again.
OP Katy 1 | 3  
20 Feb 2009 /  #45
thanks for all the advice, you're great.. I've dumped him.. I just coulcn't face any more... it's been a couple of days and I feel very sad but free at the same time :0))). He's texted me and I've ignored it.. I deserve better than him!!
Misty 5 | 144  
20 Feb 2009 /  #46
Katy I think you did the right thing. You've been very strong. Keep ignoring him (use the block feature on your phone!) and you're right, you deserve much better than him. Good luck girl! :)
OP Katy 1 | 3  
20 Feb 2009 /  #47
I like your quote by oscar wilde misty :0) Thanks for the support, night night everyone xxx
wildrover 98 | 4,436  
20 Feb 2009 /  #48
I deserve better than him!!

Too dam right you do....there are lots of nice Polish guys around , and of course English guys too....Beer swilling apes do not make good partners , and the first time a guy lays a hand on you should be the last time....i wish you luck....
Randal 1 | 577  
20 Feb 2009 /  #50
I've dumped him

Good move, Katy. ;)
Harry  
20 Feb 2009 /  #51
I've dumped him.

Good work that woman!
Pinching Pete - | 554  
20 Feb 2009 /  #52
Katy I think you did the right thing. You've been very strong. Keep ignoring him

What the hell? How do you know he wasn't drinking because of her?
dtaylor 9 | 823  
20 Feb 2009 /  #53
Typical comment I'd expect from our Bostonian.
Harry  
20 Feb 2009 /  #54
I guess we just assume he's a bastard because he likes to booze once in awhile.

We assume he's a bastard for throwing up on her floor, refusing to clean it up because in his mind that is a woman's job, and for being violent with her.
JustysiaS 13 | 2,238  
20 Feb 2009 /  #55
I guess we just assume he's a bastard because he likes to booze once in awhile.

every night is not once in a while, it's alcoholism or at best binge drinking. plus he attacked the girl so yes it makes him a bastard and she's better off without him. you a 'casual' drinker and 'casual' female boxer like that yourself? is that why you're defending him?

edit: i know, you're defending him to annoy all the 'limeys'
Pinching Pete - | 554  
20 Feb 2009 /  #56
is that why you're defending him?

I'm defending because we don't know his side of the story.
JustysiaS 13 | 2,238  
20 Feb 2009 /  #57
by the sounds of it i'm pretty sure we can guess his side of the story. if like you said he was drinking because of her, which is quite a rubbish comment by the way, he wouldn't be sick in her flat, make her clean it up and push her around if she refused. he would just dump her. they've been together for a couple of months, not a couple of decades.
Randal 1 | 577  
20 Feb 2009 /  #58
We have folks who always insist on blaming the victim here in the US too.
pawian 223 | 24,567  
20 Feb 2009 /  #59
So it wasn`t true love after all.....

I think I am gonna cry..... :(:(:(
k98_man  
22 Feb 2009 /  #60
That sounds horrible. Dump his ass on the street. If he cannot respect you he is not worthy of you.

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