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Polish people start families at early age-how true is this?


Debianco 19 | 111  
14 May 2008 /  #1
a polish (female) friend of mine is 31 and she feels in poland she will have difficulty finding a polish guy as she says she is considered "old" and it is an expectation to Start a family in late teens early 20's -she comes from rural poland and has a large family most who still live and work in the same village-she came to england to study and now work-though she loves poland-she feels uncomfortable because of this. she has 6 siblings and her brother who is 33 and unattached feels he has no chance in poland and he is coming to england to work and live because of this stigma-i find this incredible early 30's is not old many people in englnad not starting a family till mid-late 30's. so is this true about you are "old" when 30 to start a family in poland?
miranda  
14 May 2008 /  #2
well, they already told you how the situation is when it comes to rural Poland.

I am not sure why you need reassurance.
ShelleyS 14 | 2,893  
14 May 2008 /  #3
Whilst in England people like to say, yeah it's okay for a woman / man to be unattached and childless in her / his mid to late 30s, it's not, there is still stigma attached to it over here, try going to a family wedding and getting those sympathetic looks or people trying to work out "is she / he or isn't she / he"...it's the same everywhere....but I imagine it's so much worse in rural areas in any part of the world....
OP Debianco 19 | 111  
14 May 2008 /  #4
I am not sure why you need reassurance.

i dont need any reassurance i think it is sad and wrong to be made to feel "bad" about such things
brian1411 3 | 12  
15 May 2008 /  #5
I know a few Polish couple and they all started there families when they were in there teens or early 20's. But one female I know who was 27, her parents were scared she was not going to have any childern as it was normal for people to have childern at a young age. I might also had that some of the people I know who had childern at a young age are now divorced or seperated and single parents..
telefonitika  
15 May 2008 /  #6
i dont need any reassurance i think it is sad and wrong to be made to feel "bad" about such things

its called cultural differences in every society each culture has its own differences to another .... what might be deemed acceptable in one may be frowned upon in another ...

might also had that some of the people I know who had children at a young age are now divorced or separated and single parents..

precisely some people rush into things at the time thinking its the right thing for them to do but then find out its a different kettle of fish entirely .....

But i know loads of polish people who are single and 25years old and above that aren't looking to settle down just yet or have been in a long term relationship and it has just fazed out over time ..... and dont have any children or want them till after they are 30 years old
OP Debianco 19 | 111  
3 Jun 2008 /  #7
so is this true about you are "old" when 30 to start a family in Poland?

it would appear you are considered "old" this was my question- i know there are "cultural" differences but as more and more professional polish people become socially mobile and a different attitude is experienced-this seems to cause conflict-which is unfortunate
esek 2 | 228  
3 Jun 2008 /  #8
I'm 23yr male from Poland and I'm not going to get married until 30 :D No way.... career is more important for me. Ok, but I have to say that it is nothing unusual when you see a couple - 30yr old guy with 20yr old girl, but it is (rather) unusual to see 20yr old guy with 30yr old woman :D What can I say.... that's the way it is :)
Switezianka - | 463  
23 Jun 2008 /  #9
I guess it's the matter of the social background.
In a farming family a girl at the age of 21 may be urged to look for a husband, but in a big city family a 21-year-old girl will be demanded to study and not even think of marriage. My friend who comes from a small village in the mountains told me that there, most of girls in their early twenties are determined to find a husband as soon as possible. But if I (I'm 22) told my parents I'm going to get married soon, they'd say I'm nuts and I should think of graduating and finding a proper job first. Polish society is not homogeneous.
Wahldo  
23 Jun 2008 /  #10
30yr old guy with 20yr old girl

Woo... hoo!
bluebird - | 36  
24 Oct 2008 /  #11
A Women ability to have children starts to drop-off when she hits 27. After that, it becomes increasingly difficult to conceive.

If you want a big family, you need to start young.

Men can keep on trucking until they kick the bucket.

25 is probably the cut-off if you want a few kids.

75 if you're a bloke.
Seanus 15 | 19,706  
24 Oct 2008 /  #12
Aha, that seems to be a very precise time frame. When she hits 27, goddamn, my girl will be 27 in 3 months, I'd better get a move on.

I'm panicking now ;)
polishcanuck 7 | 462  
24 Oct 2008 /  #13
is 31 and she feels in poland she will have difficulty finding a polish guy as she says she is considered "old"

I always hear my family say things like this. Here in canada the average age of marriage is somewhere around 30-32 (i read it in the paper some time ago). In poland a women at that age is considered "unwanted" - i often hear "nikt ją nie weźmie", "nobody will take her/want her". I always get asked, "so when are you getting married", "when will you start having kids" etc. Drives me nuts!

Oh well, i guess its just cultural differences at work.

I'm panicking now ;)

haha It's coming bud, there's no way out of it! :)
Wroclaw 44 | 5,386  
24 Oct 2008 /  #14
A Women ability to have children starts to drop-off when she hits 27. After that, it becomes increasingly difficult to conceive.

This will come as sad news to a large number of modern Poles who marry a year or two after leaving university... when they are about twenty-seven years old.

Men can keep on trucking until they kick the bucket.

From what I've read recently... this isn't exactly true.
gtd 3 | 639  
24 Oct 2008 /  #15
Even a lot of Warsaw city girls feel that if they aren't hooked up by 25 they are in trouble. I have heard it commonly. I guess it is true that the older you get the less options you have as more and more of your peers will be married etc.
polishgirltx  
24 Oct 2008 /  #16
i must say that all my Polish girl friends get married pretty late... late 20s...

When she hits 27, goddamn, my girl will be 27 in 3 months, I'd better get a move on.

you didn't propose yet?
:)
gtd 3 | 639  
24 Oct 2008 /  #17
We men don't have it easy either...there comes a point when we just look like dirty old men no matter how sweet our intentions. If we are not married before we get too old we are labeled as well.
polishgirltx  
24 Oct 2008 /  #18
we just look like dirty old men no matter how sweet our intentions.

ahem...that's.. ahem...encouraging.... thanks

;)
gtd 3 | 639  
24 Oct 2008 /  #19
I didn't say we all WERE dirty old men.

I have good hygiene...and shave my face generally and my armpits to reference another thread ;) and not THAT old but life is hard on a guy too ;( Women can't take all the pity.
joepilsudski 26 | 1,389  
24 Oct 2008 /  #20
VERY TRUE: A YOUNG POLISH COUPLE

Helena & Wladziu from Wroclaw, Age 12 & 11, respectively.

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