Return PolishForums LIVE
  PolishForums Archive :
Posts by Ksysia  

Joined: 6 May 2009 / Female ♀
Last Post: 1 Feb 2011
Threads: Total: 25 / In This Archive: 9
Posts: Total: 430 / In This Archive: 141

Speaks Polish?: yes
Interests: carp fish :)

Displayed posts: 150 / page 1 of 5
sort: Latest first   Oldest first   |
27 Dec 2009
Genealogy / I'm Polish and Russian but there's drama.... [14]


I think the spelling is Modzelewski. You are looking for Józef Modzelewski.

there are other popular sites -,,
It's worth looking in other countries as well, because we Poles are extremely mobile. You can have family in Australia, Argentina, Britain, and RSA, why not.
15 Dec 2009
Food / Hello! Need help with a Polish recipe (quick, and easy to prepare) [8]

At home if I need food really fast, the best thing is to fry breaded pork chops - it really takes a moment, and they keep out of the fridge, too, for a day.

take pork chops, slice them in two thin halves,
beat on a board (place a wooden board on the corner of the table, well supported by one leg, on a towel. put a slice of pork on the board and gently hammer. it's to tenderize rather than make noise)

on a plate break two eggs and beat them ligtly with a fork, with salt and pepper
ready a second plate with flour
and third plate with bread crumbs
put the pork on the flour, then egg, then bread, to cover it up
put on a hot pan with oil
fry slowly until very well done, and nicely brown, without turning a lot - only flip once
dry on a paper towel and keep covered, they will be good tomorrow

you can do the same with chicken breasts, slice it to the same thickness, less than a centimeter
12 Dec 2009
Life / 3 Things I LOVED about Poland [58]


that's right, sobieski, everyone who so much as utters the word 'normal' is a bigot and fascist. where does that leave you? as a fascist hunter - you are a bolshevik.
10 Dec 2009
Life / Consider going back to Poland? [90]

I don't consider UK home, even though I like it in general. I miss Poland terribly. I even miss the dirty winter streets, with mud from under the buses spraying on my coat. It's that bad.
9 Dec 2009
UK, Ireland / Poland vs. UK - how the manners differ [48]

Dont invite her in.

Can't. She wanted to be my friend when nobody else did, she was the first person, along with her husband, that we got along with. She is just a bit silly at the moment.

don't like ie: to sit around the dinner table without their shoes on or barefoot (if during summer) and it is a good manner to respect that.

two points
- at her home she always asked everyone to take off shoes
- none of us uses the table, we use pillows on the floor and mine is wooden. so it's actually more comfortable to take the blasted 6 in heels of black lacquered leather OFF.
8 Dec 2009
UK, Ireland / Poland vs. UK - how the manners differ [48]

Some families, like mine, take their shoes off when entering a house but it's more widespread in Poland. That suits me just fine as I had to do it in Japan all the time. It's very much a rule there, not an option.

That's admirable, Seanus! we have that custom as well. And all the emigrant bunch around does... except one: she recently got a payrise and stopped taking the shoes off. It must be that she read in a newspaper that posh people don't take shoes off. Nevermind.

Posh aside, have you got any ideas how can I get the newly rich to take her shoes off again? Asking directly is not helping, she ignores me.
8 Dec 2009
UK, Ireland / Poland vs. UK - how the manners differ [48]

As I understand the Anglophone side, there are complaints that:
- we don't have the custom of holding the door for them.. which is true, and yes, I am used to it now and do it. It doesn't hurt me and might even be nice. But originally we only have a custom of males doing that for females and not just behind one's back but standing to the side.

- we look at people. which is true, and I look at people. I don't agree with your version, I don't think it's rude and will continue to do it.

- we do have a custom of saying thanks, but not like the British quick 'cheers' used as our 'dobra dobra' and 'no super'. in fact 'cheers' and 'ta' are rude in my opinion, it's brushing off the other person. I use thanks.

- guys don't give enough gifts and meals out. that one is deeply cultural. you know what kind of women take gifts - not hook3rs, but moneymaker fiancées.

there might be others, feel free to rant.

Now let me present you with the Polish side, the opinions of my acquaintances, colleagues, friends and my humble self:

bad things:
- the table manners are bad in the UK, better in the US. Americans don't chomp so horribly. Brits like especially a packet of crisps, especially when it's quiet in the office, and while sitting behind one's back and with GLEE. I also don't know how do you speak so articulately with mouth full, and does the plate really need such forceful poking?

- gossip is rampant - not that we don't have it, but it's done differently.
- rudeness towards pedestrians while driving is life-threatening.
- some people don't realize that the person who enters the last, greets everyone first. they expect me to greet them, when I'm sitting inside! I politely smile and look and wait patiently. It might be due to some feudal laws of superiority or leftist bs. We in all honesty have had it as well, when a woman in the previous system would greet a man first, just because she worked for him. one argument against working women.

-telling on one another. haven't happened to me personally.
-the introductions never happen. you're left to fend for yourself.
-they ask for higher prices from foreigners. just this Sunday I paid £25 for a wreath, while it costed £15.. no matter, she can have a Christmas gift from me.

good things:
-thank you notes. I love that custom, it's so considerate.
-politeness towards other cars while driving
-small talk - we've lost that one.
-cashier packing your shopping
-customer service will at least pretend they are bothered
-shop assistants are nice and polite
-foreign people are never trying to force an invitation, at least not to my humble hut.
-they are insistent on paying cash for petrol after a longer ride, even though I didn't ask for it.
8 Dec 2009
Life / Do Poles Lack in Social Skills and Etiquette? [74]

Rather than cough and splutter or clear his throat

he expected people would knock. I once taught a school of American teenagers to KNOCK simply by doing just that every single time. Before they would just pull on the handle, and of course sometimes the lock was broken.
6 Dec 2009
Life / Polish culture - know your place. 'They ignore me completely' aspect. [17]

OK, a short discussion about Polish culture, why not. 'They ignore me completely' aspect.

I'm sure you have noticed already that people who come from humbler backgrounds in Poland do not want to talk too much, and generally stick to themselves.

Yes, they are. So is everyone else.

People will usually act along the lines of the old sayings:

ciągnie swój do swego - like attracts like.
nie pchaj się gdzie cię nie chcą - don't go where you're not wanted.
świń razem nie pasaliśmy - I haven't grazed pigs with you

Now, it looks as though if humble people don't want to talk to you, you get offended. But I say that you should NOT. If somebody is humble, they often are shy as well - of being not verbose, worldly, cultured etc. I, and ordinary city girl from £ódź, get that as well - if I'm dressed in a particularly lilac summer dress, people on the tram will not tell me on which stop to get out.

Why don't they want to talk to you? Well, for starters, dear Forumers, if you are interested in foreign cultures, then you are worldly already. And they are not. They are quietly backwater, simple, ordinary and obscure - and liking it.

In the 19th century, Wyspianski the playwright wrote 'Wesele', with the famous line: 'co tam, Panie, w polityce?', 'what 'o, Sir, in the Politics?'. The intelligentsia were dumbfounded - so the simple people take interest in Politics? The simple people noted the dumbfounded-ness. Then came the carnages of the 20th century. Simple people became the masters and really showed what they can do.

So now there are three societies, along the lines of former 'stany', and a little similar to 'class', but not based on money. There are the countryside people, majority in Poland, who are church goers and really as natural as you can have them, walking around in their torn underpants. There are the two city states - the aloof ones, intelligentsia, who keep to themselves, upon introduction ask: 'how many languages do you speak' to set up the rank, and live off their brains. And all the rest, sometimes called 'blokersi, but in most cases zawodówka pupils, hairdressers, steel traders, etc. Many a time the steel trader is far richer than a journalist, but belongs to the simpler crowd.

So, the simpler crowd, encountering a foreign speaker, removes the contact tentacles. And you, Forumers, even if you are English working class, are foreign speakers and may be cut off, so that you are not given a chance of imposing your tongue-speaking self.


enough of those ramblings... my Carmenere is almost gone...
6 Dec 2009
Life / Why are Polish people so ruthless? [87]

stop peddling such drivel Ksysia when all it amounts to is childish lies on your part

I'm sorry - what lies? analizing your writing is now a lie? why post then?

You do not know me

the second statement is just the perfect statement to watch in a cheap film about vengeful perv office admins...

I'm just waiting for a comment from you like that: 'I expected an apology from this forum but since I haven't received one I will fire a Pole'... luckily you are not a manager...
6 Dec 2009
Life / Why are Polish people so ruthless? [87]

of course guys who do good exist, Seanus!

This one however so much resembles HR ladies in the old system! Pani z Kadr is something like Post Office lady - no you can't take your hols!

I admire your positive attitude, but on this occasion he specifically mentioned that he 'fell in love' with a woman in a relationship, started doing favours to her peer group, and stopped doing those favours when he receives a negative message. He also says that other people he didn't fall in love with, Slovakians I think, had not received such favours and have not changed their attitude.

Dear Seanus - you are very good, but I think that demanding very personal favours in exchange for work favours in wrong.
6 Dec 2009
Life / Why are Polish people so ruthless? [87]

Honey - are you female? Your writing feels female, I'm not sure why you are calling yourself AnglikMan?

Let me explain something to you - you have indicated that you are using your job on your whim, if you like someone - you will amend the timesheet system for them, even though your employment term prohibit you to do so. If you don't like someone, you will not amend. This is a sign of very low morality, you are using resources that aren't even yours to please your ego. Now you proudly write that you took your own little vengeance at work.

It is the same level of low morality as to hold someone's pay cheque in the system too long, so that they have a late pay day, 'because I can'.

Reading that, I have no more doubts that I would not associate with you either.
6 Dec 2009
Life / 3 Things I LOVED about Poland [58]

yes, they are. they are also slim, smiling, helpful, church-going, married, into sports, cheerful and their command of English is delightful. they are simply... normal people. they even cook at home.
6 Dec 2009
Life / Why are Polish people so ruthless? [87]

Hold on ppl, we have another fact here - the object of the poster's platonic? love moved back to Poland. I thought from the first post that her boyfriend was jealous? Is that supposed to mean that a Polish woman in some obedience fad suddenly quit a job because her bf told her to? That bit just does not sound plausible.

Are you the Timmy type, AnglikMan? Timmy from my work is always very helpful, if I speak to someone about finding the route to somewhere, he hands me a map print out. If I walk past him, his eyes are always there to meet mine etc. He might think he's helpful, but I'm tired of Timmy listening to my conversations with other people. Was that anything along that line?

And that does not explain why did she move to Poland - unless you want to say that you trampled on her.

And that does not explain what does the rest of Poles do in the story?

And what is her best friend doing? Is she acting normal or chatting you up?
4 Dec 2009
Life / Toilet Signs in Poland and Continental Europe [18]

haha, not pagan!

The triangle is male and circle is female - imagine moving the triangle towards the circle, one enters the other (to be lewd) and there, it's obvious.

We kinda thought that it was so universal, like arrow pointing in the direction. The ideas resembles the modernist, utilitarian,or conceptual - whichever. It may have to do with overly educated students of the twenties translating the knowledge of anatomy, the shape of the pelvis, to symbols.
4 Dec 2009
Life / Why are Polish people so ruthless? [87]

... wait a minute - every Pole in the company has just stopped talking to you??? If you don't know what is the problem, then this may be a gossip problem. There is a piece of gossip about you that they believe and decided to stay away from you for example. Why not get the one who speaks to you drunk and have them spill the beans?