Love / Breaking Up Is Hard To Do, Especially In Another Language! [46]

Not helpful plk...

(oh and admin, feel free to move this to the translate forum if you feel it necessary, was in two minds which one to put it in)

That is along the right lines I will admit. However it's less the fact that I like my freedom, I would be willing to make sacrifices, it's just she seems to be changing and becoming more moany, I can understand her want to come but she is becoming very possesive and needy and the spark is gone...i doubt it would be rekindled by her coming here. So I am looking for something a bit more sensitive to tell her and maybe a bit more of an explanation.

Love / Breaking Up Is Hard To Do, Especially In Another Language! [46]

We are gradually getting there. I am not sure if the Polish-English translation is just coming off sounding a little brash. I don't dislike the girl, I just don't like her enough any more to warrant her coming here. I feel she is owed a decent explanation. I know I don't want to make the mistakes that my ex made with me because I know how miserable it made me. Those were a)dragging me to another country before leaving me and b)never giving me a half decent explanation as to why this was happening all she could muster was "It's just how I feel, I can't explain any more"...but left too many questions unanswered so always (and still) left me asking "Why?".

I feel this girl, as she has done no wrong, really deserves quite a full and sensitive explanation. I think that's fair don't you?

Having never been in a situation like this it's a struggle, really looking for something that explains everything without leaving any questions while not sounding too brash (sorry seanus).

Love / Breaking Up Is Hard To Do, Especially In Another Language! [46]

I was a sufferer of this myself when I came to Poland, just didn't work out which was heartbreaking as I had moved country for the girl. So what I want to say is:

I think we need to end things. Things started out as a nice idea but it kept snowballing and now I feel the only fair way is to end things here before they get too far. I know what it's like being in a foreign country with no friends and nothing to hold onto just wishing that I had just stayed at home. However I don't want you to suffer like I did. I just don't think it will work out, for a start the boss has hired his cousin for the kitchen and so there are only front of house vacancies which requires fluent english. So if you came you would not be working with me and would be in a very foreign environment. Secondly I find myself lying to you and telling you that I am working when I am actually not just to avoid the fallout of you getting on at me to be more sensible and stay at home to talk to you. Thirdly I thought the language barrier would not be such a big deal, but it really is. I am finding it hard to communicate and I see that as a flagstone in a relationship. I really doubt we could make this work over here and I know you banked your hopes on this, but I just can't see it working. I can see myself resenting the fact that you don't want me going out to the pub or having time alone with myself and you don't want to be stranded here with no-one...or worse, stuck in job with someone who has just broke up with you having to see them every day and worse, living in the same house. I feel too much pressure on me to be this knight in shining armour that you want, but that's just not me. I am a young lad that has still to find his feet and, as such, I don't think I can go for your ideas of settling down and having a family after a quick few holidays. I am truly sorry, but it's for the best in the long run.

Bit long winded I know, but I don't want her having to ask questions which I can't understand and answer for her. I know that was the hardest part for me, never getting a proper explanation. I am awaiting a few of the females to have a go and call me all the names under the sun for being such a turd...but hey, you gets what you sows...and this was truly a situation I should have dealt with at the time instead of letting it fester away and become a huge problem.

Thanks for any help folks :)

Or something that get's that message across but is more concise, or a site that I can get that acurately translated would be good.

Love / Breaking Up Is Hard To Do, Especially In Another Language! [46]

Look, I am just trying to be nice, the girl has done nothing wrong. The spark has just gone and it would be cruel to bring her here and then leave her. I don't dislike her and, as such, I don't want to just tell her to go and take a jump. I didn't realise I would start a Translation war. Anyone got a website for a company that can translate what I want to say...I really need it quick.

Love / Breaking Up Is Hard To Do, Especially In Another Language! [46]


Thanks for that, that's what I thought as well. I am a nice person, the girl hasn't really done anything wrong and I don't dislike her. The spark has just gone. I was wondering...did you add the translation later or am I going blind in my old age?

Food / Menu suggestions for a Polish/Scottish night. [89]

If you are not a fan of Scotch Broth then how about Cock-a-Leekie?

Food / Menu suggestions for a Polish/Scottish night. [89]

I would have thought pierogi with haggis would have been nicer than gołąbki, i can't imagine the cabbage going as well with the haggis. That's just my opinion though.

Cock-a-leekie is nice, similar texture to Scotch Broth but a bit lighter.

I worked in a Scottish resaurant for 5 years so I will rack my brains and think of anything that would combine nicely with polish food or would be something appealing to the polish palete.

Food / Menu suggestions for a Polish/Scottish night. [89]


Along that sort of theme you could go with Black Pudding and Kaszanka...essentially the same dish but done differently.

Life / Is drinking water in Poland good? [96]

I spent 4 months drinking out the tap in Kraków and I was fine.

Love / Whose Life is it? Polish girlfriend under family "house arrest" [224]

I remember reading that you can record someone in order to secure an arrest or to claim intent. However without their permission it cannot be used as evidence in court. However if you put it on speaker phone as well as record it then have a friend there with you then the recording can be used to verify your friend's (as a witness) statement and add more of a punch to that.

Think outside the box law boys. For everything there is a loophole.

Love / Whose Life is it? Polish girlfriend under family "house arrest" [224]

Exactly, then you can also use the recording in court, not as evidence but to verify the witness statement is true.

All this knowledge from someone who's never been arrested...i must have been a detective or a severe criminal in a previous life.

Life / Is drinking water in Poland good? [96]

You could say that about Glasgow (and scotland it is common knowledge that the tap water is safe and nice), in the West End the water is from Loch Katrine so that's nice. In parts of the south and the north west, you get your water from Loch Lomond and that's awesome tasting water. However in the City Centre you get resevoir water which is rank and I wouldn't drink it.

Love / Whose Life is it? Polish girlfriend under family "house arrest" [224]

See if this girl is being totally honest with Irish chap, I would love to see him get that bawbag of an ex of hers up in court. See how big a man he is then.

Love / Whose Life is it? Polish girlfriend under family "house arrest" [224]


I missed that bit, am I going blind??

Life / Is drinking water in Poland good? [96]

I had someone come into the bar one morning after they were in the night before rather drunk and they had the cheek to complain:

Customer: I think there is a problem with your ice machine filter.
Me *thinking that they had found something in an ice cube*: I'm dreadfully sorry, what do you think seems to be the problem?
Customer: Well you put ice in all my drinks last night and I am feeling slightly naucious this morning...are you sure that it is properly filtering the tap water, I have heard that's not good to drink?

Me: Well sir, contrary to popular belief, the tap water is quite safe, I have been drinking it for the past 3 months, plus our ice machine is serviced monthly to ensure optimum cleanliness. Could it perhaps have been something you ate over the last few days? Or perhaps jetlag, that can cause stomach upsets.

Customer: Yes, that must be it. *hastily leaves*

How to call someone hungover politely :)

Love / Whose Life is it? Polish girlfriend under family "house arrest" [224]


If he needs us, and knows where to find us, he could always call:

The PF Team!

Love / Whose Life is it? Polish girlfriend under family "house arrest" [224]


Do you have a mate that is more of a nut-case than him?

Come on, we all do, the person that we go out for pints with but never really go out with because you know they will take offence at someone looking at them and go loopy and batter them.

If you have a mate like that then good stuff, if not, then find one or get the gardai mega involved. Show them the texts, let them you know are fearing for your safety and they will make sure this dafty gets no-where near you.

If she really wants to come back can you contact her without other people knowing? If she still have stuff in Ireland can you not get a ticket sorted, tell her the date and time and she can run off?

Food / Why do Poles just not "understand" healthy eating ?? [82]


That's exactly what I was thinking. There was an article in the Observer Food Monthly yesterday about the British Middle Class "Myth" about healthy eating. Basically what we are doing is unbalancing our meals resulting in a much less healthy diet.

People sit about going "Oh you can't eat that, there's too much fat in it"...fat is not a bad thing, just don't overdo it.

Food / Why do Poles just not "understand" healthy eating ?? [82]

a wee tip for your lemon woes (that i learned from years of working in cocktail bars) is get a bit of light material or a seive and squeeze the lemon through that...all the juice and no pips :)

Food / Why do Poles just not "understand" healthy eating ?? [82]


I wouldn't say so, I do the same with lime...use it for everything!


Aberdeen Angus is bloody marvellous beef. It actually really annoys me when places in Glasgow serve Kobe beef...such a waste of a great raw material we have.

American beef is really nice, you won't find it in many places in Europe because they use growth hormones which are illegal here. It's bloody lovely though, really tender.

Food / Why do Poles just not "understand" healthy eating ?? [82]

I never found deep fried fish in Poland. Basically traditional fish and chips is healthy enough if you don't eat the chips or the batter. That's what keeps the fat.

I would say that Polish food is much healthier than british, it's the balance in the Polish diet. Yes, there is a good amount of fat. But the problem in the British diet is that fat is seen as such a bad thing and so have replaced it with carbs. Carbs give short term energy so if you don't use them quickly then they will turn to fat. If you eat fat then it's long term energy, it keeps you full for longer and you have all day use it up. There is no balance in the UK.

Food / Why do Poles just not "understand" healthy eating ?? [82]


All the better for you. Carbs are a food for a different lifestyle. If you are in hospitality or an athelete or work in a physically demanding job then carbs are great. Office workers getting pasta for lunch is a terrible idea.

The fact that a british person started this thread when we have one of the highest obesity rates in Europe...i personally found that hilarious.

Love / Why are polish men so damned complicated? [53]


neer heard of AIDS love?

Love / Whose Life is it? Polish girlfriend under family "house arrest" [224]


this is the sort of thing that is always playing in the back of my mind...if she has the freedom to call her boss or him...then why is she not coming back? It does make me think she is hiding something from Ireland...

Life / WHY POLISH PEOPLE DON'T USE THEIR NATIVE FIRST NAME WHEN ABROAD? [136]


I'm not sure i agree...people struggled with my name in work (Iain) and it got changed just to Jan instead which isn't much different just removes a syllable

Life / WHY POLISH PEOPLE DON'T USE THEIR NATIVE FIRST NAME WHEN ABROAD? [136]


Surely a decent and polite person would learn to pronounce it...

Life / what is the most common and the most beautiful name in Poland? [58]


I hated being called Jacek in Poland!

Life / WHY POLISH PEOPLE DON'T USE THEIR NATIVE FIRST NAME WHEN ABROAD? [136]

So what's your first name then...if it's Nikttaki then where on earth is that from?

Travel / Krakow information: looking for pubs/clubs for students. [22]


I had quite nice Gołąbki in a place on Karmelicka about a 10 min walk from the main square.

Food / Where to buy Cheddar in Warsaw? [57]

If I'm going for a cheddar I go for a nice Tobermory Truckle Cheddar from mull...it's only a few hours away from me and the Deli across the road from me sells it cheap. Really strong and tasty...specially on the outside.