Life / When in Poland, should I be British or Scottish? [104]

It has been known to happen on occaision...but luckily Krakow isn't quite as windy as the highlands so I should be fine...the only exposing of myself will be drunken ladies lifting it up.

Life / When in Poland, should I be British or Scottish? [104]

I can't answer on behalf of every Scottish guy. But I know that me and the guys I worked with (when we worked in kilts) never wore underwear. And there are plenty of reasons: a)it's a talking point, b)a kilt is 3 layers of thick wool, it's hot, the last thing you want is another layer down there and c)it saves washing a pair of underwear (very handy when you do a lot of partying and spend little time in your own house).

Life / When in Poland, should I be British or Scottish? [104]

Of course not, just jump into a loch from time to time...

...we know you girls like a good bit of man smell.

(right, i almost made myself sick there haha)

Life / When in Poland, should I be British or Scottish? [104]

Move along people, nothing to see here.

Life / When in Poland, should I be British or Scottish? [104]

Right, now my post doesn't make sense...I am gonna have to do some editing now!

I have been told they wear kilts in Ireland too...although never really seen it. I love it though...it's a great item of clothing...keeps you cool in summer, warm in winter, looks good and shows off a bit of national pride.

Mon the kilts!

Life / When in Poland, should I be British or Scottish? [104]

Ha! Well now you know how it feels!

Anyway yeah, back on topic...i would call myself Scottish before British...just because I feel British as more formal.

Love / English Husband, Polish Wife... Going out together/not together? [35]

Talk to her, tell her you understand why she might be threatened with the thought of you going off with another woman because she has been cheated on before. But you are not that man and, as much as you love her, you can't be denied a life of your own because of her paranoia. She needs to trust you and let you have your own life as well with your friends.

If not it's likely you will end up resenting her and buggering off with some filly anyway.

Love / do polish girls consider a english man a good catch ? [126]

Exactly, I think that's a major thing. How many times have you heard of the Polish person coming over to the UK, starting a relationship only for it to mysteriously end just before the person goes back to Poland and loses contact forever? Coincidence...I doubt it...getting into a marriage too early and wanting to see what the other side of things is like while you are away from home and responsibility...much more likely.

I have to clarify, I am a very bitter person and this is not an attack at the Polish people. Just you can't turn round and say that English people are often gulty of cheating when it's just as common for Polish people to do it.

Life / Where can I buy very soft Toilet Paper in Poland? [47]

I will check that out cheers. Either that or I could buy some hardcore Tesco Value brown stuff and just get used to it!

Love / do polish girls consider a english man a good catch ? [126]

Well said Seanus...that was pretty much what I wanted to say...but I got into a bit of a rant because I'm not well and so turned temporarily bitter.

Life / Where can I buy very soft Toilet Paper in Poland? [47]

Really? I found even the really cheap co-op stuff back home was much softer even than the most expensive stuff I could find here.

To be honest I am not that fussed...I lived in Indonesia where it was those 1ply shiny napkins as toilet paper in most places.

It was more a curiosity.

Love / do polish girls consider a english man a good catch ? [126]

Cos I am in hospitality and I had food poisoning from that bloody TVL Pizza I have to take today off as well until I feel totally 100% which is fair enough...but it does mean having to do a couple of 18 hour shifts later in the week to make up for lost hours which is a nightmare.

Yeah and english guys eh...quite a catch...(trying in vain to stay on topic!)

Life / Where can I buy very soft Toilet Paper in Poland? [47]

Why do they have 2 types of toilet paper in the house? Is it one for family and friends and one for any workies that drop by?

Life / Where can I buy very soft Toilet Paper in Poland? [47]

Hahaha, well there is that law now in Scotland that means that you need to let ANYONE that asks to use your toilet (under the 2007 Ramblers Rights laws) so maybe that's why. But if they are in a relatively built up part of Inverness (I say built up...but in relation to say...Furnace) then that's unlikely to be a problem.

Or possible repenting...that's a funny image actually.
"What's that, you had ill thoughts about our neighbour's daughter...that's it...2nd toilet paper for the next week...and I am hiding the quilted stuff!"

Life / Where can I buy very soft Toilet Paper in Poland? [47]

Well up North there will still be quite a contingient of the Wee Free kicking about no doubt. I remember heading off to the islands with some mates on a Sunday camping and the pubs were shut...I was raging!

Love / English Husband, Polish Wife... Going out together/not together? [35]

I can see the problem from both sides. You and his friends don't get on so if you go along with him then you will feel left out, but so will he because he can't spend time with his friend (obviously a very close one if it was his best man) on his birthday. So he is thinking if he goes along himself then it will be better. But you don't want to be left alone.

Personally I would say that maybe he should go off to this event himself, let him enjoy his night, he will really appreciate the fact that you are understanding. Then have a night out together in the near future so it's all about you two.

In future when there's nights out there's little more you can do than keep persevering with his friends. If they don't like you then they don't like you, you can't change that, but your husband will see you are making an effort and will defend you to his friends and explain to them that you are making an effort and they should be too.

There's no real quick fix, you two need to talk a lot about this, about how the two of you feel. It's not unsolvable...just needs lots of communication.

Life / HAND-KISSING WANING IN POPULARITY? [29]

Yeah, the face kissing thing is a major minefield for me. Back home girls I know well would get one kiss on the left cheek and a hug. Over here on my birthday I got 3 from my manager...and it was slightly awkward cos I didn't really know how many I was going for...so I was kind of hesitant inbetween seeing if she was going again, then i got into the rhythm and it stopped.

It's a struggle!

News / British food exports to Poland up 53% [43]

Marmite is just girly Bovril. Now that's a drink/seasoning/toast topping and a half!

Love / Little advice please - another guy called my Polish fiance beautiful. [47]

To be honest it's a tough one. On the one hand you shouldn't have seen the message or read it and so there is little you can really do without it causing an issue. However you have read it and now it has made you a bit paranoid.

To be honest I would think that was a slightly innapropriate text message ending to send a colleague. I reckon only VERY close friends would ever warrant that sort of message unless you were trying to get into their pants.

I would leave it for the time being mate and put it off to him showing off his Polish and not really meaning it. Don't let it get you paranoid.

Life / Dec 25th - is public transport or Taxis in Poland operational that day? [10]

Hey, I am off to Rabka on the 24th as well for Christmas! I am getting a lift with my mate though I think.

Love / Polish Girlfriend gone missing [154]

Shit mate, that's a horrible situation to be in. I don't know what words or advice I could offer other than the steps you are already taking.

Basically if you love her then I would go to her hometown, if for nothing more than to get some sort of closure. How big is the town? You might want to bring a picture and ask around the town centre if anyone knows her. If you know what classes she is taking at University then I would go there and ask her professors about anything strange like her suddenly dropping out.

I wouldn't give up on this, it seems like outside forces working against you two. Sadly those outside forces were too much for my ex it seemed but it doesn't sound like she wants them to if it wasn't for the sake of the hospital visit.

Definately go to the hometown. Maybe go to one of the language schools in Krakow and explain your story and ask if anyone would be willing to travel with you and help translate. I realise that's a big ask, but I have found a lot of the students to be extremely nice and I'm sure, after hearing the story there will be someone happy to help. If it's a small town they probably won't speak much english so it will be handy to have a Polish speaker with you.

Best of luck mate, let us know how it goes.

Love / Polish Girlfriend gone missing [154]


Sterling advice there. Do that. Although if you don't know the subject and university it could be a struggle. There are a lot of Universities/Colleges/etc in Krakow. If you know the University then you can ask at the main office. If you only know the subject then it's a case of trawling round the Universities asking in eery department that covers that. If I am off work I would be happy to trawl round with you, my Polish isn't that great, but it gives you someone to vent to. Just send me a PM or something.

Again, best of luck.

Love / Polish Girlfriend gone missing [154]

Try e-mailing those folk. If that yields no reply then just turn up at the main university building when you arrive and ask to speak to an English speaking student rep person. Tell them the story and they will be able to help you find out from teachers and students that know her if this is a temporary illness leave or wether she has actually left. If it is the former I would sit tight for a while and hope she gets back in touch somehow once she is all better. If she has left the university completely then it would be time to take more action. It would be at that point that I would be inclined to travel to the home town and hope for the best. Maybe the guys at uni could pull some strings (if they are sympathetic) and get you an adress (or even part of it). I think that's definately the way to go.

Love / Polish Girlfriend gone missing [154]

I would sadly agree with Krakowianka on this one. Try really hard this trip. As I say if the uni says she has left completely then I would persue things in Tarnow. If she is still going and is on sick leave then I would wait it out for a text (she will have someone at uni who she can borrow a phone from for one text i'm sure) or e-mail (there will be computers there). If there is nothing at all...then sadly I'd have to say to give up and move on. If she wants to be in contact then nothing will stop her in the long run.

Love / Polish Girlfriend gone missing [154]

If the dad has already blocked phones do you not think he might have some sort of internet restriction in place?

Love / Polish Girlfriend gone missing [154]

So uni admin isn't the way to go. I would say you are being very harsh Grzegorz...but hey, you know more about Polish culture than me. I still think he should try his best to get back in contact through all avenues. Even if it was an abortion...does it seem like it would be her idea or forced into it? To be honest I know you are probably playing devil's advocate, but can you imagine the poor guy being forced to read that when he's obviously worried enough as it is?

Ted...go for it...find her, if she doesn't want to see you she owes it to you to tell you in person. If she does want to see you then you turning up could be just what she needs.

Love / Polish Girlfriend gone missing [154]

I suppose, it just sounds really harsh to me that a girl would just dissapear, get an abortion and drop all contact from a guy that is obviously willing to give up so much for her.

Maybe I am too much of a girlyman.

Love / Polish Girlfriend gone missing [154]

I suppose, to a lesser extent, my ex just sent me an e-mail basically just saying that she was happier back home and just wanted to be friends after I have moved country and changed my life and took a HUGE pay cut to be with her. No remorse, no nothing, just looking out for number 1.

At least I still get texts from time to time asking how I am and meeting up from time to time when she is in town.

Love / Polish Girlfriend gone missing [154]

The feel angry because you are a man? That confuses me?

I have heard that british men are often a lot more sensitive than Polish men and so I can see what you mean about being treated as a convenience. Kind of something nice before going back to what you know?