Life / Polish people more caring? [20]

Interesting points of view..

panienka
Thank you for agreeing. I do agree aswell, if there is a car accident and the driver has been drunk, I wouldn't like anything rather than him loosing his license, especially if its not the first time it happens.

Next time he/ore may not only loose his/her license and the car, but maybe the life of her/himself and other people.

Maybe the differenece btw how people treat eachother depends of the mentality of bigger/smaller cities. When I've been in Warsaw I feel the mentality so much "colder" and people do only care about themselves and don't mind other people's asses..Its so different and "hard/cold" mentality, in certain cases ofcourse(not all people, but just generally).

But when it comes to people you know - friends, family, relatives, even with less close friends, you are always supportive? among strangers too. Why? Because you have been a split country? Under occupation/communism rule? Has it anything to do with the Polish nationality/strenght/mentality? Catholism?

In Scandinavia, you can even be happy if someone lends you money, and about this closeness among people is like it doesn't really exist ...

You know you can always get help from government, social support system, e.g, maybe thats why you dont have to count on people? (And when it do comes to people, you cannot really count on them). And family isnt really that important either, ofcourse its important, but its more individualistic and once you move out from your home is like youre taking care of yourself, and like Holllidays, Christmas, Eastern hollidays, Birthdays, my friend didn't even stay for Christmas with her family, she rather went out spending Christmas with her closer than with her family!

(which usually in Scandinavia is a holliday you do spend with your family, but its becoming less important, like not even hollidays matter, those times when you should spend time with your family), and birthdays too...

And...
Yes, and I do think also that people who has it well materalisticially doesnt have to show other people what they got,and show up themselves, and when they don't ave to "fight" for things as much as other ore they ave succedeed to get some things (you don't ave to be colder to others when the concurrence btw u and others isnt so hard, because u already succeed to get what u want),and you really dont ave reason to show up yourself and trying to be better than others, because you know what you got.thx.

Sorry for the long thread...

Life / Polish people more caring? [20]

Hey, don't missunderstand me, I think you do ave right aswell. When it comes to friends and families, this rule is quite applicable. But strangers, no, not really. When I was in a car accident (in Poland), my friends and thoose who were in it really took care of eachother (me too ofcourse).

But in another circumstances, when being in a accident alone (and as a foreigner), and a lot of people around, rather recording the accident, than helping, not a single person could give a helping hand. And when youre asking for help, is like no one gives a ****, not even lending your phone for just making one phone call to ask someone for help. And when being in a accident, usually the first thing you would do (normally) is asking if everything is okay and offering some help to them who's involved. But when it comes to strangers, you cant even expect any help from the police. No, mind your own business and dont get involved with ppl u dont know.

But this only expection, doesn't make me generelize, I still 've good impression of Poles in general,even those I don't know..;)

And yes, Im from Scandinavia but living in Poland for the moment(and having Polish roots).

Life / Polish people more caring? [20]

Swedish?

History / Saturator in polish history [6]

Ok, and who did they belong to, the communists?? or was it normal working people doing that??

so saturator was trolleys which normal people worked with, which sold sodas, for example on the streets, or??

sorry, for my stupid question.. ;_;

USA, Canada / How to find a job in the USA [39]

No, because I need to find a intership/etc everything by my own, the institution can only leave information about particular places, but all work need to be done by one self........ And they don't ave much information about how to find intership outside europe ;/

History / Saturator in polish history [6]

haha, ok, thanks a lot!
lol

USA, Canada / How to find a job in the USA [39]

Thanks for all help, will concider the advices..... I'm Swedish citizen but living in PL for the moment... Studies and worked in Swe though.

Anyway, the ppl who went there formally worked as sellers in shopping malls/supermarkets/etc. Not the fanciest jobs in you don't have education, but still, no matter what they worked with, it usually payed good.

Guess I 've to look for intership by my own, just don't know where to start/how to find one.

But should be so much easier through contacts, isn't there a big polish community in Chicago for example?

just wondering.thanks anyway

USA, Canada / How to find a job in the USA [39]

plk123

What about construction work? shouldn't be that affected, not that it would be anything for me, but my bf use to work with that in the states, and I guess there's always a need for people in that field, or am I wrong?!

Love / Help-my polish bf doesn't fancy me! [94]

M-G if it was so easy

I would probaly dump him if there wasn't more than that........but since everything else is fine, and I guess we do fancy eachother , I love him and vice versa...but he doesn't do nice things as often as before........I mean.....things that I would appreciate....no cooking nor dinners at home.......nothing....I mean, it would be nice with a romantic dinner with candle lights at least once in a while;)......

but afterall, he's the type of guy that says 'life isn't a fairytail'........isn't it..lol.so what do I expect?!even if he could do all kind of nice things in the beginning.....

and why all this nice things and saccrefies (?), you do in the beginning of an relationsship, and then it just ends/colds down??

Is it like this in every relationsship ore is it just ours?!

and I mean...I'm still doing "nice stuff" for him as I did before! I'm the same person and hasn't changed......clean etc....so it looks nice and cosy at home... give a massage once in a while! I bought him presents etc.. You know - nice stuff you do to eachother! but now......its like...dead......he doesn't give anything back. maybe he got to use to it so I have to stop ?? maybe he become spoiled?? I don't know.help me out pls

Love / Help-my polish bf doesn't fancy me! [94]

Hmm....ok thats so true. It seems that the "game" of being too much/too little available is working even in relationships. If you give too much of yourself or that the person can take you for granted, its not as intereseting as before, and vice versa. I guess sometimes I've given too much of myself - because I love him, and I like to do things for him... but ofcourse, it wouldn't hurt to be more "hard" or to keep up one's integrity sometimes.

What Im trying to say is that its not as fun anymore when you get everything served on a silverplate:P

Although it would be much easier to see each other less often and vice versa, once at times, 1-3 times a week, if it wasn't because we were living together. Otherwise it would probally work perfectly :P

So what should I do?? play some kind of "game" with him ore what?became less available ore do less things for him, so that there will be space for him to need me?.......hmmm....

And still - keeping a relationsship work is about trying and doing sacrifies for yourself and for the another person too - to make it work. But he doesn't try hard enough anymore and therefore I'm loosing my interest!

I do love him, but where is the person he was when we first met? When he was doing all those kind of sacrifies and nice things!!!!especially in the beginning of the relationship.

does it all come to an end??!blah

When you take things for granted and things become just "normal routine" instead? and you actually don't think about doing those "extra small things" for your partner which you actually do appreciate?

Love / Help-my polish bf doesn't fancy me! [94]

Yes, maybe you are right......because as things are now, im not really happy/ore pleased with the sitaution........ I guess this is the problem with most relationships that you don't talk to eachother - one part goes around and things everything is okay, while other part is not satisfied, and it goes on for a time, and you belive that a change will come itself/over time.. but nothing happends until your partner breaks up with you - you find out whats wrong and then its too late to fix the problem!!!!all time when you belived "everything is ok and my partner is happy and pleased".........

Love / Help-my polish bf doesn't fancy me! [94]

hehe thats so true too...but I like the advices aswell, even if its not an answer to the queastion!

so how do I spicy up a relationship?? I mean concrete tips,advices??I mean what do guys prefer and girls how do you work it out`because I can't belive everyone is having a ordinary relatioship where you don't do anything to eachother, ore without any suprises etc, huh??

i mean do u give footmassages, buy presents, flowers ore how do u make yr partner feel special?? and what can I do for this special guy so he feels special ??(if he already doesn't, but still! I want the attraction back

News / A THOUSAND PEOPLE WITH SWINE FLU....just over the Polish border.. [43]

So, guys, anyone knows about the situation of swin flue in poland??has it come here yet, and how many cases has been reported??

Is it possible to get vaccinated against it,here??and how,by calling the closest med.center ore what??in sweden the situation is quite panic,now they are vaccinating everyone,first the "riskgroups",then the rest..they say they ave enough vaccin for the whole population.

worried if in a riskgroup?and is it possible to get vaccinated in poland?-->warsaw?

Love / Help-my polish bf doesn't fancy me! [94]

Thank you for all advices guys.
I don't know how our intimite relationship really is...I feel we have a deeper understanding for eachother and when it blooms up and we share things together, it all works out automatically.and there 's no need to make an effort to make things happen, it all comes by itself.and before, we used to "do it" everywhere.

But sometimes, its harder to get things work, when the special "spaark" isn't there...and during those times I don't know how to get his interest, sexier underwears ore what?

I just thought things would be easier.....I envy him and respect him as a person; he's smart, sexy, intellectual, it's hard not to like him.

before he used to beg for bj's but now........I really don't know...maybe I shouldn't complain since I've the best bf in the world.

Love / Help-my polish bf doesn't fancy me! [94]

JustysiaS

Yeah,I almost start to belive in the second one......but how do I know??
maybe he just doesn't love me anymore.

Love / Appreciated presents for polish girls [35]

Hmm...maybe too late to answer that for xmas..but i can do it anyway for the fun now afterwards....

I like beckiski's answer....on the gift card..just check up her favorite shop and she can buy something herself then....aslong as its personal (like her favorite shop) and not from a commercial supermall.....u need to think xtra time before giving her smth!

jewelry is nice...but hard to know what she likes ore her taste, if she hasn't picked anything herself?

Otherwise.....I bet on the underwears......if u know her style and what she likes......go for it!
VS, BB, etc..ore maybe a giftcard from that shops...

otherwise.....cosmetics and perfumes...no thx....litttle bit shallow and doesn't last for long!
so get smth better than that!
sure its sweet....but.still anyone could get that 4xmas.