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Polish Engagement and Wedding Traditions [42]
The engagements are usually in a parent's house, they have a big meal and the parents meet.
They have a bachelor/bachelerette night, meaning the end of freedom.
There are two weddings, one is a civil ceremony and the other a church wedding.
You can marry a non-catholic in a catholic church but that person has to sign an agreement that the children will be raised as catholics.
Weddings are usually on a Saturday lasting till morning, longer if you live outside the city.
May is considered a bad luck month.
The guy comes to girl with his parents who give them their blessings and then they all go to the court house then to the church, if they have it the same day.
In the past the bride was lead to the altar by her father, and the groom by his mother which is still a tradition in the US but forgotten in Poland. Now the young couple walk up to the altar together and behind them walk the witnesses, her parents, his parents then rest of the family. The bridesmaides and groomsmen are normally not practiced.
They walk out after the ceremony and greet guests and family, some give them flowers and later are showered with coins.
When guests arrive to the wedding they usually stay with family instead of hotels. In large cities the reception is in a restaurant or a hall but in the country it is at a home and weddings last 2 or even 3 days and more people come. Next day are the poprawiny where they eat the left-overs and that lasts only a few hours.
The bride and groom are greeted with bread, salt and wine an old tradition which promises happiness and future wishes for the new family.
The wedding ring is worn on the right hand.