Jambo
4 Jul 2007
Jambo
4 Jul 2007
Life / Kat Polish Heavy Metal Group [6]
Thanks. Well apparently they were together for two years and not surprisingly her parents did not approve!
Thanks. Well apparently they were together for two years and not surprisingly her parents did not approve!
Jambo
3 Jul 2007
Life / Kat Polish Heavy Metal Group [6]
Just wondered if anyone knows much about this group particularly around 1985. I ask because my Polish female friend who lives with me right now was telling me last night that she used to be the girlfriend of one of the band members circa 1985/1987 who she said now lives in the USA.
Just wondered if anyone knows much about this group particularly around 1985. I ask because my Polish female friend who lives with me right now was telling me last night that she used to be the girlfriend of one of the band members circa 1985/1987 who she said now lives in the USA.
Jambo
2 Jul 2007
Love / Sad :( I feel i have lost something very special [32]
Top posts the last two. I very much agree.
Top posts the last two. I very much agree.
Jambo
28 Jun 2007
Love / It's going to take more for me to trust a Polish woman again... [22]
Yes there maybe something in what you say.
Yes there maybe something in what you say.
Jambo
28 Jun 2007
Love / She said she does not want to in any relation now. [30]
I assume she is a Polish woman. See so many other threads on the same theme. If it is any consolation there are so many non Polish guys here this has happened to. It must be something in their Polish female mentality to be so warm and loving initially and then so cold and heartless for no apparent reason.
Good luck mate you will get over her
I assume she is a Polish woman. See so many other threads on the same theme. If it is any consolation there are so many non Polish guys here this has happened to. It must be something in their Polish female mentality to be so warm and loving initially and then so cold and heartless for no apparent reason.
Good luck mate you will get over her
Jambo
28 Jun 2007
Love / It's going to take more for me to trust a Polish woman again... [22]
There are so many experiences like on this Forum ( including mine) which all have a similar theme as follows:
- Non Polish man meets Polish woman;
- They get on great initially and do lots of stuff together and everthing is good:
- The Polish woman is really warm and friendly;
- then after about three or so months or maybe longer the Polish woman becomes cold, distant, unfriendly and the non Polish man cannot work out why this happened:
- the Polish girl then says stuff like I never saw you as a boyfriend, I need time, lets stay friends ( that is what I got):
- the relationship ends and the non Polish man does not understand why or what has brought this about.
I think there must be something in the mentality of Polish women who live in the west to befriend a western man experience all the benefits of that relationship ( place to stay for example) and then move on after three months ago no doubt to another western man and start the whole cycle again. I know the Polish women I went out with had befriended two men in the UK prior to meeting me in the space of a couple of months who she said at the time wanted to be her boyfriend but she did not want to be their girlfriend.
There are so many experiences like on this Forum ( including mine) which all have a similar theme as follows:
- Non Polish man meets Polish woman;
- They get on great initially and do lots of stuff together and everthing is good:
- The Polish woman is really warm and friendly;
- then after about three or so months or maybe longer the Polish woman becomes cold, distant, unfriendly and the non Polish man cannot work out why this happened:
- the Polish girl then says stuff like I never saw you as a boyfriend, I need time, lets stay friends ( that is what I got):
- the relationship ends and the non Polish man does not understand why or what has brought this about.
I think there must be something in the mentality of Polish women who live in the west to befriend a western man experience all the benefits of that relationship ( place to stay for example) and then move on after three months ago no doubt to another western man and start the whole cycle again. I know the Polish women I went out with had befriended two men in the UK prior to meeting me in the space of a couple of months who she said at the time wanted to be her boyfriend but she did not want to be their girlfriend.
Jambo
25 Jun 2007
Love / Sad :( I feel i have lost something very special [32]
Take care mate.
Yes in my case she had another man but of course I did not know this at the outset ( only when she miscarried) and she said he was a friend! If she had told me the truth I would not have got involved. Yet despite the fact at the end I was all give and she was all take it was hard to break up with her which she did not see coming. She still wants to be friends but I doubt we can be I have to move on as you do.I miss her though.
Take care mate.
Yes in my case she had another man but of course I did not know this at the outset ( only when she miscarried) and she said he was a friend! If she had told me the truth I would not have got involved. Yet despite the fact at the end I was all give and she was all take it was hard to break up with her which she did not see coming. She still wants to be friends but I doubt we can be I have to move on as you do.I miss her though.
Jambo
25 Jun 2007
Love / Want a female point of view on behaviour [14]
I do think (at the risk of wrongly stereotyping Polish women) based on my recent experience and other threads on this site from guys who have ex Polish girlfriends that they really blow hot and cold and once they know you have fallen for them it is more and more cold and very controlling. It is cruel. Eventually you have had enough but it is painful because you always remember how they were when they were hot and wonder how can they now be so cold.
I do think (at the risk of wrongly stereotyping Polish women) based on my recent experience and other threads on this site from guys who have ex Polish girlfriends that they really blow hot and cold and once they know you have fallen for them it is more and more cold and very controlling. It is cruel. Eventually you have had enough but it is painful because you always remember how they were when they were hot and wonder how can they now be so cold.
Jambo
25 Jun 2007
Love / Sad :( I feel i have lost something very special [32]
This is exactly what happened to me with my Polish girl friend. See thread " Advice for a UK man in love with a Poish woman. It is incredible that the phrases your Polish girlfriends have used are exactly the same as mine. For example she now says she never saw me as a man but only very good friend yet she said the opposite many times. I may have misread her signals but relocating to where I live, inviting me to visit her family and friends in Poland and many other examples seemed to me to be indicating we were building a relationship. She stopped wanting to hold hands and only kissing on my cheeks unless she was drunk and then she was all over me. She says she now wants to be very good friends. I am also suffering the pain but will get over it. I will never understand how she could be so warm and now so cold.
I do not wish to stereotype but maybe this is what some Polish women do befriend a man and then when they have got out ot that relationship what they want they walk away. It is cruel.
This is exactly what happened to me with my Polish girl friend. See thread " Advice for a UK man in love with a Poish woman. It is incredible that the phrases your Polish girlfriends have used are exactly the same as mine. For example she now says she never saw me as a man but only very good friend yet she said the opposite many times. I may have misread her signals but relocating to where I live, inviting me to visit her family and friends in Poland and many other examples seemed to me to be indicating we were building a relationship. She stopped wanting to hold hands and only kissing on my cheeks unless she was drunk and then she was all over me. She says she now wants to be very good friends. I am also suffering the pain but will get over it. I will never understand how she could be so warm and now so cold.
I do not wish to stereotype but maybe this is what some Polish women do befriend a man and then when they have got out ot that relationship what they want they walk away. It is cruel.
Jambo
13 Jun 2007
Love / Advice Required for UK Man in love with Polish Woman [26]
Thank you all very much for your good wishes they mean a lot to me.
Thank you all very much for your good wishes they mean a lot to me.
Jambo
12 Jun 2007
Love / Advice Required for UK Man in love with Polish Woman [26]
Yes you are right. We have split today. I need to move on but it will take a long time to get over her. If she had told me at the outset she loved another man I would not have got involved with her. But she did not say until she miscarried. By then I had fallen for her.Friends think that she got involved with me because she knew she was pregnant when we met and she needed someone to support her. I guess I will never know the real truth. But now I need to stop loving her and I can only do this by splitting with her.
Yes you are right. We have split today. I need to move on but it will take a long time to get over her. If she had told me at the outset she loved another man I would not have got involved with her. But she did not say until she miscarried. By then I had fallen for her.Friends think that she got involved with me because she knew she was pregnant when we met and she needed someone to support her. I guess I will never know the real truth. But now I need to stop loving her and I can only do this by splitting with her.
Jambo
12 Jun 2007
Love / Advice Required for UK Man in love with Polish Woman [26]
Thanks for all your good advice. Of course you are right I must stop and I will.
Just to say I have split with her. Your sound advice gave me strength to do so. Thanks very much for your help. I now move on albeit with a heavy heart.
Thanks for all your good advice. Of course you are right I must stop and I will.
Just to say I have split with her. Your sound advice gave me strength to do so. Thanks very much for your help. I now move on albeit with a heavy heart.
Jambo
11 Jun 2007
Love / Advice Required for UK Man in love with Polish Woman [26]
Yes I think you are right. I need just to focus on enjoying the time I have with her and leave it at that.
Yes I think you are right. I need just to focus on enjoying the time I have with her and leave it at that.
Jambo
11 Jun 2007
Love / Advice Required for UK Man in love with Polish Woman [26]
Yes this is good advice. We will not see each other for a week and I guess we both have a lot of thinking to do.
I would keep your options open and maybe show less interest. Maybe she'll realize what she wants at that point.
Yes this is good advice. We will not see each other for a week and I guess we both have a lot of thinking to do.
Jambo
11 Jun 2007
Love / Advice Required for UK Man in love with Polish Woman [26]
Thanks mate. I do nothing else but think of this situation and what I should do. Yes I do wonder is she hot at times simply to have me around looking after her and then when she no longer needs what I do for her she will be off. If she gets her air stewardess job she will be off anyway. Maybe I just enjoy living with her for a while and then that is it subject to my emotional cost. If she was cold all the time I have an easy decision. I go to Greece friday for a weeks holiday and she goes back to Poland to collect her daughter. Maybe I am being too negative and just enjoy the time I have with her.
What I will never understand is why she invited me to Poland and relocate to my village if she does not really care for me.
Thanks mate. I do nothing else but think of this situation and what I should do. Yes I do wonder is she hot at times simply to have me around looking after her and then when she no longer needs what I do for her she will be off. If she gets her air stewardess job she will be off anyway. Maybe I just enjoy living with her for a while and then that is it subject to my emotional cost. If she was cold all the time I have an easy decision. I go to Greece friday for a weeks holiday and she goes back to Poland to collect her daughter. Maybe I am being too negative and just enjoy the time I have with her.
What I will never understand is why she invited me to Poland and relocate to my village if she does not really care for me.
Jambo
11 Jun 2007
Love / Advice Required for UK Man in love with Polish Woman [26]
Thanks for your advice.. I was not looking to meet someone. She just came into my life totally unexpectedly like a thunder bolt .Yes she has issues the married man being one and she says she needs time.Yes I could call it a day but I do not want to lose the chance of something special with her even if it is only a slim chance. We have had some great times and still do but less so now. I am hoping living together our relationship will blossom. If it dies at least I have tried.
Thanks for your advice.. I was not looking to meet someone. She just came into my life totally unexpectedly like a thunder bolt .Yes she has issues the married man being one and she says she needs time.Yes I could call it a day but I do not want to lose the chance of something special with her even if it is only a slim chance. We have had some great times and still do but less so now. I am hoping living together our relationship will blossom. If it dies at least I have tried.
Jambo
11 Jun 2007
Love / Advice Required for UK Man in love with Polish Woman [26]
I would be grateful for advice;
1. I got to know a Polish woman (39) just over two months ago ( I am 52). She is lovely and I have fallen for her. Initially she was very loving and invited me to Katowice to meet her family in friends ( this only three weeks after meeting her). She then relocated to the village I live in working as a waitress in the hotel/golf club near my house and staying in the staff accommodation there.
2. She is Jewish and has been divorced twice. She has two children one 20 and one 13 in Poland. The 13 year old daughter is coming to the UK and as she cannot afford to rent a place ( staff accommodation cannot take children). As a result they are coming to my house to live when they come back from Poland.
3. She has a lover ( she initially described him as a good friend) in France who is married man and this has been going on 18 months and is still going on ( clearly he is not going to leave his wife). She became pregnant by him prior to meeting me and she miscarried in the UK and I looked after her generally and in hospital.This was horrendous.
4. She tells me she likes very very much but needs time to work out her feelings for me. Other Poilsh waitresses at the Hotel tell me she says she likes me very much. However because I love her so I find myself running after her like a puppy doiing her shopping, buying cigarettes etc and I feel so stupid. I do not like myself for this but cannot help it. Because of unsocial hours I do not see much of her. She also has other men in the UK who want to be her boyfriend.
5. She came to the UK to become Air Stewardess and she told me for the first time last night that she is having an interview July 5 and if she succeeds she will be relocating. Also she no longer tells me about her days off like she does not want me to know yet we went out over this weekend and had great fun
My friends are concerned she is using me. I have given her very little money. It is an emotional cost not a financial cost. I love her but at the moment get virtually nothing in return. I do not know whether as a Polish women she requires a long courtship or whether she is just stringing me along. She is still very affectionate towards me at times.
Advice please.
I would be grateful for advice;
1. I got to know a Polish woman (39) just over two months ago ( I am 52). She is lovely and I have fallen for her. Initially she was very loving and invited me to Katowice to meet her family in friends ( this only three weeks after meeting her). She then relocated to the village I live in working as a waitress in the hotel/golf club near my house and staying in the staff accommodation there.
2. She is Jewish and has been divorced twice. She has two children one 20 and one 13 in Poland. The 13 year old daughter is coming to the UK and as she cannot afford to rent a place ( staff accommodation cannot take children). As a result they are coming to my house to live when they come back from Poland.
3. She has a lover ( she initially described him as a good friend) in France who is married man and this has been going on 18 months and is still going on ( clearly he is not going to leave his wife). She became pregnant by him prior to meeting me and she miscarried in the UK and I looked after her generally and in hospital.This was horrendous.
4. She tells me she likes very very much but needs time to work out her feelings for me. Other Poilsh waitresses at the Hotel tell me she says she likes me very much. However because I love her so I find myself running after her like a puppy doiing her shopping, buying cigarettes etc and I feel so stupid. I do not like myself for this but cannot help it. Because of unsocial hours I do not see much of her. She also has other men in the UK who want to be her boyfriend.
5. She came to the UK to become Air Stewardess and she told me for the first time last night that she is having an interview July 5 and if she succeeds she will be relocating. Also she no longer tells me about her days off like she does not want me to know yet we went out over this weekend and had great fun
My friends are concerned she is using me. I have given her very little money. It is an emotional cost not a financial cost. I love her but at the moment get virtually nothing in return. I do not know whether as a Polish women she requires a long courtship or whether she is just stringing me along. She is still very affectionate towards me at times.
Advice please.