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JustysiaS   
24 Jun 2008
Love / Soldier born in Poland / living in England. Fiance going away for ages. Complicated... [205]

Why?

i think i explained why, read up!

You still continued to date him so it obviously wasnt an issue at the time. Hope you get your head round it all soon.

well back then i didnt quite realise what sorta sacrifices i will have to make. plus tbh, i never thought we were gonna get engaged one day and talk about getiting married! he was so anti-marriage when i first met him... i just thought it was a summer love at first ha ha
JustysiaS   
24 Jun 2008
Love / Soldier born in Poland / living in England. Fiance going away for ages. Complicated... [205]

Are you near his barracks ? If so there might be a support group that you could join.

not exactly near, as i said i was going to move nearer, i'm still trying to decide whether im going to do it or not in this situation. i'd have more stuff to do to keep me occupied in that city i was about to move to, there's a college there with lots of different courses, there are gyms, bars, clubs... i'll see. i'm sure there are forums for families of soldiers serving abroad, i'll look into that.

i gotta say that i agree with you when you say that even when he quits the army he will still behave like a soldier sometimes. i know how long its taken for me to get him to open up to me.... he's not very good at showing his emotions, but i gotta say that since we've been together he has tried really hard to overcome this.
JustysiaS   
24 Jun 2008
Love / Soldier born in Poland / living in England. Fiance going away for ages. Complicated... [205]

i think he would die without his car ha ha... they say things happen for a reason, so maybe this is just another test. its still not fair though, it's too soon :(

I think you have to realise that when you date someone who has that job you know they are going to be away from home

i suppose thats why he has concealed the fact that he's a sodier until i officially agreed to go out with him ;)
JustysiaS   
24 Jun 2008
Love / Soldier born in Poland / living in England. Fiance going away for ages. Complicated... [205]

That is so sweet! Your post is gonna make me cry!

yeah it is, we have to get Mrs. Sz. to read that, i'm sure she'll feel like crying too ;).

yeah i already have been through this once and it is amazing to get them back after such a long time. he's been away to many places, sometimes its 2 weeks, sometimes its a month, but i cope with that easily. im just very sad and angry that we can't just be together without him having to sacrifice himself like this, and of course me sacrificing myself as well. life's such a b*tch, some people really dont appreciate how easy their lives are. i know i will accept whatever he does and do my best to stay strong and make us better, but anyone would start being doubtful and questioning things, given this sort of a scenario. i am a very tough person and i believe that we can get through this, but its such a sudden thing to happen, its only a few weeks away. i think im still in shock!

hey, what's wrong with a bit of cheer? i'll take the plunge and offer my services. :D

you're gonna have to change your profile pic to get me in the mood....

ha ha
JustysiaS   
24 Jun 2008
Love / Soldier born in Poland / living in England. Fiance going away for ages. Complicated... [205]

i tried Pm'ing about what things you can do and think about. There are still many more options in the army your bf can consider

hi sorry, i blocked my pm feature, saves me the trouble of cleaning up my pm box of all the rubbish i get from asians ha ha... what options are you talking about? he said that he will not only save up loads of money, but will get bonuses for going there etc. i know he's doing it for me and i know he's fed up with his job and really wants to leave, but the thing im scared of most is that something bad will happen to him and i'll always blame myself for not stopping him from going.
JustysiaS   
24 Jun 2008
Love / Soldier born in Poland / living in England. Fiance going away for ages. Complicated... [205]

I've been thinking about posting this as some random guest, but i suppose that all the details i'm about to reveal in this thread would just give my true identity away, so i'm not gonna try that ;). Since threads about relationships have been so popular recently thanks to wildrover and of course fireif, i thought i'd share something that happened today and ask you for an honest, unbiased opinion. I've never really revealed much about myself here apart from the fact that i'm Polish, live in England, i'm in my 20s and have a Scottish fiance, and of course that i'm able to translate ;). Well, as some of you know my fiance is in the British Army and today i've found out from him that he's going to volunteer for a 6 months long tour in Iraq this August and then again next year. He needs the money that he will be able to save up there to pay off the loan he's taken out for his car a few years ago, and for a course he wants to do in order to get a new, well paid job after he's quit being a soldier, cos he wants to have a normal happy life with me. My problem is, and he called me selfish for that already, that i can't bear the thought of being seperated for such a long time, i'm dreading the fear of losing him, and of course i'm worried we might grow apart since it's gonna be ages without seing each other. I've gone through this last year when he was in Afghanistan and it did bring us closer in the end, but it also made me very clingy, insecure, stressed out. I lost loads of weight and everyone was worried about me, too. I dread going through this again year after year and i think there's a risk of me becoming increasingly depressed as a result of this. In the long run, this is the quickest option for him to get out, but it's also a year taken out of my life that i will have to spend on waiting and forever missing him, and praying he comes back to me safe and well. I already accused him of picking the most extreme and hurtful way of trying to leave the army, because he could've started saving up the money a year ago when we got engaged and he knew i wasn't up for becoming an army wife. I don't know if i can do this, i don't even know if i want to do this. I love him and i thought i was 100% sure that he was the man i want to spend my life with no matter what, but now i've got so many doubts and i don't know if it'll work out if we are going to be so far away from each other all this time. I've been already preparing myself for next year when i knew he was going to go to Iraq (and do proper army stuff, not a desk job), but that was supposed to be the last time. And now this... As every other couple, we had loads of good times, but also some bad times, but the last few months have been almost perfect and i was really looking forward to spending xmas and new year with his family this year. But it's not going to happen anymore. If he changes his mind about this tour in August, he will still get sent on training to Canada for 3 months anyway... He told me that all he's gonna do in Iraq this time over is paperwork and not going anywhere outside the main camp so it's very unlikely that he gets hurt. It is a relief, but it will be agony not being able to see him for my birthday, his birthday, christmas and everything else. And then the same story next year. Is it all worth it? So much can change in a year, the love might fizzle out, and hell knows what else life's gonna throw my way to top off my misery. I'm not even gonna start about sex ha ha... I really wanted to hear from the wise ladies here, what would you do if you were in my shoes? I realise that it's hard to make an opinion and give advice based on a random post without knowing the whole complicated story of our relationship, but if anyone else here found themselves in a similar situation before, i'd like to know their thoughts. I'm not going to come back here everyday updating you on what's going on in my head like some other people do ;), but i'd like some mature answers and nothing like "i'll cheer you up when your bf's gone", or any other offers of comforting me from some forever horny guests of this forum. Thank you for your time, J.
JustysiaS   
24 Jun 2008
Food / Polish (but can be just any other) recipes for chicken dishes anyone? [23]

JUSTYNA with ASIA then become JUSTYSIA

you obviously dont speak Polish you weirdo, then you would know what Justysia means. dont even bother replying. why the hell would i mix my name with Asia?! cos i love Asian men so much?! HA! don't even start me off on that...
JustysiaS   
19 Jun 2008
Life / Anyone know if Fala Zbrodni on dvd [5]

hi i just had a look on Polish google, found a guy who is offering to sell all the episodes that were on tv so far for 80zl (under £20), i just emailed him now to find out whether his offer is still available ;). i dont think fala zbrodni is oficially out on dvd in Poland just yet.
JustysiaS   
19 Jun 2008
Language / example for "bronić" [12]

Adam broni swojej mamy - Adam is defending his mom
Adam broni się - Adam defends himself
Adam broni się przed wrednym sąsiadem - Adam is defending himself against/from a nasty neighbour
Adam broni się przede mną - Adam is defending himself against/from me

where przed/przede means against or from. przede is only used when it corresponds with the first person (I/me)

and in passive voice:
Adam jest broniony - Adam is being defended
Adam jest broniony przez Jurka - Adam is being defended by Jurek
Adam jest broniony przeze mnie - Adam is being defended by me

where przez/przeze is 'by'. przeze, just like przede, is used only when it corresponds with the first person
JustysiaS   
18 Jun 2008
Love / My polish g/f can be a nightmare,is it always like this [262]

Yeah thats a good idea, take time off work and move all your valuable possesions from the house whilst she's at work/college. have you got the keys tho? you could rent a storage place somewhere for your stuff or move it round your friends/moms/whoever. if you dont have the key, get a friend to come with you when that woman is in and ask her to let you take your stuff. your mate will be your witness if she tries anything (you could even pop a voice recorder in your pocket just so you have proof that she's being abusive and a liar). i know i've been very lucky in my situation and i cant promise you it will be just as easy for you, but it wont hurt to try! the agency that was letting the house to me and those other people was happy as long as they got all their rent each month. plus that people i lived with managed to get another 3 of their relatives to come over and move in with us when i was still there, so they kinda 'replaced' me after i left.
JustysiaS   
18 Jun 2008
Language / Any sweet Polish phrases [255]

"sth"

i know its a short for 'something' in English, not a clue what it means in Polish, i've never heard about it. what's the context of it, can you please quote the whole sentence where it appears?
JustysiaS   
18 Jun 2008
Love / My polish g/f can be a nightmare,is it always like this [262]

Smiffer, do you rent your place from a private owner or an agency? You must give them a call or go see them in person and explain what your situation is and that you have to leave before the contract ends. I was in a situation where i lived with a bunch of w*nkers who would be really horrible to me and i moved out early, paid no rent for the period i havent lived there (i did sign the contract), just the bills (and that was just for the last month i've lived there), and i even got my deposit back. And thats just cos i told them what mess i was in and that i couldnt live there cos i felt threatened. If you do the same, just be honest and say how it is to your landlord/agency, i am sure they will understand and that moody b*tch will end up paying the rent all by herself! You cant obviously move back with that woman because next thing she'll do is give herself a bruise or two and complain you've been violent to her and put you in jail. You cant wait and must act now, she sounds like she's capable of lying just to 'punish' you, dont let her do that.
JustysiaS   
10 Jun 2008
Love / My polish g/f can be a nightmare,is it always like this [262]

ABUSIVE man that is an understatement,i have been called worthless,a looser,and thats just the ones i remember,oh and the usual swear words.

she had thrown all my stuff in the bin,heard that before,many many times.

you pack her a suitcase and tell her to get out, and take her brat with her. be a man!

It seems that if i try and put my foot down she will just finish it

or so she says. you will be surprised to see how confused she will be when you actually tell her you're over and she can leave if she really wants to and you ain't gonna stop her. she won't leave, she'll be scared to be on her own and believe me NOONE else will want her unless she drastically changes her attitude. dont let an insecure, disturbed woman like that rule your life and call you a loser. and if that kid of hers ever calls you stupid again, show her some discipline, she's living in your house so she should respect you. please stop doing this to yourself.
JustysiaS   
9 Jun 2008
News / News in Poland: are Poles more positive? [7]

just because there were more positive stories on the Polish news at the time of your stay, doesn't mean Poland is more positive or 'forward thinking'. after living in both Poland and England, i dare to say English people are more positive and laid back. there were many things for us to celebrate at that time obviously, but what you usually get is the antics of the Polish government, people complaining about hospitals, someone striking somewhere... Just the usual stuff you see on the news in UK too. besides, bad news sells better than good news.
JustysiaS   
9 Jun 2008
Language / SLANG FOR INEBRIATION IN POLISH? [32]

what? you come to the dark side now? ;) :D

there are so many things you don't know about me, plk ;)
JustysiaS   
9 Jun 2008
Language / SLANG FOR INEBRIATION IN POLISH? [32]

pijany, or a bit more vulgar - najebany. they are the easiest and most common ones. Osioł, co Ty, jesteś najebany a na zewnątrz jeszcze widno! Ty alkoholiku...
JustysiaS   
9 Jun 2008
Language / SLANG FOR INEBRIATION IN POLISH? [32]

napierdolony
Nope, we don`t use this word either.

oh yes we do

zajebany is rare, don`t use it.

zajebany means 'stolen', but no i havent heard anyone use it to describe someone drunk

pojebany means kind of crazy

yeah, thats like f*cking mental or something, but not drunk

ze rżnięty?

zerżnięty or urżnięty could be used to describe someone drunk too

nakurwiony

could be too