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Cardno85   
10 Dec 2008
Life / Are Polish People Hypochondriacs? [50]

I am just curious here because I know most of my friends and family will rarely go to the hospital or the doctor unless it's for mandatory shots (going abroad for work, etc), major cuts/broken bones or if they are so ill that they have no option but to go.

Now on monday evening I had a pizza from a certain supermarket chain which I may have undercooked a bit. I got food poisoning. The proper bad boy food poisoning with full on gut wrenching pain and all that. I made it to work and almost passed out before...well we won't go into details...so they sent me home. When I got home I asked my flatmate if she had any painkillers (cos that is all I needed) but oh no...nothing doing but she had to drag me to the doctors (all this time in extreme pain) and then off to the hospital (a further half hour away, me still walking doubled over in pain). Only to be told I have food poisoning and I need to rest and to take some painkillers for the pain. Now not having a go at my flatmate, I know she meant well. However it was a waste of time for the doctors and a waste of recovery time for me.

Plus I hear about people just going to the doctor for all sorts of stupid things. Even just check ups (I haven't been for a check up as long as i can remember, neither has anyone I know) seem commonplace. Is it just me or are people much happier to go to the doctors here than back home? And if so, why?
Cardno85   
10 Dec 2008
Love / Polish Girlfriend gone missing [154]

In contacting student rep or coordinator or whoever at the university. The point is not to ask for information but if they can deliver a message if they see her. The point is not seem like a stalker or obsessed creep. Acting as an intermediary isn't anything unusual IME. "Please, tell her I'm concerned, here's my contact info in case she's lost it".

That's actually really good, I like that idea a lot. It does put the ball in her court and, although the waiting will be hard, it means that after a while he knows that she has the means of getting in touch and hasn't and the chance is gone.

As for the hypochondriac issue...I am going to start another thread.
Cardno85   
10 Dec 2008
Love / Polish Girlfriend gone missing [154]

The feel angry because you are a man? That confuses me?

I have heard that british men are often a lot more sensitive than Polish men and so I can see what you mean about being treated as a convenience. Kind of something nice before going back to what you know?
Cardno85   
10 Dec 2008
Love / Polish Girlfriend gone missing [154]

I suppose, to a lesser extent, my ex just sent me an e-mail basically just saying that she was happier back home and just wanted to be friends after I have moved country and changed my life and took a HUGE pay cut to be with her. No remorse, no nothing, just looking out for number 1.

At least I still get texts from time to time asking how I am and meeting up from time to time when she is in town.
Cardno85   
10 Dec 2008
Love / Polish Girlfriend gone missing [154]

I suppose, it just sounds really harsh to me that a girl would just dissapear, get an abortion and drop all contact from a guy that is obviously willing to give up so much for her.

Maybe I am too much of a girlyman.
Cardno85   
10 Dec 2008
Love / Polish Girlfriend gone missing [154]

So uni admin isn't the way to go. I would say you are being very harsh Grzegorz...but hey, you know more about Polish culture than me. I still think he should try his best to get back in contact through all avenues. Even if it was an abortion...does it seem like it would be her idea or forced into it? To be honest I know you are probably playing devil's advocate, but can you imagine the poor guy being forced to read that when he's obviously worried enough as it is?

Ted...go for it...find her, if she doesn't want to see you she owes it to you to tell you in person. If she does want to see you then you turning up could be just what she needs.
Cardno85   
10 Dec 2008
Love / Polish Girlfriend gone missing [154]

If the dad has already blocked phones do you not think he might have some sort of internet restriction in place?
Cardno85   
10 Dec 2008
Love / Polish Girlfriend gone missing [154]

I would sadly agree with Krakowianka on this one. Try really hard this trip. As I say if the uni says she has left completely then I would persue things in Tarnow. If she is still going and is on sick leave then I would wait it out for a text (she will have someone at uni who she can borrow a phone from for one text i'm sure) or e-mail (there will be computers there). If there is nothing at all...then sadly I'd have to say to give up and move on. If she wants to be in contact then nothing will stop her in the long run.
Cardno85   
10 Dec 2008
Love / Polish Girlfriend gone missing [154]

Try e-mailing those folk. If that yields no reply then just turn up at the main university building when you arrive and ask to speak to an English speaking student rep person. Tell them the story and they will be able to help you find out from teachers and students that know her if this is a temporary illness leave or wether she has actually left. If it is the former I would sit tight for a while and hope she gets back in touch somehow once she is all better. If she has left the university completely then it would be time to take more action. It would be at that point that I would be inclined to travel to the home town and hope for the best. Maybe the guys at uni could pull some strings (if they are sympathetic) and get you an adress (or even part of it). I think that's definately the way to go.
Cardno85   
10 Dec 2008
Love / Polish Girlfriend gone missing [154]

If you do come to Poland go there in person and ask around a little. Approach students in mixed groups (less creepy) with her picture until you find someone who knows her. You might try to find her schedule and talk with a teacher.
Alternately you might try to find either the starosta roku (sort of a student representitive for the class) or the opiekun roku (a teacher charged with a particular class through which they're supposed to deal things like sick leave) and see if they know anything (or if they can give her a message when she returns).

Sterling advice there. Do that. Although if you don't know the subject and university it could be a struggle. There are a lot of Universities/Colleges/etc in Krakow. If you know the University then you can ask at the main office. If you only know the subject then it's a case of trawling round the Universities asking in eery department that covers that. If I am off work I would be happy to trawl round with you, my Polish isn't that great, but it gives you someone to vent to. Just send me a PM or something.

Again, best of luck.
Cardno85   
10 Dec 2008
Love / Polish Girlfriend gone missing [154]

Shit mate, that's a horrible situation to be in. I don't know what words or advice I could offer other than the steps you are already taking.

Basically if you love her then I would go to her hometown, if for nothing more than to get some sort of closure. How big is the town? You might want to bring a picture and ask around the town centre if anyone knows her. If you know what classes she is taking at University then I would go there and ask her professors about anything strange like her suddenly dropping out.

I wouldn't give up on this, it seems like outside forces working against you two. Sadly those outside forces were too much for my ex it seemed but it doesn't sound like she wants them to if it wasn't for the sake of the hospital visit.

Definately go to the hometown. Maybe go to one of the language schools in Krakow and explain your story and ask if anyone would be willing to travel with you and help translate. I realise that's a big ask, but I have found a lot of the students to be extremely nice and I'm sure, after hearing the story there will be someone happy to help. If it's a small town they probably won't speak much english so it will be handy to have a Polish speaker with you.

Best of luck mate, let us know how it goes.
Cardno85   
10 Dec 2008
Love / Little advice please - another guy called my Polish fiance beautiful. [47]

To be honest it's a tough one. On the one hand you shouldn't have seen the message or read it and so there is little you can really do without it causing an issue. However you have read it and now it has made you a bit paranoid.

To be honest I would think that was a slightly innapropriate text message ending to send a colleague. I reckon only VERY close friends would ever warrant that sort of message unless you were trying to get into their pants.

I would leave it for the time being mate and put it off to him showing off his Polish and not really meaning it. Don't let it get you paranoid.
Cardno85   
10 Dec 2008
Life / HAND-KISSING WANING IN POPULARITY? [29]

Yeah, the face kissing thing is a major minefield for me. Back home girls I know well would get one kiss on the left cheek and a hug. Over here on my birthday I got 3 from my manager...and it was slightly awkward cos I didn't really know how many I was going for...so I was kind of hesitant inbetween seeing if she was going again, then i got into the rhythm and it stopped.

It's a struggle!
Cardno85   
10 Dec 2008
Love / English Husband, Polish Wife... Going out together/not together? [35]

I can see the problem from both sides. You and his friends don't get on so if you go along with him then you will feel left out, but so will he because he can't spend time with his friend (obviously a very close one if it was his best man) on his birthday. So he is thinking if he goes along himself then it will be better. But you don't want to be left alone.

Personally I would say that maybe he should go off to this event himself, let him enjoy his night, he will really appreciate the fact that you are understanding. Then have a night out together in the near future so it's all about you two.

In future when there's nights out there's little more you can do than keep persevering with his friends. If they don't like you then they don't like you, you can't change that, but your husband will see you are making an effort and will defend you to his friends and explain to them that you are making an effort and they should be too.

There's no real quick fix, you two need to talk a lot about this, about how the two of you feel. It's not unsolvable...just needs lots of communication.
Cardno85   
10 Dec 2008
Life / Where can I buy very soft Toilet Paper in Poland? [47]

Well up North there will still be quite a contingient of the Wee Free kicking about no doubt. I remember heading off to the islands with some mates on a Sunday camping and the pubs were shut...I was raging!
Cardno85   
10 Dec 2008
Life / Where can I buy very soft Toilet Paper in Poland? [47]

Hahaha, well there is that law now in Scotland that means that you need to let ANYONE that asks to use your toilet (under the 2007 Ramblers Rights laws) so maybe that's why. But if they are in a relatively built up part of Inverness (I say built up...but in relation to say...Furnace) then that's unlikely to be a problem.

Or possible repenting...that's a funny image actually.
"What's that, you had ill thoughts about our neighbour's daughter...that's it...2nd toilet paper for the next week...and I am hiding the quilted stuff!"
Cardno85   
10 Dec 2008
Love / do polish girls consider a english man a good catch ? [126]

Cos I am in hospitality and I had food poisoning from that bloody TVL Pizza I have to take today off as well until I feel totally 100% which is fair enough...but it does mean having to do a couple of 18 hour shifts later in the week to make up for lost hours which is a nightmare.

Yeah and english guys eh...quite a catch...(trying in vain to stay on topic!)
Cardno85   
10 Dec 2008
Life / Where can I buy very soft Toilet Paper in Poland? [47]

Really? I found even the really cheap co-op stuff back home was much softer even than the most expensive stuff I could find here.

To be honest I am not that fussed...I lived in Indonesia where it was those 1ply shiny napkins as toilet paper in most places.

It was more a curiosity.
Cardno85   
10 Dec 2008
Life / Where can I buy very soft Toilet Paper in Poland? [47]

This is something I have been wondering about for a good while. I have noticed that, even when you buy the expensive toilet paper it's still rather rough. Now, for the first few weeks this was a real struggle for a Quilted Velvet or M&S man. Is there anywhere you can get good soft toilet paper or am I just going to need to acquire a ring of steel?
Cardno85   
10 Dec 2008
Love / do polish girls consider a english man a good catch ? [126]

Exactly, I think that's a major thing. How many times have you heard of the Polish person coming over to the UK, starting a relationship only for it to mysteriously end just before the person goes back to Poland and loses contact forever? Coincidence...I doubt it...getting into a marriage too early and wanting to see what the other side of things is like while you are away from home and responsibility...much more likely.

I have to clarify, I am a very bitter person and this is not an attack at the Polish people. Just you can't turn round and say that English people are often gulty of cheating when it's just as common for Polish people to do it.
Cardno85   
10 Dec 2008
Love / English Husband, Polish Wife... Going out together/not together? [35]

Talk to her, tell her you understand why she might be threatened with the thought of you going off with another woman because she has been cheated on before. But you are not that man and, as much as you love her, you can't be denied a life of your own because of her paranoia. She needs to trust you and let you have your own life as well with your friends.

If not it's likely you will end up resenting her and buggering off with some filly anyway.
Cardno85   
9 Dec 2008
Life / When in Poland, should I be British or Scottish? [104]

Right, now my post doesn't make sense...I am gonna have to do some editing now!

I have been told they wear kilts in Ireland too...although never really seen it. I love it though...it's a great item of clothing...keeps you cool in summer, warm in winter, looks good and shows off a bit of national pride.

Mon the kilts!