Expat marrying Polish - honest experiences

Would love to hear some honest experiences of what it is like to be in an interracial marriage here in Poland...what to expect etc. apart from the obvious!

Any inputs appreciated!

Where are You planning to live in Poland ( location will make a world of a difference ).

Where are You from ( my guess is India from another thread, but I want to confirm ).

How educated is Your Polish boyfriend's family?

Clear that up and will try to give You a frank answer.

Midas - First of all, did i ever say i have a polish boyfriend?

I suppose he thought this because you are asking about marriage ...

Its not legal for a woman to marry a woman in Poland , or a turnip , or a fish...

I guess we are just a bit puzzled.....You are asking about marriage to a Pole , but say you don,t have a Polish boyfriend....???

Any inputs appreciated!

Well, I guess I missed the asterisk and the small print saying that mine wasn't.

Sorry :-)

Midas - First of all, did i ever say i have a polish boyfriend?

No, You didn't, but if You don't it is rather baffling why You ask the whole question here in the first place.

The title of the thread is "Expat marrying Polish - honest experiences" and the question You want answered is "what it is like to be in an interracial marriage here in Poland"... You have "female" listed as gender... Am I missing something here? I'm not going to be a dick and suggest that You don't understand the phrases You use ( like "interracial marriage" ).

Frankly speaking - if You wanted information for Yourself You'd honestly provide the precious few details I kindly asked for and the fact that You don't do that ( throwing odd verbal jabs instead ) suggests that something fishy is going on.

So, just to be on the safe side - if You're Indian and planning to marry a friendly and well-hung African gentleman from the Ivory Coast in Poland neither of You will get Schengen visas, right to stay in Poland or Polish citizenship out of that deal.

Sorry.

What's an expat ?

An expat is a person from any of so called "Western" countries who decided to live in another country.Don't confuse an "expat" with an "immigrant".It is easy to explain the difference on an example: when you as a Pole move to UK you are an "immigrant" but when Brytol moves to Poland he is an "expat".Get it?

Are you looking for stories with happy endings ?
If so I don,t think you,ll get many posts here. Poland is not a multicultural nation yet. Unfortunately Poles are racists in denial ( majority ), a very caucasian nation.

When black friends have visited me in Poland, my Polish friends have treated them with dignity although regarding them as different ( in skin colour ).
Night life experience is somewhat daunting though. Going out clubbing or simply to a restaurant, I have experienced racial abuse towards my black friends, mainly from the younger Polish male generation, ( and they tend to form groups like a pack of wolves ) probably because they are too afraid to confront the situation alone ( how brave ). I think the problem is a male ego thing, where the Polish lads are jealous that their women ( who they don,t own ) may go off with a black guy.

Until a majority of Poles become to realise that all humanity comprises of white bones and red blood, then this stereotypical view on outer appearances will remain a problem.

On a personal note, I would like to add, that although I have many good multicultural friends, that I don,t agree with mixed marriages. This is a personal view that involves the offspring from such unions.. ( a very serious subject ).

Relationship yes, marriage no.

Food for thought: There is a reason why continents and areas on this earth are dominated by different races.


Is it so obvious ?

All I can say its a good experience till now, and with mutual effort, it should be better as time goes by.

By the way, there is no way you can judge your own relationship with other people's experiences. As Leo Tolstoy said:

"All happy families resemble one another, each unhappy family is unhappy in its own way."

"do i sound like i care about Schengen and visas here?"

You sound like You don't know what You're talking about or what You want.

As was pointed out to You by some other posters - the assumption that You were/are planning to marry a Polish bloke was a very logical one, given the title of the thread, the phrasing of a question and so forth.

If You just want to hear some more horror stories what's it like for a poor non-white person in Poland or some generalizations ( hitman ) about it I'm pretty sure You could have asked more candidly ( different thread title perhaps ).

The other thread - in which many people were rather wary of You - was about You asking someone to bring a ( non-specified at first ) item of luggage with them through customs and to transport it by plane from Poland to India or vice versa ( don't remember ). If I recall correctly someone mentioned that the thread should perhaps be reported to some form of authorities, so don't be surprised that I wasn't over them moon with joy about it either.

Hitman - a while ago there was a post here about British stag parties in Cracow and me ( as well as a number of other people ) told the guys who were describing said parties as groups hell hounds from planet Neptune that they were really generalizing.

So, same goes for You - "pack of wolves?" Really? I have ample opportunity to observe the behaviour of youths in both U.K. and Poland and have yet to notice anything that would make the two groups very different.

No probs, just hope you can get some serious posters. It,s interesting for all to read.

the same sex marriage in Poland does not stand as legal, so .......I presume you are not planning to marry in Poland?

Or am I still confused by your request?

Lodz the Boat is on my ignore list - can't see what he wrote and I'm not that really interested.

123 - Madam, as the old saying goes, if one person tells you that you have the ears of an ass, pay no attention. If two should tell you, go get yourself a saddle.

Your thread is slightly confusing to say the least - many have pointed that out.

If You want to get some legitimate, honest and precise answers ( which I, for one, was willing to provide ) You'd be wise to make it slightly less confusing, less about us guessing what Your situation is and a bit more specific. Otherwise You'll just get some outdated, straight out of the 1990's horror stories which likely will be largely irrelevant in Your particular case.

Come on guys give this person a break. The 1st post question " experiences of what it is like to be in an interracial marriage here in Poland ", gives you the gist of things. Lets stop playing hardball, if you don,t like it, don,t comment...... simple.

You've definitely fallen for the trap around here mate, most of the posts are just winding u up. In disregard of race any marriage is what you make it. I'm sure when it comes up to interracial you're bound to raise a few eyebrows here and there on both sides of the races. If you're gonna put up here in Polska don't tolerate the Dresy Mob they're just a bunch of no-gooders (hooligans). Then again most folks in this country are not racist at all but it's all down to curiosity most of them have never come close to people of different colours. I'm sure you'll get a lot of response from others on here...

a little more input on your side might be rewarded with honest replies.

as it is i'm fed up with cleaning the rubbish from this thread. BTW most of it yours.

Wroclaw - Thank you for the clean up. You should have also clean up some of this Midas comments in this thread.


Even i was fed up such off topic response. Most of it was mine because i dont like some comments of Midas and i am answering on his same level. That's it.


en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Expatriate

She *could* be Polish you know, and maybe she's interested in a foreign boyfriend? ;)

I know, I'm clever.

Or she could be Pakistani hoping to marry a French citizen from Mauritius in Poland and live there happily ever after.

That's the point, she hasn't told us ****.

If she's a Polish girl looking to import her foreign boyfriend ( hopefully from a non-terror supporting country ) she can probably find throngs of Polish women who have done that and wouldn't have to ask here.

Hell, but what do I know, right?

She said on another thread that she had small eyes and yellow skin , so i kinda guessed she was Chinese , or from some part of the orient...

I don,t think she is Polish...

Well, it's none of my business anyway, it's not important and has nothing to do with her question either, and I think people should either just answer her question straight away or just **** off instead of playing private detective.

I mean, who ******* cares?

I think people are just confused as to what the situation is...so can,t really answer her question...

It is what you make it!

wildrover: I think people are just confused as to what the situation is...so can,t really answer her question...

It's really simple?

123z: Would love to hear some honest experiences of what it is like to be in an interracial marriage here in Poland

She would love to hear about the experiences of other people of what it's like to be in an interracial relationship/marriage while living in Poland.

Doh!

Nope , its too easy... there must be a cunning plot to infiltrate Poland and steal kielbasa...

You can,t fool me that easily....

To give you a serious answer, the difference between an expatriate and an immigrant is one of intention. An expatriate is a person living outside of their home country who does not intend to settle in their new country permanently. An immigrant is a person living outside their home country who intends to settle in their new country permanently.

ex·pa·tri·ate
-at·ed, -at·ing, adjective, noun
-verb (used with object)

1. to withdraw (oneself) from residence in one's native country.

im·mi·grant
   [im-i-gruhnt]
-noun

1. a person who migrates to another country, usually for permanent residence.

Generally an Anglosaxon is always an expat while all the rest is an immigrant.

There are so many arrogant and ignorant people here after reading the thread.

wildrover- from whatever i read here, it doesn't seem like the person asking this question wants to 'steal a kielbasa from Poland' or there any plot in this as you try to make it sound like it.

dont know what this thread is about exactly, but im married to polish woman and have been for 3years and is great. we have a kid too so ignore the negative remarks

Yet she wants to go back to Poland and wants you to live in the middle of nowhere?

Good luck with that.