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6 Jul 2010
Life / Talking over people in conversations; is it a Polish trait? [41]

In informal conversations, it is noticeable that four out of five times, it is women who do this.

Not true. It should read:
In informal conversations, it is noticeable that four out of five times, it is men who do this
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6 Jul 2010
News / Crash of Tu-154 at Smolensk-North--could it have been a bomb in the Polish plane? [233]

They lay the issues bare and come to various conclusions.

but none of them point to consipracy. They tend to look at facts on face value without bringing in a thousand year history into the mix.

Just a side vent: I really don't like the CIA guy's use of the word 'slaughter', when he refers to Katyń. Rubbs me wrong. That word is better suitted for killing of animals, regadless how inhuman that act was. I can't imagine saying "my grandfather was slaughtered in Katyń".
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5 Jul 2010
News / Crash of Tu-154 at Smolensk-North--could it have been a bomb in the Polish plane? [233]

He is not a conspiracy theorist and I question anybody here to point out his lies.

A CIA spy for over 30 years is not a conspiracy theorist? I think that comes with territory!
I think that the guy who wrote this, a cold war spy since before the Cuban missile crisis, is looking for things to fit into the world as he knows it. If someone asks me: if you were to assume that russians did it, how could they have done it, I could spin a believable tale too, but that does not mean it is what happened.
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5 Jul 2010
Love / What do Polish girls think about Gypsies? [116]

We romantisize about them in movies (Johny Depp in Chocolat?), and in their beautiful music because they seem to represent unbounded freedom.
People that actually know any gypsies, either know the ones that are succesfully adapting to modern life... or not.
Reality is so mundane...
I spent some time with gypsies twice: once, they set up a 'carnival' of sorts outside our village. I stayed there watching them drink and play with knives, while women talked me out of my belongings. My grandmother was not pleased when I came home. Another time was setting up camp somewhere along the road in Bulgaria, in driving rain, only to wake up in the middle of the night right next to gypsy camp. That was very entertaining and this time I didn't get ripped off.

Now, one of my good friends is a full blooded gypsy, some kind of royalty. She does not like talking about it at all, and once when I mentioned it while introducing her, she gave me a "warning" look. She raised two kids on her own - one just became an engineer, other one a doctor.
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4 Jul 2010
Life / Talking over people in conversations; is it a Polish trait? [41]

on the other hand... ;)
how do you deal with someone that just loves to hear himself talk and does not know how to stop? You know the point withing first two sentences, but they just don't know how to come to a timely conclusion?
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4 Jul 2010
Life / Talking over people in conversations; is it a Polish trait? [41]

when people do that to me, I stop talking, let them fishish and re-start what I was trying to say with "again". Usually, by the fifth time I start with "again", they get the hint. Never had Polish people do it to me as much as the those around me that only have enough brain capacity to think of what they're going to say, not what anyone else might be saying.
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3 Jul 2010
USA, Canada / Passport photos in Fort Lauderdale, Florida ? [8]

I have the requirements.

What do they say about the pictures? Last time I brought the 3/4 profile, only to find out they want them straight on now. Thankfully they had the photographer right where they were accepting applications.
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30 Jun 2010
Love / I'm a black African man and can't cope with my Polish mother in law [34]

I do understand the soup thing. If my mother could not make her soup every day, it would probably kill her. And as healthy as it may be, the rest of us would be fine having soup no more than twice a year, during exceptionally cold weather, or a cold.

Another thing we had to learn to live with, is a mini farm instead of a conventional (American) back-yard. She had to have her garden!
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30 Jun 2010
Love / I'm a black African man and can't cope with my Polish mother in law [34]

She's probably as pushy as you let her be. Ask yourself this question: does she tell everyone what to do? If not, then you have to let her know she can't do that at your home. She might think that's how she stays usefull.

On the other hand, I had my mother living with us for a while. Letting her go to the market every day to get fresh veggies and making her soup is not unbearable to live with. Put her on a budget and tell her to make her soup for one. It will keep her busy.

I also find that it is really hard to find a good way to pass on my pearls of wisdom without bristling feathers. My son accuses of me telling him what to do when I tell him to "Have a good day".
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29 Jun 2010
News / Decoded talks inside Poland's president's plane are released in Internet [337]

that is very far fetched. Nobody heard this but the pilot of the yak-40, who disobeyed the Smolensk ATC himself.
He was the one with all the helpful facts about landing he just did, like it was a piece of cake. As with many other "what if's" - if he listened to the ATC and diverted, the TU-154 would not have that "they landed, so can we" hanging over their heads...

Judging from other stories, the publication is definitely not pro-Russian, no other responsible media seems to be picking this up.
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28 Jun 2010
Love / Love without chemistry? (Asian in love with a Polish woman) [195]

some handicraft souvenirs (not expensive at all),

this made me think of a guy we had here... probably a year or so ago, that send a girl some gifts, and when that didn't have desired results he demanded the gifts back, saying that this was a test and she was not supposed to accept them... that was not you, was it, gg4?

southern - well said! lol
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28 Jun 2010
Love / Love without chemistry? (Asian in love with a Polish woman) [195]

Some times I was right, some times I was wrong. How about you, you're always right?

No, I am not, but I never insisted on going after someone who I didn't think was just as interested. Let alone TOLD me there is no physical attraction!
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28 Jun 2010
Love / Love without chemistry? (Asian in love with a Polish woman) [195]

As for method of convincing a woman, what is your method?

Have you ever looked at a woman you don't know, and she looked back at you, and you knew she'd like to get to know you, too?

If you have not, maybe you should aim closer to your league. Honestly.
Otherwise, do what you're doing - keep paying and being everything you think she needs. And then maybe you'll become so indispensable, she'll stay with you - probably not because she learned to love you though, but out of convenience.
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27 Jun 2010
Love / Love without chemistry? (Asian in love with a Polish woman) [195]

He's smart, patient, caring, may be a little wealthy.

You beginning to sound a little creepy. You will not take no for an answer. Is your insistance that you can make somebody love you as strong in real life as it is here? Be careful, I think stalkers operate on the same assumption.
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27 Jun 2010
Love / Love without chemistry? (Asian in love with a Polish woman) [195]

Do you know how human sexual desire is created? It's a mix of hormonal, environmental, psychological factors.

you just keep kidding yourself. You can't make somebody fall in love with you. Are you going to show Stockholm syndrome as an example next?!?
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27 Jun 2010
Love / Love without chemistry? (Asian in love with a Polish woman) [195]

Chemistry can be created. Some just spark right away, but fade quickly. Some is really hard at the beginning, yet may happen eventually. I am pursuing the latter.

Just keep fooling yourself. Good luck.
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26 Jun 2010
Love / Love without chemistry? (Asian in love with a Polish woman) [195]

Hm, how do you explain that a fat guy can just about forget his chances with women while fat women nearly always find a guy? (trick question for f stop :) )

One of my bosses is a very funny fat guy. He's got many women (trouble).
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26 Jun 2010
Love / Love without chemistry? (Asian in love with a Polish woman) [195]

Have you read "Gone with the wind" ? Scarlett was in "chemistry" love with Ashley at the beginning. Rhett Butler was like a business guy, offering security to her, not the type for Scarlett. Yet finally she found out that Rhett is her real love!

I think you got it backwards, but I'm not going to try to convince you..

I also think you're trying to talk yourself into something that might not be very healthy for either one of you.
Granted, some relationships do loose the spark after a while, but stay together out of duty, responsibility, respect... trying to get back the spark. That is not your case.

In some some societies people do not have an option to marry for love, and they accept to make the best of what they got. That's not your case either.

In your case, your trying to make a woman fall in love with you but you don't think you measure up in the looks department. Very few women fall in love with looks (hopefully you are not dealing with one of those birds). You have to believe me when I tell you that the sexiest characteristics in a man is his confidence and a sense of humor.

I have a feeling this girl is not doing much for your ego.
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25 Jun 2010
Love / Love without chemistry? (Asian in love with a Polish woman) [195]

So, it's worth to talk about other needs of a relationship - which is security, and more. If you focus ONLY on sex, it's a sexual relation, not a relationship.

You only answered one of the questions... but to cut to the chase, I can tell you from the most personal point of view: when time comes that I am not sexually attracted to my partner, it is a sure sign of the end of the relationship. Body knows, while brain is still in denial, sort of thing.

In you case, since the relationship never had the "attraction" part, I'm thinking you are throwing in all kinds of rewards for her to continue the relationship, so you can keep hoping.