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16 Sep 2010
Life / Passing your Polish language and culture to your kids [74]

You can speak both languages to your child at home,

I do! My mother and I speak Polish when we don't want him to know what we're talking about. ;)

I don't know about the more-the-merrier. I actually feel sorry for anyone that finds him/herself in a situation where they have to learn Polish.
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16 Sep 2010
Life / Passing your Polish language and culture to your kids [74]

You are talking about unilanguage homes.

What?? Again, great majority of bilingual children become that way because one language is spoken at home, another outside. All I'm saying that it is not logical that child is at an advantage entering school without good knowledge of the language that will be spoken there.

If the plan is to eventually return to the native country, maybe.
I personally wish that one day we all speak one language and the sentiments over all the useless old languages that divide us will be looked at with disaproval.
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16 Sep 2010
Life / Passing your Polish language and culture to your kids [74]

When Angelina Jolie adopted that first Korean boy, she hired a Korean-speaking nanny just for him to have a contact with his native language since she didn't speak that language at all.

LOL she probably hired 10 nannys!
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16 Sep 2010
Life / Passing your Polish language and culture to your kids [74]

I grew up bilingual and didn't have any problems.

I don't understand what that means. Most kids I know that grow up bilingual because parents talk one lanuage at home and leave the second language to be learned once the child enters school.

I had a choice to talk to my baby in Polish or English. I consciously chose English and I don't consider that a sign of laziness.
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16 Sep 2010
Life / Passing your Polish language and culture to your kids [74]

If you teach it while they're young, what are you hurting?

In my experience, parents talk to their children in their own language simply because it is easier for them. They watch the TV, listen to the radio in their native language because they are more comfortable with it, and when kid goes to primary school, it has a harder time catching up. From what I see, the Spanish kids without a good grasp of English are entering school at a disadvantage. Now, if you happen to be a linguistics proffessor and are also talking care of teaching the language the child is going to need to talk outside of your family, then all power to you. I believe those are the exceptions, though.
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16 Sep 2010
Life / Passing your Polish language and culture to your kids [74]

but I still think that knowing ANY foreign language is beneficial for a kid.

well, I don't think so. When you watch your own kid learning social skills and communication, then by all means, you can jump in with another language, and make it all harder so maybe one day, he will travel to ..wherever.. to use it. I think he will be fine with English. Although, like I said before, Spanish would be nice, too.
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16 Sep 2010
Life / Passing your Polish language and culture to your kids [74]

a have a good friend who raised her kid along with mine. As much as I love her, I think she robbed her kid of childhood with her ambitions. Now, her kid, after medical school, is fighting suicidal depressions, while mine is loving life. It goes to show you that you never can tell. ;)

I do want to get him a Polish passport. To some places he goes to, it may be useful to have a Polish passport, even if he doesn't think so. I don't see him in Eastern Europe. He might run into some Polish people in Australia.
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16 Sep 2010
Life / Passing your Polish language and culture to your kids [74]

You are just lazy mother looking for justification.

you are probably right about the lazy thing, but not about looking for justification.
In the meantime, one makes choices everyday, and unless you walk in my shoes, you should not be so quick to judge. All of his family speaks English, and teaching him a language that he's never going to use was not a priority. I fought much harder for Spanish.
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15 Sep 2010
Love / Maintenance for child born between Irish/Polish parents. [60]

Few contradicting things I believe:
1. insisting that he pays will not make his relationship with his child better. From what you write about the guy, worse, more likely. There will probably be times when you'll have to re-inforce the order, and the child will be reminded that the father was forced into 'caring'.

2. insisting that he pays is really your duty, even I you just put that money in the bank for the child's future use. I hate that one, but it's true.

3. insisting that he pays will prolong the torture of putting up with the jerk. But, I'm not sure what to think of the fact that he thinks you can help him with some papers. It looks like you didn't make it clear enough that if he does not help you with the child, he has no right to ask you for anything. Promoting a happy and healthy relationship with his father does not mean he can waltz in and out of your flat. Next time he comes, phone for a friend, neighbor or a family member to come over.
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14 Sep 2010
Life / Passing your Polish language and culture to your kids [74]

But I know that these children usually benefit a lot from being bilingual.

actually, I remember studies that show that children that spoke foreign language at home, upon entering primary school were at a disadvantage, and frequently confused the two langauges.
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14 Sep 2010
Love / 'Battered husbands' - still a taboo subject in Poland [387]

Ozi_Dan:
Well done. You have exposed Zimmy's pseudo-intellectualizm beautifully. Unfortunately, me and I suspect many other posters routinely skip over Zimmy's posts now, so I almost missed it. Many swallowed his bait in the past, only to feel foolish afterwards to have wasted time and effort, and in many cases feel embarrassed to have been brought down to his level of discussion.
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13 Sep 2010
Life / Passing your Polish language and culture to your kids [74]

I gave up completely. There is not much in Polish culture that is attractive to my beasty boy. He admires the Polish people who are not afraid to join him on his adventures (and most of our Polish visitors are all for watersports in the daytime/alcoholsports at night), but has no intention of learning Polish. He believes that we should all be learning the same language, not 15 different ones. He does not like Polish food at all (that is a blessing, most of the time, since he devours all other food in my refridgerator), likes dark-haired girls, and except for some passing interest in ice sailing, is very resistant to the idea of visiting Poland.

I might add he travels all over the world promoting surf clothes etc.
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13 Sep 2010
Love / 'Battered husbands' - still a taboo subject in Poland [387]

f stop:
Keeping quiet out of embarrasment and keeping quiet out of fear for your life are two completely different scenarios.
And willing rather to die by being killed with a pan than to admit being beaten by wife on a regular basis is still another scenario.

now think about this a little. If he'd rather die because he is ashamed to admit of being beaten by a woman, then by all means, let darwinizm prevail.
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11 Sep 2010
Life / The "Rudification" Of Society - Is This Happening In Poland As Well? [146]

I don't think it's left or right, or middle. I think rudeness, paranoia, fear/hate of 'jiggaboos", faggots, spics, muslims, feminists etc etc is a trait of lower, less educated people. When economic times get tougher, they are poorly equipped to handle it, so they vent their frustrations on those around them, convincing themselves that if others would change, their own lives would not suck.

And media just plays it up for the lowest common denominator.
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9 Sep 2010
Polonia / on touring in Europe [6]

a fun piece of prose I wanted to share. It depicts, in a humorous way, why the world at large likes gypsies, and Russians, and Ukrainians, and alcoholics... and vagabonds of all kinds - mostly because they don't judge others, and they don't sweat the small stuff.

While you're at it, listen to the music and make an effort to make others feel better, not worse.
Viva diversity!
Enjoy.

I'll just keep on going:
youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=DDDxfGhh7bQ
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7 Sep 2010
Love / What do I do? Children of my Polish lady are depending on me for money. [13]

Do you have enough money to continue this way? Sometimes things look like they'll never get better, then they do. Jobs, far away, are found, etc. Families do help each other through rough times..

Have you told your partner that you're looking for a way out? Maybe she's looking for a way out herself but is too weak to make an ultimatum.

Have you told her daughter that if she does not find other accomodations, you might have to leave her mother?
Is having these people around better than being alone?
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4 Sep 2010
Life / Any treatment centres for homos in Poland? [455]

How can I do it if you are in every thread!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

you'd be a miracle worker if you got rid of him for a while!

Well I'm gay for myself... there I said it.

wow, Pete... that took guts! Are you planning to move to Poland?