It just seems tragic that many of the people who need help wrt this the most, do not get it in time if at all.
you are so right and if we say its a weakness, then people will say oh well and
turn their backs because they view weakness as a controllable thing like smoking
and drinking, and wont offer up any help or see signs of depression ( like what
prob happened here) and of course untreated , leads up to this.
there was a mother of a child who suffered post partum depression and
she killed her child, the father went right back to work leaving her all alone
and she snapped and drowned it..
and yes this makes me angry and upset, you dont think even for one minute
someone can be capable of such a thing but she was a immigrant living in
America with no family to help and she just had a baby, sleep deprivation,
factors in, she cant speak english, she is alone, the list goes on.
and the husband was back to work , she became manic..
depression isnt a weakness. because a weakness is something you can control
and choose not to by having an affair, or drinking that last beer, or smoking
that last cig or eating one more piece of candy.. these things you can stop
because you mind is still in control.
in depressed state, you cant..
let me also say, when my mother died, that was my first experience of feeling
a loss of control, I dont even remember driving home, and I had no control
over the tears, it was like a water fall, and it wouldnt stop, I felt helpless and
a sense of not really being in the physical world.. the next day reality came back
my head was pounding, I was sick to my stomach, I couldnt eat, I wanted to
sleep, but I kept seeing my mom take her last breath over and over in my mind and I couldnt stop this.. and I work in a hospital where they teach us to deal with
death, because we will see alot of people die and so it hardens you to some
extent, but nothing prepares you for such a loss when its a very close family
member, someone whom you love unconditionally.
but, I came out of it.that was not weakness, it was sorrow, despair, loss of
thoughts, loss of control, loss of my best friend..
