How to tell if my Polish girlfriend is in it just for the papers

To anyone who can help:

I recently just got envolved with a Polish girl, who is turning out to be a really good catch. It seems like everything is going great. But what are the signs that I should look for to find out if she is only interested in marriage for the papers? I really don't want to poor my heart out and later find it walked all over. Is this something I should just bring up in conversation, if so how? So far its only been a few weeks, but I can see it working out. I met her through another Polish friend of mine who set us up, but his and his wifes intentions were not of that for citizenship reasons, they were merely looking out for me. They have no idea what her intentions could be though. Some things I think are in leaning towards it being ok, is that I speak polish, but not fluently, so at least there is not a huge language barrier between her and her family. I also get alone great with her family, and her brothers, but I am still werry of that being because they may only want her to marry me for papers. Now she is only 20 years old so she might not be aware of her brothers intentions either. This is all confussing for me and didn't know if anyone on this forum may have some good advice.

Thanks

Hi there, may I ask what is your age? It could help specify the answer.

mfleis1
It sounds like you are in love.. :). As "mina" asked, it would be easier to answer your question if we knew the age difference between you and her. It's not that very important, but if she's only 20, her emotional life may not be fully developed. You sound as an established man. The good news is that - as you write - you met through your Polish friend so it could indicate not only you see it could work out on the long run. I wouldn't sweat your "citizenship issue" too much - after all getting the US citizenship does not equal good health or success. It was probably worth "more" back 20 years ago when Poland was in a different political system as it is now; currently more and more Polish people get visa to get to the US. My best idea would be for you to be yourself and give it some time to see how it goes. Again, don't be too "suspicious" of anything because it won't help your possible long-term relationship.

Good luck!

Anna

I don't see any problems then. Let it go and see what happens. And relax@!

I assume youre not very good lookin if u have that kind of doubts
Even if that turns out to be true (and i think it is coz u met her through friend who set u up and probably leading role in that had his polish girlfriend/wife) when your wallet is fat enough she wont leave you unless u make her to with your own behaviour

im a Pole and i can assure you that most girls here (not all of coz) are looking for a nice (not particulary good lookin) man with a good financial backup and if u have that u'll be okay plus living in the US is another incentive for her (and her family :) )

Thanks everyone for there detailed answers.

I am 25 years old, I would describe myself as 6'1, 205 athletic build but about 15 lbs overwieght, so I wouldn't consider myself not good looking, but then again like many people out there, I don't consider myself a model. Some more details though would be, she has been here for 1.5 years, and is illegal. As well as her two brothers. No I also wouldn't say I am in love, but I really could see it going down that path faster than usual. Once again, all you input has been perfect. Thank you soo much.

If you're 25 and pretty good looking, you're a good match!

"...and is illegal"

Man, there are a few thousand "illegal" Poles living in the USA (at least as far as "formal law" is considered) - and they are doing just fine, they pay taxes, buy houses (it's no problem to receive a bank loan for home even if you don't have a SS - a Tax ID is enough). So I'm sure she'll do fine with or without your citizenship -- if you decide to let her go..:}