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Getting my Polish girlfriend back??


londonboy 1 | 20  
26 Jul 2007 /  #1
[b]hello friends.... i am an indian and now i live in uk. i love a polish women and she works with me at same place where i work. since few days i feel that her love for me has got less and i feel that she doesnt love me anymore because whenever i am having day off at work she doesnt text me. Before she used to text me but now she doesnt.... i feel sad about it and hurted. please anybody give me solution to it. i dont want to loose her. she does have a child and a boy friend but she tell me that she loves me.... i also love her. but i dont know why i feel that she doesnt love me anymore like before... please do reply soon as possible.thank u friends.
neilo 3 | 6  
26 Jul 2007 /  #2
is this a common thing "she has a boyfriend" well why be with her then? i dont get it. How can you be with someone who has a boyfriend?
Zgubiony 15 | 1,554  
26 Jul 2007 /  #3
Is this the same girl you were having issues with when you posted sth similar in April? Thought you'd given up by now.
OP londonboy 1 | 20  
26 Jul 2007 /  #4
i know she has a boy friend but she tell me that she loves me...

yes she is the same girl for which i post on april. but i love her
sapphire 22 | 1,241  
26 Jul 2007 /  #5
but she tell me that she loves me...

and maybe she is telling him the same?
OP londonboy 1 | 20  
26 Jul 2007 /  #6
well i am not sure about it but she told me once that she stays with her boyfriend because of her child.
Zgubiony 15 | 1,554  
26 Jul 2007 /  #7
You have to let it go. Move on man. She's obviously not the one for you. Stop torturing yourself.
OP londonboy 1 | 20  
26 Jul 2007 /  #8
is it because she has a boy friend and a child? what is the reason my friend? please tell me.
Zgubiony 15 | 1,554  
26 Jul 2007 /  #9
is it because she has a boy friend and a child?

Isn't that enough for you? You're getting yourself into a mess. My advice, Move on :)
Jambo 2 | 106  
26 Jul 2007 /  #10
Sound advice above. I am afraid yours is yet another story of a Polish women befriending a non Polish guy in the Western European country she moves to. Everything goes great for a while then she becomes cold and distant. I doubt her attitude will change. In my case whilst her attitude has softened towards me it has not fundamentally changed. I now accept where we are ( we are very good friends) and am moving on. She relocates in the UK soon anyway which resolves matters.
Amathyst 19 | 2,702  
26 Jul 2007 /  #11
Jambo, could you stop for a moment and think! NOT all Polish women are the same. This girl has as boyfriend and a child and yes she has done the wrong thing getting involved with someone else whilst she is in a relationship, but NOT all Polish women do this, I have a friend (Polish) who wouldnt take a second look at another man because she loves her boyfriend (also Polish).

You have to remember this is a Polish forum so you are going to see whining men and women complaining about the Polish, its not a true reflection on how Polish people act.
Jambo 2 | 106  
26 Jul 2007 /  #12
If you read my post I think you will find that I did not say all Polish women are the same. Of course they are not. I was merely pointing out that a number of similar stories have been posted on this forum. I do not conclude from that all Polish women act like that.
Amathyst 19 | 2,702  
26 Jul 2007 /  #13
But you keep on bringing it up, this is a Polish forum so of course you are going to hear about people complaining about Polish women....Its quite funny that we dont hear Polish men complaining about women.

I am afraid yours is yet another story of a Polish women befriending a non Polish guy in the Western European country she moves to. Everything goes great for a while then she becomes cold and distant. I doubt her attitude will change.

tornado2007 11 | 2,274  
26 Jul 2007 /  #14
LondonBoy:

Hi mate i really feel for you, its hard when you have something you love and then all of a sudden you loose it, i know exactly how that feels. However something you can do that i failed to realise needed doing, MOVE ON, its really difficult and i know its easy for me to say but really if she has left you then something was obviously wrong in the first place. She has probably made the decision already to move on and now its your turn to do the same.

Obviously your paths may cross again and things may be different, but until that point you need to focus on the rest of your life or you could get stuck in a rut.

I hope his was helpful
sapphire 22 | 1,241  
26 Jul 2007 /  #15
Im coming to you for therapy!
angel eyes 1 | 131  
26 Jul 2007 /  #16
tornado2007

yes i agree with u T
this is a no win situation and if she is unfaithful to her current boyfriend whom she has a child with then wats to stop her doin the same to londonboy wen she gets bored of him too. once a cheater always a cheater in my book
Jambo 2 | 106  
26 Jul 2007 /  #17
But you keep on bringing it up

I did'nt start this thread!. To be honest I am not sure why you are having a go at me. Finding people in a similar situation that you can empathise with can be cathartic. It was for me. It helped me a lot and gave me a perspective. I feel for the guy who started the thread and it may help him to know he is not alone.
angel eyes 1 | 131  
26 Jul 2007 /  #18
Im coming to you for therapy!

Im in on the fan club also haha (wink)
tornado2007 11 | 2,274  
26 Jul 2007 /  #19
goodness me coming to me for therapy, i'm a spring chicken i'm 21 not a social worker or a councilor, but i'm always happy to help if anybody needs some advice :)
Lady in red  
26 Jul 2007 /  #20
i'm always happy to help if anybody needs some advice :)

such a sweetie :) <compliment>
OP londonboy 1 | 20  
26 Jul 2007 /  #21
hello everybody..thanks for response but as i said that at work she looks and smiles also at me and many times she splashes her eyes and look at me and smile and also me the same... does it still mean that she doesnt love me anymore??? please reply...
szarlotka 8 | 2,208  
26 Jul 2007 /  #22
Hmm, from what you have said so far it looks all the world to me that she is playing with you. If she loved you she would be with you not her boyfriend. Sounds to me like you've got no chance for a long term relationship so go now before you get hurt even more.
tornado2007 11 | 2,274  
26 Jul 2007 /  #23
LondonBoy:

To be honest mate she may be playing a game or on the other hand she may be generally interested. the whole eye contact and gesture thing is to see your reaction so she can gage how interested you are. there are two possibilities:

1. She is genuinely interested in the possibility of getting back together and forming the relationship again

2. She is merely just teasing you and saying 'well look what your missing out on' girls like to feel that they have control over a man sometimes

Whichever case i would advice against doing anything rash like asking her out or having a talk. Wait for her to act, it will be the thing she expects you to do least, then you may find out her motives for this eye contact stuff at work.
OP londonboy 1 | 20  
26 Jul 2007 /  #24
its going to be hard when i find out that she is playing with me....i will feel hurted when i feel that her motive was to play with me..... now i feel that life has played with me and i feel i am a looser in life because i love a girl who hasa child and a boy friend...
szarlotka 8 | 2,208  
26 Jul 2007 /  #25
Sorry but but what did you expect from entering into a relationship with a woman living with her boyfriend and their (I presume it's their) child. Someone was going to be hurt in all that and it looks like it's going to be you.
tornado2007 11 | 2,274  
26 Jul 2007 /  #26
now i feel that life has played with me and i feel i am a looser in life because i love a girl who hasa child and a boy friend...

mate feeling like this will get you absolutely no where, you need to move on and learn your lesson from this episode, after all 'its the mistakes that make the man' so remember what happened and accept the fact that 'yes' you have been played and 'yes' you feel like an idiot, then move on, go out have fun and you'll meet somebody else who probably will treat you better and with more respect than the previous girl

there is no point hanging around thinking about what has gone wrong and feeling sorry for yourself because while your doing that the world around you is moving forward, you simply have to go with it, there are plenty of other girls out there for you mate.

Put it this way at least you will know some of the signs if their playing you around :) THINK POSITIVE
OP londonboy 1 | 20  
26 Jul 2007 /  #27
i really dont know how i started loving her but its going to be very hard for me to except that she may no love me
angel eyes 1 | 131  
27 Jul 2007 /  #28
Better to have loved and lost than not at all. have a good cry get it out of your system, brush yourself off and time will heal your pain, we all know what its like to have a broken heart, you cant make her love you.this will only make you stronger and wise to the situation in future.
szarlotka 8 | 2,208  
27 Jul 2007 /  #29
Better to have loved and lost than not at all

In my view in this case, where there is a young child involved, I strongly disagree I'm afraid. I actually think it is totally irresponsible. But there again I'm probably too moral for rmy own good <smile>
angel eyes 1 | 131  
27 Jul 2007 /  #30
Well S im not condoning the relationship in hand just trying to sympatise to the results. (wink)

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