You know friend....'AvJoeUK'... I would never have wished to read such a long introduction, if it would not have been such a touching one.
First of all... you have wonderful writing skills. This has helped me in my English (arguably the main reason for my presence in here).
Now just my reaction to it: Poland is not UK (and this is not to make you more hurt please...). We have all kinds of girls here... but the one who will sleep with you and be in the same flat with you (without any secure, official bond), is perhaps a playgirl (?) (a female version of playboy).
I dont know about the girls people look for in pubs/nightclubs and bars... Never looked for a girl there (because I know, people there are obviously not my time), but the girl who will just be this easy with me!...Is surely a mistake (if my aims are more stable, warm and true relationship).
The right girl would welcome you. And perhaps kiss you on your 5th/6th meeting... She might sleep with you after knowing you for atleast another year (live, not in msn). Or, better still, she would simply wait for a more firm ground (e.g. marriage).
Perhaps sex didnt happen between you (perhaps)... but, whatever happened was too bold and fast. Like a sudden flame on a matchstick.... it extinguishes as soon as its lit.
Choose a person, for her inner qualities --- not what she looks outside. Looks can dazzle you... just like looking at the bright day time sun can make you blind for a short time, and all else is not visible. But soon this dazzle is over...and truth appears infront.
Hope you have a nice stay in Polish Forums.... and you next girl friend (Polish, English or any...) be more humane, more according to you life.
The thing is whilst she was decieving me I didnt know what her true intentions were, sex did happen alot the second time but it was pre-planned or anything. I guess I just fell head over hells because Id never experienced what I thought was true love.
Turns out it was only one-sided, but like these guys have said once bitten twice shy. I had to experience it sometime in my life and I guess Its helped me and changed the way I perceive relationships in the future :P
We have all kinds of girls here... but the one who will sleep with you and be in the same flat with you (without any secure, official bond), is perhaps a playgirl (?) (a female version of playboy).
everygirl in europe (germany included) r according to you playboy? all spread easy - wake up! no smart word frm you.
man, you really took bullets there!!!i'll take this opportunity now... PLEASE: WARNING. What you are about to hear should change your perspective for the rest of your life. No matter what assumptions you make of a woman, her features, smile, giggles, sentiments, words, kisses, texts (Oh yes, those late night texts), flirtatious gestures, compliments, heart wrenching perfume scents, jaw dropping glances and smirks, her laughs, that feeling that the world is watching you, that the stars are out for you, those kisses under the satin winters night and moon at 1 am and the taxi fair home, the "i love you"... - it can all be erased and tossed like some old rag thats just went out of fashion...seriously, realise that this is the self fulfilling prophecy you chose to ignore. When you know this then you cant be crushed.
I recently read in a novel ..."your heart gets broken once, after that they're just scratches"...or words to that effect. Maybe that was the case; or maybe you just thought it was love but experiences you will have later in life may make you realise it wasn't true love but an infatuation. Whatever the case, you will be a stronger person for your experience but the most important thing to take from this experience is to remember how you felt to be treated this way and make a promise to yourself that you will never treat anyone this way.
Good luck and have a happy life AvJoeUK :)
p.s I can't resist saying this, but you know you are in love when you find Warsaw to be 'an amazing city'! I find it grey, souless and depressing but when I was there with the woman I love I nearly liked it! Next time find a girl from Krakow, Gdansk or Wroclaw.... lol.
My first post and story is almost identical to Joe's. I was 16 and got chatting to a 22 yr old in a place about an hour from Wroclaw.We were chatting on yahoo in a tennis chat room of all places and things moved on to phone calls and emails.Ran up several £300 monthly bills and secretly paid them with my savings lol.When i was just turned 18 i decided to visit , told my mum i wouldn't be at the family bbq as i was off to Poland, said i was volunteering at a school lol still to this day i never found the moment to tell my family even 8 years later lol.
Left fake addresses and phone numbers just incase which was dangerous really and off i went.
Took the 24 hour coach from Northampton and went on my first ever trip abroad lol, will never do long coach journeys ever again, when that little old lady opened the boiled eggs in 30 degree heat on a packed coach.....
About 3 weeks before i went she said she met someone at her uni and thought she loved him but i dismissed it as she told me she loved me for over a year and thought i'd just go as a friend if not.
She met me with her b/f at Wroclaw station and he was off to Spain so i stayed with her at her parents place and they were away too so had 3 days of me and her on our own.
I was smitten just like joe was, took maybe 5 seconds and i was hooked and knew i'd just gone on the slippery slope of going as a friend when really it was more to me.
We had an ok few days , but in the evenings she'd go to see her b/f at his uncles before he went to spain, i knew straight away i'd made a huge error, 1st day there and i was left to watch tv at her parents , she got back about 2am and was annoyed i'd waited up , from what i know now that the guy was only with her for sex which she admits (he dumped her about 2 months after i went ) its safe to assume they'd been at it before he left.
I stayed in a spare room and it was ok.I met her parents and cousins/grandparents all fascinated to meet me as its a small town suppose they'd not met many UK people.I remember thinking when i have in-laws and extended family i want them to be like this .By day 4 her dad was taking me fishing and telling me he thought she'd leave that guy soon and to wait for her , i had a huge breakfast spread of about 8 plates of meat put on for me every morning and was treated like a king.
4th night she took me to a pub with her friend and she met some people that she claimed she didn't know but they were very friendly, she sat opposite me next to some random guy and i was happy enough but this guy was all over her and i was getting drunk and jealous and starting doing shots of Krupnik (which i can still taste) and had to leave as i for the only time in my life openly cried in public , just couldn't cope with it all so from then on i stayed in whilst she went out to meet this new guy (i guessed then she was just after anyone, actually felt gutted for her b/f as he was decent to me, shook my hand and didn't kiss her or anything infront of me as he knew i liked her).
She took me some places like an old castle and for a game of tennis and i did love it but knew my Polish experiment as i called it was on its last legs.
We were due to stay together in Wroclaw at her brothers flat who was away then get the train to Sopot to watch a tennis tournament but she told me to go home when we got to Wroclaw and told me to never mention it to her parents .I then stumped up the £40 for the ticket she paid for when we planned it so i even paid for the privilidge.
I have a sense of adventure and also had my dads platinum credit card (for emergencies) so booked into the Holiday Inn for 2 nights whilst she went to Sopot, i had a great time explored in the day time and then got my coach home.
She ended up meeting a guy 6 months after i left and got married and had 2 kids and said she felt she needed to do it to calm down and did apologise for being cruel when i went.I still see her for a beer every year i have been since (8 and counting) and that night i cried at the pub a friend of hers helped me and i went back the summer after and stayed with him and his g/f and they're now my friends i stay with each year and met loads of people so i am glad i went.I still get the odd twinge that things didn't work out but i have done great things there since and she's still an acquaintance so its ok.
I'll be back for my Annual visit in 2 weeks in time for the Reggae Dub festival in Bielawa and getting through my bodyweight in Bigos and Zywiec, i know its a long story but i bet theres others who have had similar , might even finally tell my family this weekend who i stayed with all that time ago just to see what they say.
Maybe some British Girl who is trying to influence British Boy's behavior or who is jealous of Polish Girls made this story up.
British men have their own minds and the vast majority of us really couldnt care less who British men sh*g, its a free world and as long as it doesnt interfer with my life they can do what and who they please.
Still searching Europe for a woman? Woman are woman where ever you go JC, and a prick like you will be single no matter where you go because even the biggest sluts have some standards.
AvJoeUK Dude thats an absolute cracker, what a biatch. Altough i have to say it seems everything fell apart after you shagged her, did you not perform in the sack my man.
Maybe some British Girl who is trying to influence British Boy's behavior or who is jealous of Polish Girls made this story up.
you yanks are so superstitious. always another reason, excuse etc..
