Stalker Friend of my Polish GF?

Well If I see him again outside I will call the police.

He saw me watching him tonight though - so if he has any intelligence he will not be back and if he is then I will call them.

At the end of the day standing outside and watching a business with money is suspicious and grounds enough for the police to talk to him - I can't obviously do anything as far as she is concerned because she has to complain but if he is out there again he will be sorry - well he will be nervous at least!

you're brave to stay in this situation.

Well I don't see it that way.

I do like this girl but thats not why I am wanting the situation sorted out.

This girl works with me - if the manager finds out then they will want to sort it out - and they have noticed him outside watching. It is not a question of IF the police are involved but a question of when.

Someone standing outside a business at midnight looking in looks like a thief if nothing else.

But also I don't see how anyone can actually ignore this situation - I feel anyone who has a similar position cannot let it happen. It is morally wrong to let it continue.

I believe this guy is stalking her - I don't see why he would wait in the rain (it was raining very hard all night) for an hour at least for a minute or two maximum of talking to her... it makes no sense unless he is disturbed.

I know they know each other and he has her number so its not impossible for him to meet her and talk to her at normal times if she wanted that - she also never had to tell me he was strange and following her - she could have said he was a friend and sometimes he came and said hi after work and I would not have given it a second thought.

Tonight I definately saw him watching me or the restaurant after she had gone home - that is concerning.

Of course I did try to talk to her about it but she doesn't want to discuss it with me... she doesn't know yet he was standing outside after she went home.

I will tell her if I do meet her tomorrow. I also now have met some of her friends so will ask them about it when I next see them.

It makes me sad when I read in the news about people that have been hurt or killed by people that followed them and I simply do not want that to happen to anyone ever - and that is the main reason I am watching this carefully.

I could have gone over tonight and asked him what he was doing but I didn't in the hope he would go away - I hope now he has seen me watching him he decides it is too risky and doesn't come back but its impossible to know when someone is mentally unstable what they will do next.

scary. I hope the police can help.

The difficult side to this is that unless she is too scared to confront him - and as she hasn't talked about this to me I can't see either way - is that if I were to call the police then what would she say?

She may be more angry with me because I tried to help than if I did not.

Its a difficult thing to balance. I hope that over the next week she opens up to me IF I see her and maybe we can sort this out between us without me having to call the police without her knowing.

I want what is best for her but I don't want for her to be angry with me because of it.

that is not true in general.


are english jails that much fun? because that is exactly where he'll end up after assaulting this stranger.


are you sure he's the stalker?


brave or stupid?


i'm thinking it's none of your business thus you need to let it go. why but in others' lives? she obviously never asked for your help.


you need to butt out.

if you read the first post, the polish girl likes him and hes only looking out for
her well being..

dont discard the fact that he could become violent or harm her if shes only
met him twice and he wont leave her alone.. apparently this girl is naieve
to this type of situation.. so of course she wont think hes harmful, but if
hes waiting daily outside for her, hes either a relative or stalker.. we all know
hes not a relative.. so.

no we don't neither does this guy. he's trying to do stuff behind her back without being even asked. this is not going to end well for somebody.

I'm not doing anything behind her back!

She doesn't want to talk about the situation with me so I don't know the whole situation but as I said he is standing outside my work watching and has done itmohe than once and that is not normal and is suspicious- I don't know his motives and he may well be a threat to me as well as if he is the jealous type (which it seems he is) then he already saw us kissing the other night.

We all have a moral duty to want to ensure the wellbeing of others when it is clear that someone else may be in trouble - that's my feelings.

One observation I have made about polish people us they are very independent and sometimes don't see what is best for themselves. That is what friends are for and sometimes a real friend will do someting to help that you may not appreciate immediately but is for the best in the long run.

Get the police involved sooner rather than later. You do not know what the guy could be planning. Better safe than sorry.