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SHIFTLESS POLISH MALES FORCE WOMEN TO TAKE CHARGE????


Polonius3  980 | 12275  
7 Jun 2009 /  #1
I am just bouncing these ideas I have heard from native Poles off you. They do not necessarily reflect my own points of view....

Polish males complain the only happy marriage is when they meekly accept the role of pantoflarz (hen-pecked hubby) and go along with everthing the "boss" wife proposes. If they ever disagree, they are in for a battle -- shouting, ridicule, insults, threats, blackmail, tears, silent treatment -- the lot!

But Polish females see things differently. They would love a husband who takes charge and shares the load. Instead the old man feels he has paid his debt to family and society by clocking in his 8-hour day and spends the rest of the day reading the paper, watching TV, drinking beer, fiddling with some private hobby or going out with his mates. That forces wives to take charge and may make them seem to be bossy, but they say there is no alternative if anything is to get done.

Both the above perspectives are turning people away from marriage or at least delaying it to the limits of safe biological maternity. Biologically the ideal age for child-bearing is 23 -- each year after that increases the risk of complications, congenital defects and other problems. Parents close to grandparental age also deprive children of a normal childhood. Such parents, esp. if fairly well to do, may lavish more money on their kids than devoting personal time and effort to them.
wheelbarrow  
20 Jul 2009 /  #2
men shouldn't be marrying any women. That includes polish women. Marriage is bad for all men.
NPosuniak  8 | 91  
20 Jul 2009 /  #3
But Polish females see things differently. They would love a husband who takes charge and shares the load.

I agree, but not only Polish females. A good majority of all females.
scrappleton  - | 829  
20 Jul 2009 /  #4
go along with everthing the "boss" wife proposes. If they ever disagree, they are in for a battle -- shouting, ridicule, insults, threats, blackmail, tears, silent treatment -- the lot!

Sounds like heaven.. ;-(
Seanus  15 | 19666  
25 Jul 2009 /  #5
Some women here are glad to take on that role. And why not? They get things done and and highly domesticated. Some men need to be disciplined.
ShawnH  8 | 1488  
25 Jul 2009 /  #6
Some men need to be disciplined.

And some pay extra for the privilege.
Seanus  15 | 19666  
25 Jul 2009 /  #7
Absolutely. It's sometimes worth forking out money for people to tell you the error of your ways :)
Jihozapad  
25 Jul 2009 /  #8
I just love the generalisations on here.

I certainly don't need a woman to "take charge" of my home - I'm capable of organising/ironing/washing/shopping/cleaning/cooking etc for myself, AND working full-time - and, after all that, I don't make excuses about being too tired for sex either! ;)

Anyway, f*** this, I'm going down the pub! :D

And some pay extra for the privilege.

My best mate would do it for free. And no, you can't have her number! haha
Seanus  15 | 19666  
25 Jul 2009 /  #9
I did those things too, Jihad, for many years. I still do to a certain extent.

It's amazing how your energy suddenly comes back, isn't it? ;)
ShawnH  8 | 1488  
25 Jul 2009 /  #10
And no, you can't have her number! haha

I am sure my wife would object :-(

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