i love you -why say it if you dont mean it

i wouldnt go to bed with a bloke who told me he loved me and just because of that, but i know some girls do. and its so true that in a relationship men say 'i love you' to shut women up or calm them down when theyre angry. it very often works lol. they also think that this is what we want to hear so they say it even if they dont mean it... men are like a different species, no matter what nationality they are :P

no no no.

men can also be very commited and sincere.
but we tend to be more practical about life;)
its easier to say "I love you" then have a headache for the rest of the day.

Everybody lies;) Men lie more, women tell bigger lies.

it's not a rule...


sad but true

o rly?

examples:
men:
-I had to stay longer
-had a beer with an old buddy of mine

women:
-it's your babby

oh yeah men sure lie a lot just to get away from us or explain why they got away from us lol. i prefer if a guy is honest with me, rather than making up all those stupid little lies to 'make me feel better'. its so unnecesary. so saying 'i love you' if you dint mean it isnt a big lie?

aahhh...cmon Ronek... i thought you can do better....
a lie is a lie, no matter it's often, rare, bigger or smaller.... think of it...

oh it is a lie.
as my friend said once.
life is all about right choices you can go to hell for lieing or have a nice & stress free evening.

yes, it's a typical men's answer.... to say everything just to shut her up...if a guy say 'i love you' without meaning it... and just to relax

how would you qualifiy it Ronek? big or small lie? that's bs...

Wow that is not a lie that is absolutely horrifying.

no you're woman and try to impose that sort of logic.
not everything is black and white.
Now I'm not trying to defend men who lie in relationships. I'm not.
But I'm sure you can see the diferance between big and awful lies and small ones who are only told about little stuff to save ones mood.

I would agree with you to a point. However men are quite capable of telling the BIG ONES as well. And any lie is painful.

that may be practical but that's also messed up.. if you have to lie to have a nice evening.. maybe it's time to change the scenery?


that's not a lie.. :D :D

yeah because it doesn't sound like a happy relationship. why be in it if that was the case?

The relationship started off pretty much as a friendship. He was quite aware of that. He suddenly starting becoming much too serious, very quickly. In a sense he scared me away.

So you were never his girlfriend really? Assuming that was so I very much sympathise with your point of view.

from my experience some men are good at saying i love you without geniune feeling!!! i dont think i could do it!!! i find it hard to say when its true!

i like to be with polish girl

This is a very interesting subject and kind of backs up my statement that "Everybody lies" a lot of people and i mean a lot just say of handedly 'I love you' again and again and again to a girl/guy they have been with for about three weeks because the sex was good or something :)

It's such a throw away comment and the word love has been degraded to a certain extent. What i mean is the word does not have the effect it used to. Take swearing for example. If you say the word C**T in public there is a massive reaction to you from those who find it offensive. However amongst friends the very same word can be used a number of times with nobody batting an eyelid because they are used to the language, therefore it becomes less offensive to them because they here it more often. This is the same with the word LOVE, it has been over used in situations where it is not appropriate. Another example is the term WORLD CLASS well its two words but i think you get my point, when a word is overused it becomes devalued and its exactly what has happened to the word love.

I have only ever told one person that i love them, that does not include all those in my family of course. Even that person i don't know if i loved them or not as i am no longer with them.

To me love has lost a lot of meaning due to the amount of use it gets in situations where it is not appropriate. People get married for love, yeah right, they get married for anything now a days, money, security, benefits, passports you name it, people get married because of it.

Tornado. I think you are a tad cynical and if you have never really felt true love then maybe thats why you dont feel the words are of much importance. Remember it is not only the words, but also how you say them..and of course whether your actions back it up. The combination of these 3 things together is powerful

For me love is when that person is always on your mind and you miss that person desperately and you have so much care and concern for that person and your spirits are lifted as soon as you meet or some contact like a text message happens. Sex does not come into it other than it is so much better when it is with a person you love it is then making love not sex. There is a huge difference.

I have been in love once and now maybe twice. It is difficult to tell whether you are in love as you can have strong feelings for someone without being in love with that person.

I don't think it's cynical, I think it's true. If you use "I love you" in situations where this shouldn't be really said, the whole expression starts to mean nothing special.

love is a powerful feeling and when you feel that the words i lovbe you come naturally. if you have to think about it too much. it probably isnt love. some people are in more control than others and may not say it too often

Why lie to someone and break their heart it's not fair or right. but people are people and some just say it to take advantage. I think thats down right low and disgusting . Eventually that person who lied will feel that heart ache form someone else and it will truely bite them in the ass them and then maybe they will realize their wrong doings.

ok we all say somethings in the heat of the moment-which eventually we realise. and sometimes we say i love you but get it mixed up with lust or like. all that apart what if the action oes match the words -why say it?-comments please-i mean just because someone says i love you do they expect too much-do you have to prove love by action-some just think saying it justifys everything

some say that love is a trick nature plays on us to ensure the perpetuation of the species. In that sense every love that ends with... lets call it big bang... is true love ;)

what if the action does not match the words for example- ok so i forgot to pick up the wine , but i got busy. i know i said id book the table for dinner but i was at the pub and i forgot the time-you get my meaning -love forgives-but when does it become to easy to expect understanding-where do you draw the line