Its nice to be taken out, but I suppose after a few years in a relationship its only fair that you split the cost (i just forgot to mention that to my ex after 6 years..lol)
or dropped a bollock - meaning I did something wrong!
Blackpool is a really boring place in Northern England. It's very dark there, so they have lot and lots of lights there and also, they force Donkeys to carry small children up and down the beach in the cold and wet.
I didn't know that string fun was banned in Blackpool....wow, yet another reason to never go back!! :)
Are you a security guard... safe and secure?
I personally think he might be a mathematician, after all he did say:
Ladies and Gentlemen, can I ask, because as I was growing up, did not anyone hear the Parents talking, or saying to the females of the group, when you date find one who is got a good job, or money? and can take care of you?
we make decisions for ourselfs as we get older, do we want money or love? and gentlemen, when you were growing up , or learning about women, did you not hear the older ones saying , watch what you do son, they only want your money!
I heard this, I didnt believe it, you know why? because I did my own thing. it is better to say I loved then to say I have never loved.
you meet someone who is clearly not for you and wants money, you will know this people do use people, it happens. it is sad, but dont take it all to heart and say I will not try again, I will do like what happened to me. then the vicious circle happens again and again.
I used to go out to clubs, see alot of that happening, I stepped back and watched ( I had fun) but I didnt let some good looking guy walk up and take my number. we all know what was on his mind. (not that it wouldnt have been good) but I wanted fun, and I wanted self respect. This goes for both men and women. dont let a pretty face lure your wallet into their hands. Step back, watch, you will feel better knowing that you made more friends along the way. I met my best friend and husband.
And guys, when you do go out, flashing money is not smart in any way. you are a target for sure. Girls, when you are asked to dance, dont accept the first one , tell them maybe next one, this will show them that you are not so eager and set the night in a different direction :)
:)
BTW Spiritus :) glad to see ya on board :)
OK everyone, that post sounded old, but, I am not really old, I am just settled I guess but I know/remember the dating scene, and it is hard. just hoping the best for everyone.
So Patrycja, what do you consider having a good time? When I try to approach a woman (never happens, but I "try"), I do think about, you know ("we all know what was on his mind"). I guess I'm a stranger...
Bolo, of course in a club, the atmosphere is great for flirting , especially under the influence of alcohol :) lol
When I used to go out / I would rip the dance floor up :) at times I had fun approaching the guys. <~for fun, but only joking with them, they knew this, just making small conversation. I never had a good time every time I went out. there were always some really stupid things I had done, like driving home 10 mph on a 45 mph road. and then the next day wondered how the heck I got home! found myself on the floor in my bathroom or one leg off the bed, hoping that would help the spinning. One night I thought someone broke into my house, and it was me falling into the desk and all my glass nicknacks hit the floor, all the "fun" I had involved drinking. and well occasionally "you know".<~were all human.
a good time dont have to involve sex, I am not saying I am innocent, but was never out for that one thing when I went out, it was mainly for me. I didnt want to take advantage of anyone, because I didnt need to. I payed for my own drinks, yes I had many a drinks sent to my table. but I was out with my friends, we did some really stupid things together and some really fun things together.
I can tell you, without shame, my husband was a dream from across the room. when i first met him, I had always hoped we would have more. we clicked from the beginning, People used to ask us if we were GF/BF and we would just say no.
his first smile was melting. yes, I did have my fun. but always kept him in sight, but I didnt smother, he didnt either. we both say now, how we both snatched each other and fight over who was right lol.
Bolo, your handsome, sometimes girls Might feel like maybe they would not have a chance with you because of your very handsome looks. this does scare a woman. my husbands friend has same handsome looks, and when we were all going out to the club. girls would come up to me and say, he is stuck on himself isnt he?
I never thought so many would see him that way, but they do. I dont see him that way, so many said he was stuck on himself, and it wasnt true, he was looking for his soul mate, he had her pictured in his mind, but had not found her. so his standards were very high, but he still was having his fun.
if you see where I am getting at bolo, today my husbands friend now comes over hoping to one day have a wife and children like my husband, and he still has this picture in his head of what she will look like, while having his fun. yet he is still alone. he still goes out to "have fun" he doesnt get the looks he used to and is now very very low self esteem.
your very handsome, you should not have any trouble finding the right girl who isnt worried about what is in your wallet.
On a first date always bring fresh flowers. If you are not going on a private date it is good to bring flowers for the lady who has caught your attention and a good bottle of alcohol for the host, whether it be her father, uncle or brother. In Poland it is common for a gentleman to kiss his date on the hand and open doors for her, however the best thing to do on a date is to be yourself. If you go to a restaurant for a date, allow your date to be seated first and pay the bill, at least on the first date. In Poland it is often a custom for the person who arranged the date to pay the bills, however this is slowly changing to the more Western system of splitting the bill equally. It is best to be a gentleman; allow your date to talk and listen to her attentively, offer her your jacket if it is cold outside, pour her wine for her, allow her to choose what she would like to eat and never joke at her accent. Like that famous song "Treat Her Like A Lady," make sure you do this to any woman, not only a Pole. Also this guide is not necessarily good for every Polish Girl; it just depends on her character and individual preferences.
Its nice to be taken out, but I suppose after a few years in a relationship its only fair that you split the cost (i just forgot to mention that to my ex after 6 years..lol)
I agree that partnership and the whole spliting the cost thing is very important when it comes to relationship and the every day life, but when it comes to dating, flirting, and the more intimate parts of the male/female relations it doesn't work for me.
Well, my ex always paid when he took me out even after 6 years, but in the home we split the bills for the most part...
My mother has never been to the bar in her life whilst out with my father - she has been married 44 years - neither has she ever paid for a meal...I suppose thats the way it should be...
almost as screwed up as Polish men, who are much, much worse....!)
After marriage, their main occupation is sitting on the sofa watching TV. They don't help much with the home chores (which are left 99% to the wife), they can't cook, they have no interests in anything except sport on TV and money, and drinking, and specifically drinking with their mates.
This is not a purely Polish thing of course; just that Polish men are very highly skilled at all of the above, so much that they have developed it into a national art form and would easily win the gold medal if it was an Olympic sport.
Hahaha.. I like your perceptions Arrgghh! Generally that's how Polish men are viewed. My sister lives in Boston and she knows a Polish guy who came from Poland a year ago, and he was telling her that he has to find himself a wife because he's tired of eating from cans and needs a wife to cook for him and clean. But the Polish woman was born and raised in a society where it's common for a woman to stay home and do housework and for a man to earn money.
In the USA women want to be equal to men and work outside the home, many times because they have to, to pay for all the bills, so the man has to cook and clean house and take care of the kids too. Not that they all do either. They come home from work, drink beer, read the paper or watch football, while the wife takes care of the kids, cooks dinner, cleans house all after a whole day at work.
It seem that you feel a bit jaded in Poland in general. So , perhaps it's time to ecpolre other options?
Hi Miranda!
Yep I'm VERY jaded in Poland. At least this forum is a way to let off steam! I would go mad in this country very quickly if not for a few good friends (mostly non-Polish males, I should add; the Polish men - with one or two exceptions - are just a waste of space, socially speaking; and my Polish girlfriend goes apeshit if she sees me even looking at another Polish girl).
I've been planning to escape from this place for many years; next you will probably find me on Germanforum.com complaining about how weird the Germans are!
it seems that you have a few polish "friends"-i just think if you call them "waste of space" when you greet them.you see your image of socialising is a bit different to ours but it doesn't mean yours is better.i felt sorry for your so called "friends".you are simply two faced.
and my Polish girlfriend goes apeshit if she sees me even looking at another Polish girl).
she is right to be.pulling another bird is after fotball and cricket your most appreciated national sport.the rate of divorces caused by cheating is horrible. i would not trust you even when you was left alone with a dog.
I've been planning to escape from this place for many years; next you will probably find me on Germanforum.com complaining about how weird the Germans are!
ya.....
i would not trust you even when you was left alone with a dog.
