Philiosophe
15 Jul 2007 / #1
Hey Everyone,
I am a young (25), attractive(190cm, 95kg, athletic - long-ish california blonde hair), successful Californian currently in Gliwice for an undetermined period of time (my job tends to do this kind of thing to me...)
Back home, I am involved with an extremely progressive, liberal circle. Among our ideals is a very 'free love' mentality- I am currently engaged to a wonderful woman, but our engagement carries no understanding or promise of sexual monogamy. We consider sexuality a drive of our animalistic nature that is best left free to its own designs so that we can build our relationship on other, deeper things. We've been this way for four years now.
Now, here is the situation.
The first and most pressing barrier I've found is simply language. I have found that most local girls seem to perceive speaking English as a chore, and even during my interactions with local girls working in service industries (Hotel front desk, wait staff), they keep their lingual interactions with me short and to the point. This seems to be despite the fact that the girls strike me as being very approachable and friendly (Smiles and Glances are readily and warmly returned). But unlike other places I have traveled in Europe (Czech, Germany, Italy, Austria), There are never any follow up questions "Where are you from? How long will you be here?" even polite conversation. The other customers I meet at bars are even more so... Requests to speak english are flatly denied, although often with a sympathetic look. Its frustrating to say the least.
I have to admit that a huge part of the fault here lies with me being utterly incapable of speaking or understanding Polish. I am working, very hard at the moment to pick up at least the basic phrases, but Having only been here two days (and finding out I was coming the day before I left), my utter lack of Polish understanding definitely leaves tons to be desired.
So my first question is, any pointers to an English only speaker on how he could be more successful at stimulating conversation with local Polish? (Both men and women frankly... ITs tremendously difficult to just exist in a place where you cannot make platonic and friendly connections with the people around you).
The second issue is one that's a bit unique to me being so sexually liberal:
I have found Polish women to be, on the whole, extraordinarily sexually attractive. I love the 'natural beauty', it seems I have found the home of the ideal that women back home go under the knife to achieve. I would, of course, like to appreciate this beauty with more than my eyes... but, well, frankly, I'm at an utter loss as to where to begin, or if this is even feasible here.
My number one rule of sexuality is leave no regrets- positive sexuality the whole way. Thus I do not see sex as my 'conquest', I see it as a more passionate and deep manner in which to meet and become acquaintanted with locals. Obviously this flies much better in some places than others.
Being un-able so far to even cross the language barrier, however, I simply do not know how feasible this is in Poland... and what's worse, I'm nervous to even break the subject with the few girls I know who have been open and spoken with me lest I come off as a letch and loose the few personal connections I've made so far.
I know that women are diverse as a population, so any 'one size fits all' approach should be taken at face value... I was just wondering if I could get the opinions and thoughts of locals. Can a foreigner come to Poland and respectfully request sex without resorting to (the despicable practices in my mind) of playing games with overly inibriated women?
Is there any place for good old fashioned California "Free Love?"
Thank you to all who take the time to respond.
I am a young (25), attractive(190cm, 95kg, athletic - long-ish california blonde hair), successful Californian currently in Gliwice for an undetermined period of time (my job tends to do this kind of thing to me...)
Back home, I am involved with an extremely progressive, liberal circle. Among our ideals is a very 'free love' mentality- I am currently engaged to a wonderful woman, but our engagement carries no understanding or promise of sexual monogamy. We consider sexuality a drive of our animalistic nature that is best left free to its own designs so that we can build our relationship on other, deeper things. We've been this way for four years now.
Now, here is the situation.
The first and most pressing barrier I've found is simply language. I have found that most local girls seem to perceive speaking English as a chore, and even during my interactions with local girls working in service industries (Hotel front desk, wait staff), they keep their lingual interactions with me short and to the point. This seems to be despite the fact that the girls strike me as being very approachable and friendly (Smiles and Glances are readily and warmly returned). But unlike other places I have traveled in Europe (Czech, Germany, Italy, Austria), There are never any follow up questions "Where are you from? How long will you be here?" even polite conversation. The other customers I meet at bars are even more so... Requests to speak english are flatly denied, although often with a sympathetic look. Its frustrating to say the least.
I have to admit that a huge part of the fault here lies with me being utterly incapable of speaking or understanding Polish. I am working, very hard at the moment to pick up at least the basic phrases, but Having only been here two days (and finding out I was coming the day before I left), my utter lack of Polish understanding definitely leaves tons to be desired.
So my first question is, any pointers to an English only speaker on how he could be more successful at stimulating conversation with local Polish? (Both men and women frankly... ITs tremendously difficult to just exist in a place where you cannot make platonic and friendly connections with the people around you).
The second issue is one that's a bit unique to me being so sexually liberal:
I have found Polish women to be, on the whole, extraordinarily sexually attractive. I love the 'natural beauty', it seems I have found the home of the ideal that women back home go under the knife to achieve. I would, of course, like to appreciate this beauty with more than my eyes... but, well, frankly, I'm at an utter loss as to where to begin, or if this is even feasible here.
My number one rule of sexuality is leave no regrets- positive sexuality the whole way. Thus I do not see sex as my 'conquest', I see it as a more passionate and deep manner in which to meet and become acquaintanted with locals. Obviously this flies much better in some places than others.
Being un-able so far to even cross the language barrier, however, I simply do not know how feasible this is in Poland... and what's worse, I'm nervous to even break the subject with the few girls I know who have been open and spoken with me lest I come off as a letch and loose the few personal connections I've made so far.
I know that women are diverse as a population, so any 'one size fits all' approach should be taken at face value... I was just wondering if I could get the opinions and thoughts of locals. Can a foreigner come to Poland and respectfully request sex without resorting to (the despicable practices in my mind) of playing games with overly inibriated women?
Is there any place for good old fashioned California "Free Love?"
Thank you to all who take the time to respond.