My polish g/f can be a nightmare,is it always like this

if you dont walk away from this sorry ordeal its your fault and stop complaining on the internet.

sorry for above

JustysiaS

Regarding her daughter i told her the other day that she lives in my house,and that i don't have to do what she tells me,she has to do what i tell her.I have sky tv,which i pay alot for and her daughter thinks she can just sit in front of it all day and night,so i locked all the channels the other day,and she moaned about it,and asked why i did it,so i said so she can't sit on her lazy ass all day.she wasn't happy,but i still haven't unlocked them,so she sits on the internet all night instead,so i turn that off after 2 hours ha ha.Her problem is her mother never gives her discipline,just lets her do it,as long as it keeps her out of her way,her accounting course is more important.that is all she has thought about the last 10 months.

I sent her mum a quick text last night,nothing important,and she has not replied since.i can't tell her to get out of the house as we rent it together her name is on there as is mine.and if i left i really don't think she would give a dam.usually when i walk out she is texting and ringing all the time,this time.....nothing.maybe her accounting is getting in the way.

Dude, would you put up with this off an English girl?

As for the brat, if she speaks to you like that again, tell her she's on the first flight back to Poland, it's not like her mum would notice!

Shelley

as for telling her she is on the next flight back,i said that a couple of weeks ago,and i said i would pay the airfare to,her mum has even said it to,i get the feeling that her daughter is the last thing on her mind most of the time.its like she don't even want her here,she says some strange things to me to,i don't thinks she really knows what she wants out of life

"My polish g/f can be a nightmare,is it always like this"

Hmmm...My Portugese ex. gf was one too. Are they all like that?

How long have you been dating? They ALL have this potential

;)

heyyy!!!

Fair dinkums...We all have the nightmarish potential :)

Well folks i have to make a move,have to go back to the house and prepare myself for what lies ahead.

There's a daughter in the middle of all this? How old is she? Does she witness all this animosity? You have to get out for the sake of that child. You can't let her be exposed to this. Forget the money or whatever you've got to lose. I can't even stand reading this. I couldn't read what you wrote because it's so negative. Imagine how it feels living in it.

shewolf don't for one minute think the daughter is all sweetness,she is nearly 14 and i get called stupid,on a regular basis,just because i try to lay down a few ground rules,like when i don't want her wasting her life in front of the tv,or spending all day and night at weekends on the internet,she has been here 10 months and made no friends at all,she never goes outside the house,sits all day oaning that english people are stupid,and school is stupid,and english girls are fat and ugly.she is a smaller version of her mother,she does everything her mother does,i get moanig in stereo,she wants (or tries) to tell me how i should run my life,what i should do,she has told me i should work longer than the 12 hours i do each day,she has called me lazy,why only tonight,not more than 20 minutes ago i was talking to her,and she was moaning that i wanted to use the internet for 15 minutes,and she said "how you can ever have a child,your horrible"just cus i wanted to use something i pay alot of money for,and just for 15 minutes.so you explain to me why i should put up with this??and as for moving out of the house,it will cost me nearly 2000,money i just don't have.if i could just walk away from all this,then i would.

If you are renting... give notice that you are quiting. Tell your girlfriend what you've done and tell her that at the end of the rental agreement she is on her own.

This should help her to concentrate her mind.
The school holidays start in a couple of weeks here, so no doubt the little terror will be on her way home for the summer.

Make arrangements to go back to mum and stop feeling sorry for your soon to be ex.
She is using you and doesn't give a toss about you. Please get that into your head.

Spot on

Smifferm,

In fact i'm getting sick of reading what you write here. How can you live in this way? :( I'm sure you are a lot better than that with all your attitudes trying to help the kids and such, but WAKE UP! Everybody in here is telling you to run.

You can't because of the money right? Don't you have any friend who could lend you some spare room in their home? So you could stay there for free, pay the monthly fees in your present house, and when the contract is over, you rent some other place.

And do what Wroclaw says NOW!


Gosh, get out of this life! If you want i can even lodge you in my home. But i'm in Brazil :)

Dear smiffer,

Please get some BALLS!!! You are getting abused, emotionally, mentally and financially! Sad, but true. I do not mean to offend you, but there is a term for men like you and it goes like this: "p.s.y". Get a life, my friend. Do something for yourself for once :) Call up some friends, go for a happy hour with the guys, go to a game :)

She's got a sick hold of you! Run! Run as fast as you can! And don't look back.

It's funny coming from a woman, but I see too many girls/women mistreating their men.

Good luck to you :)

Hey all
Thank you for sticking with this thread,i am sorry that i just keep going on,and i know all of you are right,and i should just cut and run,i have tried,but like an idiot i keep coming back,i don't know why maybe i just want this to work,i have tried hard,real hard,but she just doesn't seem to care,yesterday she said that her accounting was more important than this relationship,now i am starting to try and prepare myself to get out,we just had another big arguement,and she has gone out,shouting that she was going to sleep with someone else cus i am no good at it,lol.I am tempted to pack all her accounting stuff up,and burn it.She knows she has a hold over me,and that i will never leave,maybe for once i should prove myself that she doesn't.In reality she does not care about me,so i know she won't give a rats ass if i left,maybe this is the part that hurts me.I just wish i had as much guts as some of you people.

I think her problems are much bigger than your relationship. It sounds like she has serious emotional problems in general. You really don't deserve to be treated like that.

Hey shewolf

Thank you for the reply,she is going to see a physcologist at the moment (well so she says) i believe she has some serious issues with regards to relationships,i just think she is very insecure,and jealous.

I think Gab summed it up suitably succinctly. You are having the p!ss right royal taken. Not nice but obviously the case. Whatever you decide to do, make sure it all works out in your favour.

Forget the psychologist. It is a psychiatrist she needs, if she is sick in the head.

Once again, this woman is playing you emotionally. There is bugger all wrong with her, she knows exactly what she is doing. And of course it's working. She has got you doing everything she wants and at the same time is making you feel guilty.

We've advised you what to do, all persons on this thread are in agreement, do the right thing and stop feeling sorry for her.

Tell her that you want to have your name taken off the tenancy, tell her you are going to request half of the bond back and tell her that you are going to cancel everything that is in your name...and then smiffer, do exactly what you have said you will do...and as to her comments about the whole sex thing, she is one bitter and nasty b!tch, put some hair remover in her conditioner, that'll fcuking teacher her!

And don't worry, you are not alone. There are people posting on this forum who will be in a similar position soon, just haven't realised it yet.

Hehehe Wroclaw, u r 1 funny man

Cue huge fanfare!

WE, THE MEMBERS OF PF ARE, IN AGREEMENT - UNANIMOUSLY!

Let's all get drunk and have a wild party to celebrate.


Oh! On second thoughts, I'd say do the wrong thing, but this is the reason why: if he thinks he's being doing the right thing so far, if we tell him to do what he thinks is totally wrong, he might eventually get it right.

this obviously has nothing to do with her being polish. love is blind. how true that saying is. you need to try and evaluate your situation from an outside perspective. i know you're probably still in love with her which makes leaving her easier said than done, but honestly, just think about how she treats you. she's manipulating you. you don't deserve to be in an abusive relationship. you seem like a nice, thoughtful guy. she's taking advantage of that.

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Abusive relationships are characterized by extreme jealousy, emotional withholding, lack of intimacy, raging, sexual coercion, infidelity, verbal abuse, threats, lies, broken promises, physical violence, power plays and control games.

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dump her. start to enjoy life again. soon enough you'll realize that you're glad she's out of your life and wonder why it took you so long to figure it out. good luck.

I wanna thank all you people for being suportive,i know you all think i am weak,and when it comes to this woman i am,i never thought she had that much of a hold over me.I know you people are right,and i now i have to try hard to detatch myself from this vile woman,i don't want to hate her,because if i do,i will do stupid things,that maybe i will get into trouble for.She came home yesterday about 9.40pm after going out about 2pm,never said anything to me,just kept out of the way,that was till she heard me on the phone,i was chatting to my sister,she then came into the lounge where i was sitting,i know it was only to find out who i was chatting to,so i went out the room,and out the front door,and walked down the road a bit,next thing i look back to the house,and our bedroom blind was open and so was the curtains(these were shut when i went out)and the bedroom window was opened,so i walked a bit further so she couldn't hear me,when i went back into the house 15 minutes later,she was on the phone,lol.so i just went to bed,about 45 minutes later,she came to bed,we haven't spoke since yesterday about 1pm.She has her final accounting exam tomorrow,so i know she will be studying all day today,so maybe tonight i will go home and watch the tv,very loud,lol.well for now thats it,sorry i keep moaning,but it is good to speak to you all.you are helping me,and who knows maybe soon i can walk away from her.

thanx

"Maybe" you can walk away from her?!

I'm sorry, but how old are you? I think you are in some weird twisted way enjoying this whole situation! You ***** and moan about it, but you take absolutely no action to get it resolved. I think you both need a shrink!

Age doesn't matter Gab,i have tried to leave,really i have,and when all this started about 4-5 months ago,she had a much bigger hold of me,i used to do everything she said,now i try to stand my ground,and she seems to change when i do,not always making her more angry,sometimes she settles after,she just likes the confrontation,after its like all her frustration has gone,and she quietens down,thats when i see the real her,she has told me that she is jealous,and possesive,but she says she doesn't know why,she just says its the polish mentality,and its her character,thats why i came her,to see if this is true,if this is how polish women are.i tell her she just wants to control me,and she agree's,but i also say that she will not take all my individualty away,and that my opinions won't always match hers,she says that i am going against her,i just says even though we are in a couple we are still individuals.

No, it is NOT the Polish mentality, it is HER mentality. So now you know. By the way, what is her legal status in the USA? Just out of curiosity :)

I think they are in the UK, Gab.

Ok, then :) Didn't check :)

Wroclaw,

I'm from Wroclaw :)