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Polish interracial dating

24 Aug 2006 /  #1
Is it true that lot of polish people are attracted to people of other races, especially black american? I am black american myself. I heard this because black american people are seen as exotic because we arent seen that much in Poland, just on TV when they watch MTV or something. So it makes us attractive when we are seen in person because its not soemthing you see everyday in parts of Poland. Some of us atleast, there are ugly people of all races and nationalities. The first girl I fell in love with is polish and we hit it off just great. But does this myth have any truth? Im not trying to get anything started, I was just curious and wanted to hear some other opinions.
bolo 2 | 304  
24 Aug 2006 /  #2
Well, I think Poles in general like "black music" (rap, rnb) and many of them like black actors so there must be something to it. I'm writing from a guy's point of view though - maybe some Polish girl will comment if she like dating guys of other races..
24 Aug 2006 /  #3
You won't get rid of adoring you boys and girls you lucky black american b*****d. :/
FISZ 24 | 2,116  
24 Aug 2006 /  #4
I know some girls in PL that wouldn't ever date a black guy because many things that blacks are associated with is negative like gangsta rap, gang movies...or most things having to do with crime/violence portrayed by the media.

But there are those out there that aren't led by the media or believe propaganda who accept people for who they are and are very curious about interracial dating. I've seen a few interracial couples while staying in PL. I even saw more of a diverse crowd of people this year in Poznan. I was surprised.

I think it's more popular for American/British girls to date black men.

Post # 4- She's not even hot. Why post that?
rafik 18 | 589  
24 Aug 2006 /  #5
Post # 4- She's not even hot. Why post that?

yes i agree i like halle berry(hope it's the right spellin'
FISZ 24 | 2,116  
24 Aug 2006 /  #6
Yes. Halle is a hottie.
rafik 18 | 589  
24 Aug 2006 /  #7
and miss williams...mmm..with this muscles she must be verrry bossy:)
FISZ 24 | 2,116  
24 Aug 2006 /  #8
I've always had a crush on Halle. Prob the sexiest black woman
krysia 23 | 3,058  
24 Aug 2006 /  #9
It would be tough for a Polish girl to be with an African-American dude, because of the pressure she would get from family and friends. It would be fine to have you as a friend, but for a life-long commitment - it might not be so easy. Especially if this was in Poland. People would stare at you guys walking down the street and she would feel uneasy. In America it's no problem. But not everywhere either. I live in a small town in America and even here the blacks are never seen. And when people do see one, everybody stares at them. I can only imagine him walking with a white girl.

But it all depends on the girl, if it doesn't bother her then you've got it made.
OP Superman  
25 Aug 2006 /  #10
Most, maybe like 80% of my polish guy friends were in love with black girls. They would ask me to get them some hook ups lol. And when I would be around the polish girls, I felt like I was Usher or something. Thats what made me ask this question. Interracial dating is very commom here in the US. I see it everyday. If you're in a small country ass town, you might get a few looks, but in the cities, its nothing. And aren't interracial babies just the most beautiful babies ever? And they grow to be some very beautiful people. Heres a few examples, Mariah Carey, Alicia Keys, Venessa Williams, Halle Berry, The Rock, Vin Diesel, and many more. All of these people are drooled over.
FISZ 24 | 2,116  
25 Aug 2006 /  #11
And when I would be around the polish girls, I felt like I was Usher or something.

You weren't in Poland though...were you?
OP Superman  
25 Aug 2006 /  #12
Nope, it was here in USA. So that probably wouldnt happen in Poland? Maybe they didnt seem to care here is USA because its so common.
FISZ 24 | 2,116  
25 Aug 2006 /  #13
I'm sure you'd find someone that's curious there. There are tons of hip hop clubs and the younger women like it a lot. Underground and mainstream clubs. If I were you, I'd go :) Just be sure to go with someone that knows their way around. Most of PL accepts blacks..especially where there are universities such as Poznan.
krysia 23 | 3,058  
25 Aug 2006 /  #14
Yes, I totally agree, that interracial babies are very beautiful. I have met some very intelligent, nice black guys. I'm sure if a Polish girl fell in love with you, she wouldn't mind the stares she gets. She understands that some older people have never seen a black person and she can teach them a thing or two, that we are all human beings and the color of the skin does not matter.

I have a relative, who's daughter married a chinese guy. The parents being Polish were totaly against it. But she didn't care. She loved the guy and is very happy with him. They now have two daughters and yes, they are very cute.
OP Superman  
25 Aug 2006 /  #15
Well I already know that when I get there, I will get looks. Not hateful looks, just curious looks. Im just ready to see how she will act when we are in public. Here in USA, it was nothing. She said her family and friends there are ready to meet me. She said she has pictures of me in her room, speaks of me a lot. I do the same things here. That seems like a good sign. But for now we are just friends. If all continues to go well. I will be going there in a few months. Interracial dating is growing so fast. 1 or 2 generations up, it will be everywhere because racism is dying off every generation. I dont think it will totally go away, but it is dying off. We teach our kids not to be racist, and they teach their kids, and so on and so on, its dying away. Krysia and Fisz, I just wanted to let you know that you two are cool as hell.
25 Aug 2006 /  #16
because racism is dying off every generation

I am not so sure. In France, England, Germany, Holland, Belgium or Denmark children of arab and african immigrants born in Europe still doesn't want to be part of new society. They hate white europans and europeans doesn't want them in their countries. Western Europe has a big problem with immigrants and rasist movements are going strong. Nationalism in Europe has it's renaissance. Have you heard about incidents in Russia? Gangs of skins killing in very brutal way dark skin foreiners: African students, illigal immigrants, workers from post soviet asian republics. In Central European countries such as Czech republic, Hungary, Poland, Slovakia racism is not so common because scale of immigration to this pleaces is much, much smaller.
FISZ 24 | 2,116  
25 Aug 2006 /  #17
Have a fun visit. You're going to love it. Guaranteed :)
OP Superman  
25 Aug 2006 /  #18
Damn thats messed up. Well we all know that racism is taught. Nobody is born with it. I just pray that the ones who are teaching it will be done away with and that racism can start to die off in those countries you mentioned the way it is in the US.

Have a fun visit. You're going to love it. Guaranteed

Thanks dude, I really cant wait
krysia 23 | 3,058  
25 Aug 2006 /  #19
I think it's being more acceptable now than it was 50 years ago, when they had seperate schools for the blacks and the whites.
I think the coolest thing is seeing a black guy speak polish. If some one gives you a curious look, then just smile at them and see their reaction.
iwona 12 | 542  
26 Aug 2006 /  #20
Well I already know that when I get there, I will get looks. Not hateful looks, just curious looks.

You are right. I don't think polish in general are racist in aggresive way it is more curiosity.

My mum knew couple : he is vet from africa his wife is polish. She comes from small town near Krakow. I think they married about 10 years ago. When he first visited her it was a little shock in this town.But I think their love, commitment was so strong that they married ,have 2 children. He works as a vet, speaks good polish. He likes animals and is good vet so he has ever so many customers. People like him, respect...

it sometimes takes time for people to get used to ..... that is all.
OP Superman  
26 Aug 2006 /  #21
See I love to see things like that. Interracial couples who have successful marriages or realtionships. The ones who dont give a damn about what others think. Whether they are black/white, white/asian, black/asian, black/spanish, any mix. I bet that couple has some great looking kids too dont they. Whether I end up marrying this girl one day or not, Im pretty sure I will end up marrying a girl from another country. Foreign girls are my biggest weakness.
krysia 23 | 3,058  
26 Aug 2006 /  #22
When I was 8 years old I lived in Warsaw and a black family moved into our apartment complex from America. There were two kids my age and they were the hit of the play-ground and everbody thought they were so cool!

Kid's don't look at it like adults. To them, a kid is a kid, they see a diff. color skin and think it's cool and accept it. It doesn't bother them at all.
iwona 12 | 542  
27 Aug 2006 /  #23
I suppose because they are different. Maybe I am the same and end up with English man.
krysia 23 | 3,058  
27 Aug 2006 /  #24
They say that "opposites attract".

Well, this is not true. I was married to a total opposite. At first I thought it was cool that he was so different than me. Boy was I ever wrong!!!

There is another part to this saying:
"But the 'same' stay together"
OP Superman  
27 Aug 2006 /  #25
At first I thought it was cool that he was so different than me. Boy was I ever wrong!!!

What were the differences? I think the main reason that opposites dont stay together is that one or both of them are not willing to learn about the others differences. That makes things fun. If you are just the same as your significant other, thats just boring.
krysia 23 | 3,058  
27 Aug 2006 /  #26
Good point. But yes and no.

He liked hunting, fishing, smoking, excessive drinking, football, cheating. So what's the point if I don't like shooting at animals, smoking, sitting in a smokey, crowded bar etc. Sure, I tried fishing and shared his interests but that gets boring after a while. If you don't enjoy it, then it's torture.

On the other hand, a person like you, will do things together that you both enjoy and you never will be bored with each over.

You can look at it both ways.
OP Superman  
28 Aug 2006 /  #27
Wow. Now I dont blame you for getting away from him. It sounds like he put up a front for a long time, and then once you two got married, he showed you that other side. Cheating is just uncalled for. He better look long and hard if he wants to find a girl thats gonna like all of that stuff he likes. Deep south USA, he will find plenty of girls who like all that shit. If I had a habit that my girl didnt like, I would try my best to drop it. Especially if its a bad habit. I hope she would do the same for me. Did he ever try anything you liked? Thats the fun part. You might discover something new and it will make the other person feel pleased because they pleased you. Vice Versa. Oh and one more thing, you should really give football another shot, its awesome.
krysia 23 | 3,058  
28 Aug 2006 /  #28
The guy has been living in one town all his life. He thought he knew everything because he goes to bars and that's where he gets his education. And yes, he did find a "slut", who shares the same interests as him, (smoking, drinking, taking drugs, etc.) so they will stay together. The only thing we both liked doing was SNOWMOBILING!!!! I like watching Packers, but not in a smokey bar.

I introduced him to horse-back riding, traveling, polish culture, etc. You do learn something new from each other but it's like comparing apples to oranges.

For example. You take a yellow warbler and introduce him to a ruby-throated hummingbird. They fall in love. They have diff. interests and hobbies. They think it's so cool that one can do things the other cannot. But after a while it doesn't work out. One likes to eat sunflower seeds, the other saps nectar.

Same with people.
OP Superman  
29 Aug 2006 /  #29
Well luckily we have introduced each other to some different things that each one of us have tried and liked. She likes to watch some of my favorite tv shows, likes the music I listen to. She got me more interested in traveling. I always wanted to, she just gave me that extra kick in the ass to get up and go ahead and do it. She even motivated me to learn to speak polish. Im trying, but I will spend a lot of time in the translation section. Im learning about the polish cultures also. I would make jokes to her saying I am part polish. But since we spend these long times apart, all I can do is pray that we can take it up a notch when we are able to see each other a lot. We will see what happens. Im going to keep you updated
29 Aug 2006 /  #30
I am Half POLISH and half INDIAN... In Poland people saw me more as Indian and in India people see me more as POLISH... I look like a mix and am look at differently in both cultures... but ACCEPTED BY BOTH... and so I guess Poland is changing to be more multicultural and accepting... just as is India too!

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