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Dh (my husband) is not taking news well..

kotek808 1 | 4  
9 Dec 2007 /  #1
Well today I told dh I'm pg and he was not as happy as I had hoped............
I'm kinda worried...about his reaction(we wanted a 2nd baby after ds turned 2 and ds turns 2 in Feb)He said I've ruined his Christmas and his family won't understand that I should think about his poor elderly mother and how I've ruined everybody's Christmas but I can't travel by plane b/c it's high risk pg......I can't risk baby's health or my own.........dh says the baby isn't real yet.....and I should just go but it's 14 hrs in a gonna spend Christmas alone w/ds...........with no tree, no decorations, and dh says no to spending money on gifts b/c he says we have to save..........and I know we do but would like to put up artificial tree before he goes but it's too heavy for me to lift right now........

I guess what I'm wondering is it just my dh who is upset a little or would they(catholic in laws) really not care if I lost baby on the plane b/c of blood clots to see them at Christmas? They are staunchly catholic.......but dh isn't and I don't know anything about Catholicism........perhaps could someone tell me a little about Polish Catholicism?
okay 5 | 23  
10 Dec 2007 /  #2
is dh your husband/partner?-you already have a child with him?-he doesnt sound as if he cares very much about you being pregnant-waht exactly is he annoyed about?
OP kotek808 1 | 4  
10 Dec 2007 /  #3
Dh is my husband and let's just say this pg was NOT planned. He's annoyed that I am pregnant............and just trying to be difficult I'd guess.........

Yes we already have 1 adorable child
okay 5 | 23  
10 Dec 2007 /  #4
you are married pregnacy happens-it takes two to get pregnant so who is he annoyed with-himself?
10 Dec 2007 /  #5
wait a few days - it will eventually sink in:)
wildrover 98 | 4,441  
10 Dec 2007 /  #6
Sorry but i think he is being a bit of a swine about the whole thing.....He should love you and support you on this matter...ok , it wasn,t planned and may cause a problem for you both , but he is 50% to blame too..., you didnt do this all by yourself did you....?
szkotja2007 27 | 1,498  
10 Dec 2007 /  #7
he was not as happy as I had hoped

Yep, hes a man.

He said I've ruined his Christmas and his family won't understand

Kotek - is your real name Marge Simpson ? ;-)

dh says the baby isn't real yet

Thats a Homerism for sure.

I can't risk baby's health or my own

You are right, not worth the risk.
Hopefully he will come round, if not hes a dope.
plk123 8 | 4,142  
10 Dec 2007 /  #8
is the baby your dh? or the milk man's?
OP kotek808 1 | 4  
13 Dec 2007 /  #9
Lol well he's finally coming around.......went to dr and the dr said I'm definitely pregnant.........I think it was a case of foot in mouth disease.........he is warming up to the idea.......I guess he was just in shock......yes the baby is his.....
krysia 23 | 3,058  
13 Dec 2007 /  #10
He was just shocked. Good.
Many Polish Catholics say children are holy, they are miracles so I'm sure his family would understand if you don't come. But this is your life, your child, your family. Don't listen to what others think, but what you want.

Besides, that's the best thing that could happen to your other child too, to have a brother or a sister.
That's cool! Congratulations!
Lucynda 4 | 70  
13 Dec 2007 /  #11
I agree with Krysia -- you are giving your other child a priceless gift. After you and your husband have left this earth, your kids will have each other. Congratulations!
OP kotek808 1 | 4  
14 Dec 2007 /  #12
Thank you....I think it's important to have more than one child and I can tell my son is lonely
for other children sometimes.....I will miss dh but my mother has come to stay with me and I should be ok.......

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