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Confused 1 | 3  
19 Jul 2009 /  #1
I met a polish guy last night for the first time, and we were immediately attracted! We hit it off real well, we kept staring at eachother... we met through friends. One thing lead to another, and I ended up at his place. It was pretty clear that we were going to sleep together, and there wasn't much talk about doing anything otherwise. I have read that polish men can be romantic and kind, and I noticed that... but other things happened that confused the american girl in me.

We woke up the next morning and was set on making me breakfast. He went and got bread then made me scrambled eggs, and asked if I wanted to lay in bed and watch a movie... we talked a bunch, cuddled a bunch, and he was very attentive. How do I tell if they were signs of further interest in me or just some kind of after-morning polish etiquette?
sadieann 2 | 205  
19 Jul 2009 /  #2
we were immediately attracted! We hit it off real well, we kept staring at eachother

Never, Ever, Sleep with a man on the first date, you'll lose him forever. Wait atleast, for a second date...
shewolf 5 | 1,077  
19 Jul 2009 /  #3
or just some kind of after-morning polish etiquette?

Etiquette? Do you mean like being a real gentleman, respectful?
Eurola 4 | 1,909  
19 Jul 2009 /  #4
What's there to figure out? He was just a nice enough man to think about a breakfast after the easy, one night stand...others would just sneak out before you wake up :)

Have you heard from him yet?
terri 1 | 1,664  
19 Jul 2009 /  #5
To me, he was a really nice young man. Don't think he will see you again, - you should have held out until the second date. A girl, who sleeps with a man on first date gives him the notion that she does this with everyone, and no man wants to have a girl that does that. Explain to him (that is, if you ever see him again) that this was a one-off, passion got the better of you.

He was just very weel brought up - how many other men would make you breakfast....start counting...
ShelleyS 14 | 2,893  
19 Jul 2009 /  #6
How do I tell if they were signs of further interest in me or just some kind of after-morning polish etiquette?

By the sounds of it he's very keen, had he not been and thought badly of you, he'd have had you out the door as soon as the sun came up, I dont think it had anything to do with his nationality.
Jihozapad  
19 Jul 2009 /  #7
Innit.

I've made breakfast for quite a few women, but I would never put myself out to that extent if it was just a one-night stand.

He probably thinks you just wanted sex. You need to let him know you might want more. He's very likely to be interested; or, as Shelley said, he'd have had you out of there - even faster than you can say "pusta zdzira". ;)
OP Confused 1 | 3  
19 Jul 2009 /  #8
Totally would have waited until a 2nd date, but this wasn't even a date! I was pretty much just rebounding, and thought he would be on the same page (being a guy at the bar) but was confused w/ all the romantic stuff the next morning... He said he hasn't slept w/ anyone since September... so that makes me wonder if he even does stuff like that? I would have expected just to have left, but he wanted to spend at least 5 more hours w/ me after we woke up. No, I haven't heard from him... :(
strawberry - | 6  
19 Jul 2009 /  #9
The same thing happen me in 2002, I met a polsih man in a pub, we went to his house, he made me breakfast, now we are married,with two children and a great life. Sleeping together on our first night worked for us. I hope you have lots of fun with your polish man.Good Luck
ShelleyS 14 | 2,893  
19 Jul 2009 /  #10
Totally would have waited until a 2nd date, but this wasn't even a date! I was pretty much just rebounding :(

Well, send him a text or even better call him and ask him out for a drink...Dont write it off just yet, it all sounded very positive from your first post...As for wondering if he doesnt do that stuff, well if he usually doesnt, then he must have seen something in you that he liked. Good luck x

The same thing happen me in 2002, I met a polsih man in a pub, we went to his house, he made me breakfast, now we are married,with two children and a great life. Sleeping together on our first night worked for us. I hope you have lots of fun with your polish man.Good Luck

See, all those that say one night stands are bad, can be wrong, sometimes it just seem the right thing at the time, I was with my ex for 6 years, we slept together on the first night, he didnt get breakfast though, he came back round later and took me out for dinner :)
OP Confused 1 | 3  
19 Jul 2009 /  #11
Aww :) how long before he called?
Jihozapad  
19 Jul 2009 /  #12
Well, send him a text or even better call him and ask him out for a drink...Dont write it off just yet, it all sounded very positive from your first post...As for wondering if he doesnt do that stuff, well if he usually doesnt, then he must have seen something in you that he liked. Good luck x

Yeah, just do it.

I met a Polish woman once. We spent all the first night together (no sex! we literally just spent all night on the streets!). She said she'd phone me. I thought, "yeah right, women NEVER phone". But she did. Two weeks later.

3.5 years later we were married, and stayed together for nearly 10 years. Sometimes you just have to seize the opportunity innit. ;)
OP Confused 1 | 3  
19 Jul 2009 /  #13
Ok, so I left him my phone number (actually gave it to him earlier) but never got his. I told him to call me... and he said we should hang out again (could just be polite too) but was able to find his number online (stalker, I know, what can I say? I guess I <3 Poles haha) so should I obviously just wait to see if he calls me? And how long? What if he doesn't know that I want more?
Jihozapad  
19 Jul 2009 /  #14
Problem solved. Send him a text.

If he questions how you got his number, just say "Oh I thought you called me but I missed the call, I saw your number in my phone, and thought I'd just send you a text".
ShelleyS 14 | 2,893  
19 Jul 2009 /  #15
Aww :) how long before he called?

As I said, he came back round later that evening and took me out for dinner.

If he questions how you got his number, just say "Oh I thought you called me but I missed the call, I saw your number in my phone, and thought I'd just send you a text".

Sneeky ;0) But I agree (Id never do it personally though)

Confused

It will get rid of any questions you have, best senario will be you end up going out, worst will be he ignors your text, either way you will know.
Jihozapad  
19 Jul 2009 /  #16
Aww, this is so sweet. Certainly beats watching Magda M innit. :D
Filios1 8 | 1,343  
19 Jul 2009 /  #17
but was able to find his number online

I believe you should text him the words, "Blowjob, my house, this evening."

Can you imagine how quickly this guy would be running over to your place?
pgtx 30 | 3,156  
19 Jul 2009 /  #18
no no no.... don't contact him first... let him take care of the business now...
Kapusta 2 | 66  
19 Jul 2009 /  #19
Need help figuring out a polish guy

You'll never achieve that! ;)

but he wanted to spend at least 5 more hours w/ me after we woke up. No, I haven't heard from him... :(

It's very possible this guy just craved some physical attention so that could explain the extra hours of cuddling and the food. Make sure there is something between yourself and this guy and that you haven't read the signs wrong. If you have read them right then that's great and good luck to you both. If you've read them wrong and there is no future then you had a great night and morning and you should always remember it as a special time. :)

Although you didn't get his number from him you have now got it. If you found it on line then that means it was there to be found so there was no harm in you looking it up, he'll probably be flattered that you did so. Give him an SMS or a little call and hint about going out for a drink soon, or lunch or something. :)
pgtx 30 | 3,156  
19 Jul 2009 /  #21
no... he didn't give her his number for a reason... she found it online so it doesn't look good anyway...
southern 75 | 7,096  
19 Jul 2009 /  #22
I suggest meeting him wearing a see through nightgown leaving little to imagination.
scrappleton - | 829  
19 Jul 2009 /  #23
...others would just sneak out before you wake up :)

I know I would.. Who wants to talk about your "feelings" for two hours.
JustysiaS 13 | 2,240  
19 Jul 2009 /  #24
someone mentioned the guy might've just been seeking some more physical closeness apart from the night together so as harsh as it might sound this could be it. i know it will be hard but wait a few days, if he doesn't contact you then you can txt him, but i personally wouldn't. nobody likes a stalker lol. you got his number off facebook? if so you can send him a message on there. just get on with things and if he calls then great, if not then don't try to make up any excuses for him as he has your number right there and it only takes a few seconds to get in touch and arrange a date. how do you know he didn't delete it as soon as you walked out his door? men are ass*holes sometimes and it is not a great thing to sleep together on the first date/first meeting but sometimes it does work out. depends on the guy and what he's after at the minute, no point trying to figure him out cos everyone is different. if he thought really badly of you then yes, he wouldn't bother with breakfast and cuddles, but maybe he's just one of those undecided men who give away mixed signals, or just a gentleman who will not kick out a chick from his flat after a hot night out lol. either way, hang on there and wait for his move. in the mean time keep your options open, enjoy being single but avoid sleeping with men so fast. i know that sometimes you just can't help yourselves but at least wait till the day after when you both sobered up. do it right, it pays off.
PennBoy 76 | 2,436  
23 Jul 2009 /  #25
How do I tell if they were signs of further interest in me or just some kind of after-morning polish etiquette?

Hmm, well he could have just been nice, but if he woke up sober and looked happy like he wanted to be with you not like he was forcing himself to do it, than you shouldn't worry.
Patrycja19 63 | 2,699  
23 Jul 2009 /  #26
[quote=Confused]I met a polish guy last night for the first time, and we were immediately attracted! We hit it off real well, we kept staring at eachother... we met through friends. One thing lead to another, and I ended up at his place. It was pretty clear that we were going to sleep together, and there wasn't much talk about doing anything otherwise. I have read that polish men can be romantic and kind, and I noticed that... but other things happened that confused the american girl in me.

We woke up the next morning and was set on making me breakfast. He went and got bread then made me scrambled eggs, and asked if I wanted to lay in bed and watch a movie... we talked a bunch, cuddled a bunch, and he was very attentive. How do I tell if they were signs of further interest in me or just some kind of after-morning polish etiquette?

Confused, I cant help you on this , I am sure someone can, but I want thank you
for not calling this man whom you were with anything else but that!! a man.

your question might be similar to others, as is your situation, but the one thing
I noticed is the lack of respect a select few ( could be more but whos counting)
have for women and classify them before they even know them..

names other then what they are, I guess this will always be a problem in why
men and women clash ( because they think so badly at times) Not all do, its sad
though to see it posted in a forum, and its considered a legit question , when
you come in , asking for advice, not knowing fully the situation yourself, not calling
out names, just asking, and using the Word Polish because you obviously are new
and yet you mananged to use Polish in your paragraph to let the readers better understand your situation.. cause it could have been a engish guy or American guy right!!

yes, yes again, I am making a point, I really do hope you find /figure out your
delimma, its not easy meeting someone, having so many culture differences and
not knowing.. it sounds like you two hit it off pretty well though..

best of luck to you both :)
Akira 1 | 14  
23 Jul 2009 /  #27
Give him a few days - txt him 1ce. If he will not give you any sign that he migh be interested in you - abandom your hope - he was looking only for physical intercourse.

And try to avoid going to bed so fast - that might be understood wrong.

I could never be able to act like that (i mean leaving a girl after a one night stand).
But noone is the same.

Best of luck - polish guy
plk123 8 | 4,148  
23 Jul 2009 /  #28
you're rebounding and now you want to date the first guy who gave you the O face? jeeeeeeeeeeeeez. this will end well.
JustysiaS 13 | 2,240  
23 Jul 2009 /  #29
you never know, sometimes it turns out to be a good start of a relationship ha ha (at least you know what you're getting right ;D)
natasia2 1 | 14  
24 Jul 2009 /  #30
My considered opinion: Polish men in general are very highly sexed, and very good with women, if they choose to be. Having said that, there is nothing in yr description of what happened that makes me think he thinks you're special, I'm afraid. He might do, but he also might just be being pleasant in a mutually-pleasing encounter.

You will have to see if he calls you. But everyone is right: if you want to keep him, don't sleep with him again for a while! (you should have made him work for it ...)

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