POLISH GUY AND BLACK GIRL!

This thread went kinda nice...cool...
This is not the PF i knew... well "change has come"...yawn...

I hope it stays

...yawn again...

"i am a black girl from england, funny country but anyway, i have a polish boyfriend. he is the sweetest guy i have ever met. he is loving, kind, sexy, very handsome, good at cooking and everything. he is what i have been praying for. he has now met my mom and bros. i have met his sister and will be going to poland to meet his parents. i am excited. and yes, we have recieved lots of racism here in th UK. will i recieve it more in Poland? what do Polish parents expect a daughter-in-law to be. what do i bring? is there any traditional polish things i should know? help!!!!!!!!!"

Hi I am a Polish guy married to a Jamaican girl. We have 6-month old twin babies. We live in Florida. Both our moms came to visit and help with the babies. We went to Jamaica already and it was great but eventually we would like to make a trip to Poland as well. I know our families and friends will get along perfectly but I'm little worried about the common intolerance that exist in Poland as I am told. I really don't want to expose my family to any negative experience. Have you already made it to Poland? How was it? Thanks.

Are you a Polish national or ethnic Polish?

I think you should go bro, I don't think you'll have any problems.

I'm not sure. What is the difference between the two? I was born in Poland so I guess it's both? I trust you on having no problems although someone else sent me a message of warning to expect problems. I value everyone's opinion.

To be fair, I've not been to Poland in a few years, so perhaps the other person is right.
A lot of the truth on this forum happens off the board, not on it.

Ethnic Pole is someone of Polish lineage, A Polish national would be like someone who grew up in the country.
I just wasn't clear on your perspective.

Your an ethnic-Polish American, so it shows you probably don't know what to expect, as opposed to a Polish National who grew up there, knows the country and is wondering what peoples opinions are.

(Like a Pole asking you about Florida - if you understand me)

I'd say he was Polish, not Polish American.

I'm mixed race and my boyfriend is Polish - born in Warsaw, raised in Canada. His parents and family are all traditionally Polish. Anyway, my concern is that we are serious and we want to get married eventually BUT he still hasn't told his parents about our relationship...

He knows his parents will accept me, but the problem is the rest of his family (older family members).

6 months ago he wanted to tell his parents everything, but I asked him not to because I got too scared (hehe :S). It would be a relief if his parents knew about us because it's tiring keeping this a secret. We don't live in the same country as his parents do so at least there's no chance of running into them. But every time his parents call, I have to stay quiet and when they ask him if he's interested in anyone he has to lie to them and say that he's dating around. I don't feel right about keeping this a secret anymore or lying to his parents. I really want them to like me and accept me. We love each other so much, I just hope they will see that.

Congratulations to you : )
Please tell me how your trip to Poland went!

Anyone else have any advice, warnings or encouraging words??

xo

Was he? He ain't dead yet...

I guess we differ here Shelly girl, I would say he was American and not Polish.

Part of my family came to Ireland from Somerset 400 years ago during the Munster plantations, but I am Irish, of Anglo-Irish extraction.

My GF would be Russo-Lithuanian, ethnic Russian.

If you grew up in America, you are American.
If you grew up in America, and are of Irish/Polish/African ethnicity, then you are Irish-American, Polish-American, African-American.

lol, I'd say you are pretty much Irish, but he was born in Poland and emmigrated to America as a child with his parents who were born in Poland also, how does that make him American?

I have Irish herritage but I consider myself English since the majority of my family are English and were born in England, had I been born in Ireland and moved to England as a child I would still consider myself Irish.

Well I can "quote" a black guy living in Poland who said this in a video

"When im there and there is a situation that I do something bad people say it's ok, no harm done and I am not the guilty one. There is also happening that when im not doing anything I get accused for something, so a Pole isn't equal to another Pole that's very important to remember"

He has lived in America during his formative years, been educated in America, practises American customs, experienced American culture (probably has an America accent) and probably calls Florida home.

I don't see how he cannot be considered American.


In that scenario, you would be Anglo-Irish.
I should have known you had Irish heritage, you're too logical to be anything else unlike the rest of these maniacs ;)

P.S. Do you remember what Wellington said? ;-)

English accent = English. End of story.


No, tell us......

Sorry sweety x


Okay, Im happy with that, because I have blood ties, the Polish guy living in America doesn't, therefore I consider him Polish but living in another country.

I'll put it like this, say my friend decides to go and live in Spain with her daughter, will her daughter become Spanish because she simply went to live there with her parents? I'd say no, she is still an English person who happens to live in Spain, if her daughter marries a Spanish guy their children will be part English and part Spanish they wont be full Spanish just because they happen to be born in Spain...

en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Arthur_Wellesley,_1st_Duke_of_Wellington

Wellington said "Being born in a stable, doesn't make you a horse".
Referring to Jesus Christ.

Wellington was born in Ireland, but claimed to be British (English I think).
This was before the Act of Union in 1801.

thanks dannyboy....u learn something new every day...:)

daniel o'connell had asked Wellesley how - having been born in Ireland he could speak badly of her?....

Wellington (wellesley) replied "just because one was born in a stable doesn't make one a horse"

....meaning that by birthright (parents/privaleges/religion etc) he was British & by place of birth Irish...(i had never considered new testament overtones until mentioned above...ther may be some insofar as being higher born etc is concerned)

O'connell replied...

"it may not make one a horse, but in your case it does make one an ASS!!!!!!!!!

that answer (above) that o'connell gave (spontaeneously) to wellington's well rehearsed spiel is largely sadly forgotten!!

LOL, Jay, you're correct mate, I had also forgotten about Daniel O'Connells reply.

Cheers for that :)

I'm new to this site but this post drew me to join...

I met a polish guy (he lives in the states but is originally from poland) online and he has come to visit me three times and I really like him. The thing is doesn't think he can handle having "half black kids". I asked him what his mom would think..he says although she is not racist she would not like her grandkids being part black as well. I find this so confusing since he says he is mainly attracted to black women. I don't know if I can continue a relationship with him if he is not prepared to accept it all. I just hope your experience with his family is nothing but positive!!

OHHHH! His family is just going to love you.

Im attracted to black women also, if he doesnt want you . . . come to me baby lol

my polish man doesnt smelllike cheese!! lol