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POLISH GUY AND BLACK GIRL!


Blingin 5 | 52  
13 Mar 2007 /  #1
i am a black girl from england, funny country but anyway, i have a polish boyfriend. he is the sweetest guy i have ever met. he is loving, kind, sexy, very handsome, good at cooking and everything. he is what i have been praying for. he has now met my mom and bros. i have met his sister and will be going to poland to meet his parents. i am excited. and yes, we have recieved lots of racism here in th UK. will i recieve it more in Poland? what do Polish parents expect a daughter-in-law to be. what do i bring? is there any traditional polish things i should know? help!!!!!!!!!
Ranj 21 | 948  
13 Mar 2007 /  #2
So you are engaged to be marry, Blingin? Congrats if you are. I'm not in Poland, but I know there is a thread running around this forum on Poland and racism....should be able to find an answer there. Even if you come across racism, if your love is strong, it can survive it. Good luck and welcome to the forum.:)
BubbaWoo 33 | 3,510  
13 Mar 2007 /  #3
hey blingin

welcome to the forum - stick around awhile and all your questions will be answered... :)

but ready yourself... expect racism... unfortunately...

where does your bf's family live?
OP Blingin 5 | 52  
17 Mar 2007 /  #4
im not sure where? thy live in poland but im not sure what city. i will find out. thanx for replying.

i guess i should. thanx for that!
fathibest 2 | 25  
18 Mar 2007 /  #5
Impossible is nothing!

Keep that in mind girl. Love can make you weak but strong at the same time.

Keep it going
kiko - | 3  
20 Oct 2007 /  #6
I am black and have been with lots of polish girls, they will love you if there son loves you. I never had any trouble with parents, maybe its the sort of person I am.

Happy for u and wish u luck.

no advantages in being a racist.

kiko
jiyuishi - | 1  
11 May 2008 /  #7
hello blingin, i hope you will read this anyway and if not, another person with the same question will read this - maybe.

well, i will try to keep it short...

i'm asian and have a polish gf since 2 years(we both live in germany) and i was many times in poland.

my experiences:

-poland has a lot/big racism problems, you can nearly compare it with russia.
not only the old people have problems with other nationalities, even the younger, well educated people and this is kind of scary!

well asininity are everywhere, but this is just my opinion about poland!

-about her mother...when i met her mother for the first time and tried to shake her hands/introduced myself, she jumped up the couch and stared at me with her big shocked eyes and avoided directly to get to know me.

she started to have a very aggresive "brawl" with my gf. i just stood around and was very perplexed, didn't know what to say and to do. -___-

it ends up very bad....
my gf cried and we had to leave her mother's apartment at night-time.
month later there was still no peace in her family and i couldn't live with that matter that my gf got problems because of me.

i tried to end our relationship, because i just wanted peace for everyone!

well like i said,my gf(in general her whole family) got problems because of me.
i was accussed by her mother for everything what comes in her mind and was slandered/insulted, because i'm asian. -___-

at the end, i'm still together with my gf, but not really welcome in her family.

for me, idiocy is a curse for the humanity.

(sorry for my english!)
xantala - | 1  
12 May 2008 /  #8
Hello I think the racism is something ubiquitous, but at the end the love is the winner, so don't worry, love, go with him to the mountains, travel a lot. I am mulatto, and I know the racism, but remeber ,you are beautiful, not matter what they say......
taiji000 1 | 13  
13 May 2008 /  #9
Just be yuorself :)

It depends who you meet, me and my (black) girlfriend didnt experience any rasism in Poland, we did in SPain though in place where there is loads of foreigners, so it just depends, but dont worry, as i said, be yourself and everything will be allright, and if they dont like you becasue you are black or something then thats thier problem ^.^
fishstick - | 10  
19 May 2008 /  #10
-poland has a lot/big racism problems, you can nearly compare it with russia.
not only the old people have problems with other nationalities, even the younger, well educated people and this is kind of scary!

+1 on that, especially the older generation, and those raised in smaller towns and villages tend to be. The younger generation however tends to be more open toward interracial relationships. Due to the small number of Black people in poland, not to many older polish people have ever been in contact with Black or Asian peeps. I duno, just be yourself, if they see that you care about him and that he cares for you as well, they will accept you. If not, ohh well, dont worry. Its their loss.
espana 17 | 910  
1 May 2009 /  #11
yesterday i was talking with a lady from poland , and guess what ? SHE WAS BLACK!!!!!!
Arien 3 | 721  
1 May 2009 /  #12
Yeah, and? (As if that's something unheard of?)

:)
Jethro - | 28  
1 May 2009 /  #13
. i have met his sister and will be going to poland to meet his parents

Ohhh, I am sure that they will be thrilled to death to meet you.
Zosiaprucha - | 28  
1 May 2009 /  #14
OH YEAH! That should be a big hit.
Sokrates 8 | 3,346  
1 May 2009 /  #15
do Polish parents expect a daughter-in-law to be.

White.

what do i bring? is there any traditional polish things

Dating white girls is pretty traditional here but you'll be just fineeeeeeeee.
Pani_Polska - | 89  
1 May 2009 /  #16
Best of luck to you, it could go either way! They could be really nice and cool with you or they could be total freak nutcases due to the color of your skin. I wouldnt worry about it either way, if they are rude dont take it personal, its their loss. If your man loves you thats all that matters. My man in the past dated girls here in the States of different ethnic backgrounds and his mom was really nasty about it and wouldnt allow them to come in the house. This may be the case but it may not.
nunczka 8 | 458  
1 May 2009 /  #17
My man in the past dated girls here in the States of different ethnic backgrounds and his mom was really nasty about it and wouldnt allow them to come in the house.

I wonder why????
nunczka 8 | 458  
1 May 2009 /  #19
HB, What would I do if you were not here to explain these things to me.
Pani_Polska - | 89  
1 May 2009 /  #20
I wonder why????

hahaha um, HMMMMMMM let me think on that one! :P

Because she's mean?

hahahaha thats a nice way of putting it
nunczka 8 | 458  
1 May 2009 /  #21
Pani, Are you in America on a student exchange program? Or are you an American?
Pani_Polska - | 89  
1 May 2009 /  #22
I was born in Poland and lived there until I was 16, my parents moved us to the States to be closer to my mom's sister and brothers. I am in my early 20's. I'm Polish-American I guess you can say
nunczka 8 | 458  
1 May 2009 /  #23
Hmmm, If you were born in Poland, then you should be a Pole. I would think. Are your parents as liberal as you? I am not trying to be ignorant, but I am just a curious persion. If these questions bother you, just ignore them
Pani_Polska - | 89  
1 May 2009 /  #24
Are your parents as liberal as you? I am not trying to be ignorant, but I am just a curious persion. If these questions bother you, just ignore them

No, you are not bothering me with your questions. Yes, you are right, I am technically a Pole, I have Polish citizenship but I am working on American as well. No, my parents are not as liberal as I am. Quite the contrary. My parents and my (Polish) boyfriend's parents are in line with the same mentality. He was actually born here but his parents and older sisters and brother were all born in Poland.
helpme - | 5  
1 May 2009 /  #25
What matter in a relationship is True love not the ppl around the LOVE, KIP IT REAL.
PurpleLeo 2 | 47  
5 May 2009 /  #26
I just realized this thread is a little old so I'm
not going to bother posting. But I'm interested in
knowing what reactions you got when you eventually
went to Poland??
Babylon 16 | 192  
5 May 2009 /  #27
Brits are racists
dannyboy 18 | 248  
5 May 2009 /  #28
To the OP,
in truth, it could be 50/50, it could really go either way.
The only place I ever saw a dark skinned woman in Poland was at the airport.

You could go through the whole of Warsaw, without seeing a non-white person.
In the rural regions, this would be normal, but I thought this was strange in the big cities.
I've heard its changed a bit nowadays tho.

Even tho I'm Irish, I look like I am from Spain/Turkey and I am big because I enjoy bodybuilding.
There were many people who nearly tripped over themselves staring at me. Not just women, but lots of older men too.
You would think they were homosexual, they stared that much.
So all I can say is to be prepared for lots of staring.

But in truth, despite the staring, everybody was really friendly.
I think I was one of the first Irish people they had ever met and I was half decent at Polish so they were probably excited/proud. Many of them were really happy that I could identify with them, like talking about Pudzianowski, they thought this was brilliant that foreigners had heard about a contemporary Pole.

Sometimes when I am in Lithuania, I try to keep my voice lowered or speak only Russian if there are young guys around, its the safest option at times. In the summer, you can tell I am not Eastern European from the first glance, although many people think I am Russian when my skin returns to a lighter colour.

I don't know why, but I feel like Polish people are more accepting from the outset than Lithuanians for example. Lithuanian people really shocked me at how rude they were and how suspicious they are. They are far nicer when you know them personally, but when the people don't know you on the street, they simply see you as competition. Its normal to stand on people to get to the bus first.

Polish manners and customs are a lot closer to us in reality.

As for family, well, my ex-girlfriends family couldn't have been nicer.
Her grandparents may aswell have been Irish only for the fact that they spoke Polish.
Her whole family were really nice people, but I got on the best with her mother.
Even today, sometimes I still miss speaking with her mom, lol.

So anyway, some people will probably admire your black beauty, and others will be scared of you, but most people should be ok. Just expect a little staring.

And make sure that he tells his mother in advance that you are black.
I made sure for my GF to tell her mother in advance I was Irish.

My mother has no problems with any of my girlfriends and gets on great with all of them, but she still secretly wishes I had an Irish girlfriend, even tho thats not what I want.

Same for Polish parents.
Probably the same for your parents too I guess.
ShelleyS 14 | 2,893  
5 May 2009 /  #29
Brits are racists

All Poilsh men smell of cheese!

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