Polish Girlfriend gone missing

well then I guess we will have to put yo mamma in the mental ward for having you right :)

Oh !just forget about it and put it down to experience, and move on with your life. Not everyone is like that, there are good and bad people in every culture.

Take care and find someone who appreciates you for what you are and not the size of your wallet.

i just read the whole thing, and i wanted to say good riddance to the author, what a scheming, manipulative and heartless tart!! this is such a terrible pattern, good UK guys ending up with the worst examples of Polish women. i hope it all works out for you Ted, plenty of fish in the sea, hopefully not as fishy as this one if that makes any sense lol. all the best for the new year!

As ever, the voice of reason. I'm with Justy on this one. I previously said to give it time but some girls just drop you like hot cakes. 'Love many, trust few, always paddle your own canoe, mate'. I've had 3 GF's who have claimed to have, and actually did on occasions, show(ed) me love. How quickly they scamper and start new relationships. It makes you wonder why you should even try.

Fook em, man. There's only one person you live with your entire life, every waking moment, and that's YOURSELF. Be true to yourself and move on.

I've learned, through time, to use my judgement better. I have no reservations about being abrupt or harsh with some people. Sometimes, you have to be cruel to be kind.

What an effing story, sends shivers down my spine as I think about all these plans I've been making with my girlfriend, who's been really great to me but... shit happens as they say.

i must say i find it disgusting to play someone like this and then do the vanishing act after making up a lie about being in hospital. why not spread some goss about being dead whilst she's at it just to top it off??? people don't disappear like that, in the age of email, txt, skype you name it there is a very slim chance that someone truly hasn't got a way of letting their loved one know about what's going on, if they care they will find a way to get in touch. if you lost contact like that, it's because they don't want any contact with you. it's pretty shocking that so many Polish girls are into this game of loving a guy one day and pretending they never met him the next, those stories keep coming. shame on you, you dumb byatches!

I can see what your lad sees in you, Justy. You are a super chick!! No offence but I think some Polish girls (NOT yourself) don't really know how to fully love. I look at their behaviour and actions and I just see distance, game playing or deception. Just an observation, different eyes see different things ;)

he's gone a bit blind in the last few months (not literally i hope for his own sake lol) and we are not getting hitched anymore, never started planning the big day anyway but the ring's been back in it's box since September... that is the cruelty of life, if you have a soft spot for someone you gotta have a tough arse ha ha. some people are ready for commitment but they can't find the right person, other people don't wanna commit and they meet someone who would do absolutely anything to make them happy - but they choose to throw it all away and take the p*ss out of what could've been the best thing ever happening to them. oh well what can you do. 2008 was overall not so great for JustysiaS, thought i had things sorted but hey i'm still young, if this doesn't work out i can always go back to PL, i'm pretty much sick of this country now...

I'd rather discuss such things with you via PM, Justy. I know what you are going through.

i'm fine, really, it's nothing. i'm not single so all you pests - don't even think about it ha ha. it doesn't bother me, if we are meant to be everything's gonna be fine, if not then you just move on. relationships are hard work.

Tell me about it. Thankfully, moods wash over. It's the permanent future that you have to work on endlessly. It's the never-ending attempts to reconcile different visions that grinds you down.

Shrugging your shoulders is sometimes the best approach :)

Don't take this the wrong way but I feel that when you start to feel something like that strongly then you know it's time to go back. If nothing is making you happy here then don't fight it. Why stay when you know that things could be better in PL?

Or maybe life would be different for you here if you weren't with that guy? Who knows? You have some decisions to make and good luck with them. :)

As for the girlfriend of the OP, she's just nasty.


Precisely.

justy, I cant agree with you more , just keep your head held high ;)

Whewww.. I know that's right ;- Y

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why thank you everyone, i wasn't expecting all these responses. i've been holding my head high since september, it was tough to accept it but then i'm tough. disappointed, paranoid, stressed out but tough ;). i'll be fine, i've got a bunch of great people and all my family to support me whatever happens.

Just my Thought / I think her parents are holding her prisoner ! So she cannot communicate with you ! But if she cares for you she will find a way !

Just to let you know justy, we are both going through similar positions, so ur not the only one;)

it would've been quite selfish to think i'm the only person going through this D lol

Dont let the bastards get you down girl :)

It would be interesting to hear the girl in the story tell her side of things. Women usually don't just dump a guy for no reason. I'm not saying this happened in their case, but some men will do things that anger women to the point that they never want to speak to them again and men don't realize what they've done and they're genuinely surprised.

Typical, guy gets dumped on, and its the guys fault!!

it's not typical... but there are always two sides of every story...

hmmmmm, aye it is when its a guy. every girl gets all the affection and support, but the guy usually just gets the blame...

The problem is the lack of communication on the girl's part though... She could be angry about something, maybe something he did or the situation she's in, but it seems like it's the case of the stereotyped "flighty Polish girl."

It's a lot easier to avoid things than to confront them in a relationship but it's usually not the right way to go.

There is proof to confirm that stereotype. I remember one girl here who helped me (work relationship). She grew fonder of me and one night she came back to my place (back in early 2005). She explained how she felt and she tried to initiate things. I was nice to her at work and we kept chatting. I wasn't tagging her along. In my eyes, we were just doing what friends do.

When she wanted a relationship, I told her that it couldn't happen. She got angry and just stormed off. Wow, is friendship not good enough?

I would love to hear her side of the story, just anything! hearing nothing from her is the worst part about it - it just renders all the love I had for her and the times we had together utterly meaningless.

Nobody's perfect but I can only honestly not think of anything that I did or say which would have made her angry. Don't you think I have been racking my brains about this? - questioning myself and trying to think of anything that would have led to this. I thought the world of her and would have done anything for her (which I was doing)

The only thing I can think of that would have annoyed her would have been me contacting her friends and sister to find out what happening when I was told the hospital lie- that would annoy someone who just wants to get rid of someone by the cowards way out;-)

In a way I'm glad that she has done a runner on me as opposed to something serious with father problems or even worse an unwanted pregnancy....still a fool but when you loved someone you still want them to be ok even if they treat you so badly.

anyway I'm moving on and the sleepless nights and feeling down phase has long past.

it's just life, sometimes you are up and sometimes you are down....good for you Justy on how you are dealing with your own situation! as you already know this kind of stuff happens to everyone but the future is still ok

Sounds like u got played and she went back to her bf.

some people want something more, have more feelings.... and what's wrong with that...

Well, if they know what they are getting themselves into, all power to them :)