Getting Engaged to Polish girl, asking permission from her dad?

I was looking for some info, im a english guy and i want to propose to my polish girlfriend in september when we go on holiday, i was wondering if you have ask permission from her dad before we get engaged or if it is just before the marage day..

also do u think i will beable to do this over the phone as we are not going back to poland before jan now...

cheerss

Well, there might be a specific custom in Poland but I would say it is ALWAYS a must to ask the father before you propose. So definately do so. If there is no way to do it in person, I suppose over the phone would be acceptable. Perhaps a hand written letter requesting permission? Definately send flowers to the parents. And good luck.

Its probably a good idea to sit down with the dad and discuss her dowry, how much he is going to cough up for you to take her off his hands, before you go to the expense of buying a ring etc

Well he dosent speek any english and i just started learning
polish so could be tricky, Thanks for the advice though

maybe a note in Polish would be a good idea if you still want his official approval.

Brilliant move. I am sure they will really appreciate it. Good to have your future out-laws on side from the start too.

Does he have someone in Poland who can translate a letter written in English? That's probably your best bet if there is.

Even if you write in English, you might receive your reply in Polish so is there someone other than you girlfriend who can translate for you?

Whatever way you go about it, you'll earn points for asking her Father first ;)

Good luck. :)

So can someone here translate this simple note in Polish? (Or maybe have a better suggestion on what else to include in such a note?)

" Dear Mr _______

I am seeking your approval to marry your beautiful daughter _________ You can rest assured that I will love and take care of her as much as you have all these years :-) .....

nice said unless you're proposing to Josef Fritzls daughter

i can get my polish teacher to help me, thank you guys! lots of advice!

nice card or a writing paper would add some more points;)

LMAO. That killed me! ROTFL!!!

OK, not to make fun of Ajb, I give my opinion, i.e. a Polish girl's opinion:
If a Polish guy asked my father for permission to marry me, I'd feel rather offended. As an adult person, it is I and only I who decides about such things. Why would a grown-up women need to ask daddy for permission, even a symbolic one?

If a foreigner did it, I'd forgive him (you must make allowances for foreigners getting strange ideas about our culture...)

For me, the acceptable scenario is: a guy proposes to me, I accept and then, we officially inform our parents about our decision, together. A party, during which the parents of the young couple would meet, would be a very good idea. Of course, I'd rather my parents knew him before they learn we get married.

We have 21st century and nowadays women decide who they marry themselves. They are no longer a property that goes from a father to a husband.

The permission, Switezianka, is just to ask. The decision to marry the poor schlub is still yours. It's not, "Hey, Pops, I'm going to marry your daughter. Cool with you?" It's, "I'd like just your permission to ask the question." The girl still decides.

hehe what alternatives does the pop have. If he disallows because he hardly knows you, then write back and say ooops sorry I was just being polite, but then I think we can mange it without your permission anyway... :)

lol. u'v been on a roll bud.


bingo


but let's not fool ourselves either.

Personally, I wouldn't feel offended. It's a nice tradition that a guy should inform a Father of his honourable intentions towards his daughter. After all he's only informing the Father of the intention to ask the daughter. It's still the daughter who says yes or no.

So someone answer the guy! There may be more us us who want to know how to say. "I've come to ask for your daughters hand in marriage."

I agree. i didnt ask Kasia's dad if i could marry her. he would say no lol. but she said yes and we are the happiest couple ever =]

I don't think there is anything wrong with asking for her parent's blessing. Of course I would ask her first and talk about this with her. But the parents will surely respect this gesture.