lightsphere 1 | 6 3 Jan 2007 / #1Hi!In the past month, I had an approach to a polish girl, for some weeks, and, altough i'm not seeing her anymore, I became very curious about what happened, and how much of her behavior was part of a polish cultural heritance... maybe this all sounds pretty serious, but I take this all as a part of the life game ;-) .She is a polish (from Warsaw), educated, intelligent and well, ironic-humored, 27 y.o. cute blue-eyed blonde who was visiting my city, in Mexico, for 6 months. She was in love with anything mexican, and was introduced to me by a friend that apparently has no relationship-interest in her. I was single for some months, and became instantly fascinated by her. I was friendly and kind to her, but didn't make any advance, until, some weeks later, we accidentaly (I live in a very small town) meet in a restaurant I was dining at. She sat at my table, and we started talking and talking and talking (she, as well as me, speak in very competent spanish and english) and very soon we were having lots of fun, next day we went to a bar, next day to a karaoke, next day to the beach, then to a dance club, having dinner or supper together almost daily. We were very intimate and open in our friendship relation, but her mood remained kind of cynical/humourous, and my instincts told me to remain like this myself (anyway, this is a natural for me).We keept dating, and in a few days, I told her that I liked her very much, but she told me she wasn't ready for a relationship. I took her 'no' with a light-heart, and we keep going as friends. One night, we were looking a movie in my house, and later, I asked her (very casually) to stay the night there, and she agreed as long as we didn't have sex (I have ony one, very big bed in my house). I said 'ok' and we really were speaking most of the night, and sleept just a couple hours; I think none of us could sleep because of the sexual tension (i'm sure it was hard for her too! ;-) ). Anyway, in the next days we traveled to some Mexican cities, kept dating, and she became closer and more affectionate with me. We kept sleeping together almost daily, no sex, but some cuddling, touching, kissing and stuff. She slept hugging me with arms and legs.Then, one day before a wonderful visit to Mexico City, she didn't call me anymore, nor would she answer my calls or messages. Then, it was 5 or 6 days from there, and some friends told me that she was dating the friend that originally introduced her to me. Then, some days ago, I get to know that he's her new boyfriend!At first I got a little infatuated and when I discovered the truth became disillusioned, but I understand that, altough I really liked her, she was playing a game, or didn't liked me at all. I'm almost peaceful with the situation now, but some questions remains in my head.A mexican woman would hardly do such a thing as to leave without speaking first; and she looked sincere and trustful, but acted just the oposite. It was something to do with her being polish or me being mexican? My friends tell me very simple answers like: "he (the other guy) has dark skin, and blondes prefer that" (I have an almost white-pale skin), or: "She was just playing with you to make the other guy jealous".Anyway: all I want is to learn a lesson from this experience, so the hard days I had, could left me some extra wisdom.Any ideas about what would make a woman act like that?Thank you! I love polish people anyway. They're smart and lovely, even as she was kind of... cold! :-S .