Discussion about Polish Men's Tempers

What the hell? Why even talk to him?

Art, Sadly some girls like that kind of man - Dont ask me why because I have never been able to work out why a women would want to be with a scum bag who hurts other people :(

Blingin

From on ewho is Married and NEVER hit my wife no matter how mad I was or not matter how much I didnt like her when I was mad, Love is a committment and PRIVELEDGE!!!!!!!!

He is Privledged to have you, however, if you want to know the true meaning of love look up II Corinthias chapter 13, it will tell you what love is and is not.. One clue....

Always caring. i may not have Liked my wife when I was made at her, but I still LOVED her. Men who hit woman are cowards and have a very low self esteem. They feel better about themselves after they hit someone weaker, let me tell you this, it wasn't just they WEED, he has it way down in him ,and a hatred for what his father did, and he is just doing what he saw before. He needs counseling! Do not go back to him, and cut off all contact. Move if you need to so he can not find you!!!!!!

Blingin',
to answer your initial question of whether polish males are aggressive? I would say polish people tend to have some hardness and aggression in them. I was born in Poland, but now live in Canada, and I'm definitely more aggressive than the average person, and same goes for my brother. Nonetheless, what happened to you was not just a function of aggression, but it was violence and abuse. And don't feel bad that you fell into the trap of going for a "bad boy". It happens. Best to learn from it and move on. Once you knew he beat his sister, that should've set off alarms. I once knew a guy, while in poland, who would very aggressively threaten his little sister, but when I asked her whether he ever hurt her, she said he's all talk (which I'd like to believe, but who knows). He pursued me and he was very polite, sweet, and often made himself vulnerable. Despite me not being on the receiving end of his ********, I knew that that nasty side was still in him. I'd glad I'm here (in canada) and he's there, because I know it would lead to nothign but drama. Don't be fooled by guys who act like "perfect gentlemen"...those are often the psychopaths.

Good luck breaking it off. It is really hard, but necessary.
take care

do you need to hire an assassin. Do let me know. Might even get you one in discount :) :)

just kidding. look Blingin. if he hit you for the first time i think he can hit again. if you show your weakness he would try to take control of that and will hit you more often. all we can do is give you advice but you need to take the Big step and follow what in your heart.

am i the only one here to think this situation is effed?

Blingin...you must have no self esteem. Do you really think this is acceptable behaviour? Do you have a pet? Do you hit it to show your love towards it?

How does putting a pillow over someones head and punch them no less than 3 times show their love??

The cycle will only get worse.

And with this crap of him going to his mom and telling her,.... pathetic. She is a victim herself and obviously considers the actions of abuse by her husband as normal. So she will think that her "little boy" is growing up just like his father. *note sarcasm*

of 3,000,000,000 guys in the world, you choose to be with a pathetic ex-criminal with a history of physical violence. What does that say about you?

If you were smart....you'd get as far away from him as possible.

I could write for another hour, but I have to go.

GET OUT OF THE RELATIONSHIP!!!!

call the police and have his butt prosecuted for assault...

or

walk down the road with a sign saying *kick the crap out of me... i dont care...*

Direct and to the point.....one reason I think you are A-O-K!:)

are you flirting with me ranj... :(

Me flirt? Never! Just paying you a compliment, so I thought.:)

awww shucks... and there was me just winding you up... :)

In response to the initial question..I think theres a difference between having a bad temper and this manifesting itself into physical violence. My man has a very bad temper sometimes, but although we argue at times I know he would never lift a finger to me, and if he (or any man) did he (not I) would be straight out of the door no matter how much I loved him. As for weed making you violent/agressive.... although there may be some very strong strains, its more likely to mellow you out. Not that I want to be seen as any authority on the latter :)

did anyone notice this thread about how "blingin" is so in love??

https://polishforums.com/archives/2005-2009/love/guy-black-girl-7108/

Yes, I noticed it before but the date on that one was 4 days before she wrote about this problem. In her new message she said he had hit her "the other night", which means it probably happened after she thought he was such a nice guy.

agree, men that do this have no concience and it gets worse till you have almost
little or no will to leave and are so afraid he will kill you. and if he stabbed a man
and served very little time, thats a slap on the wrist, he should be still serving
time dont ya think??

It is interesting how many women are beaten up by men and seem to like it or at least tolerate the situation for years. It seems to give them a sort of buz. Maybe their lives are so boring otherwise.

in the UK more women die of domestic violence than breast cancer - the stats say its about 2 women a week that actually die and probably around 1000 per week that suffer at the hands of violent partners.

All I have to say to Blingin is dont be a statistic

I second that, Weed was his excuse. it might have altered his brain cells a bit
but I think that chemically something else is going on. I would do some google
searches, pretty sure you will find others whe experiences same .

Sweetie let me tell you this will only get worse. You are in a bad position now and you have all the freedom to make the best decision for you and your future. If you don't leave him, you need to at least expect the most gruesome and cruel of behaviour possible of a human.

He may or may not have enjoyed it, but he definately was out of control, and all sorts of horrible things can happen when ppl lose their senses. I have a girl friend even who is abusive toward her boyfriend, and she says she is not even thinking when she goes into attack mode, she is only driven to destroy and cause horrible suffering and pain. Really she just need a punching bag and an occasional glass of wine, a bit of therapy and good friends. Maybe she ought to find God, but the very last thing abusers need is an enabler. Sometimes it is the last thing they get 'til they are either killed themselves or put in jail for life sentence.

hi blingin, iv come from an abusive relationship so i kinda know where your coming from but you need to be realistic here. your in denial.you want to believe he loves you but in truth he doesnt even love himself. he's not capable of loving anyone. he's a bulling brute and a control freak so stay a mile away. in time you will realise how he is manipulating you.love wont get you through this and you cant change him. he will ruin your life and you'l only end up being afraid of him. what kind of love is that.stop wasting precious time....and go find true love

YES! TAK! TRUE! PRAWDA! get out will you please!! follow the above advice!!! it will only happen again!

thankyou all for your messages. he has again hit me since this post, but i hit him back, i kicked him in the face. he hasnt hit me since, and where getting on much better. only time will tell how it'll turn out. i trust my instincts and it sais give him a chance. but if he did it agian, we would both leave the relationship as it would be an abusive one. he doesnt want to hit me, and i dont want to hit him. mayb the ONE for me is in the USA, who knows. please reply XXXX

If what you say is true. It already is.

he has again hit me since this post,

and you haven't left him? :(

you think he will stop? :( why are you with him?

GOOD QUESTION. I AM WITH HIM, CUZ I BELIEVE HE WILL STOP. I HAVE FAITH

Hopefully you've bought some shares in Ibuprofen. Just so you can make a bit of money whilst you're waiting for the road to Damascus moment.

Actually, scratch that. everyones right, i have no self esteem, im stupid and dont want to be lonely. i cant and wont find a good guy here. thats why im with him. i know there is someone in the USA, but im in stupid UK. im with him for the wrong reasons, but im just weak. no-one is going to help me become stronger. but forget the abuse, he is a decent guy.


was that sarcasm, cuz i dont understand that joke.

but forget the abuse, he is a decent guy. :(

Blingin are you Polish?:)

no im British why?

just curious :)