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Advice from Polish Girls please :)


mrnice 1 | 16  
5 Apr 2009 /  #1
hi,

I live in West Wales in the UK and a few weeks ago I met a really really really nice polish girl that works in the local lidl's supermarket. I have never actually involuntarily said wow when I saw a girl before but I did when I saw her (after maintaining 5 seconds or so of eye contact). This must have made a good impression because every time I go

there now she always has lots of big smiles for me (but saying that she seems the smiley type anyway), which makes me want her more. I keep going there to get stuff I dont really need just so I can see her but I haven't asked her out or anything yet. Apart from having little chance to do so as far as privacy is concerned, I think I should do my homework first because I know very little about polish girls/culture and I would never want to offend her or blow my chances before I even start, so that's why I joined this forum.

Just to clarify, I want her for being her. I'm not looking for a quick fling as its really not my style. I want a regular girlfriend and not some one night stand.

I know shes Catholic and she recently went back to Poland to get confirmed or something (I overheard he telling someone at the tills) so it shows she has good values.

I have been reading through the forums here and I'm still utterly confused as to how polish people are. It seems that like here in the UK, everyone in Poland is different and there is no "standard people", and I dont want to see polish people as many UK people negatively stereotype them - which I wont go into as even though I dont know for sure, I'm pretty confident theyre completely wrong.

I'm rabbling off the subject here sorry. What I would like is some polish girls to tell me what they think most polish girls might generally like.

Are there any big no no's I should know about?

Are polish girls hot headed? Is there a chance she might rip my head off for asking her out (not literally of course)?

Is there anything all polish girls like to talk about?

Any replies would be greatly appreciated.

PS: if anyone thinks they might know her by any complete and utter far out chance, I'm your new best friend:)
southern 75 | 7,096  
5 Apr 2009 /  #2
every time I go
there now she always has lots of big smiles for me (but saying that she seems the smiley type anyway), which makes me want her more. I keep going there to get stuff

It seems Liddl made good business by hiring polish girls.
JustysiaS 13 | 2,240  
5 Apr 2009 /  #3
just be yourself, be nice and treat her right, don't try to show off or impress her with money, don't act like a doormat. Polish girls are not very different from UK girls and they appreciate attention and affection, as long as you're being honest and sincere, i don't see why you should fail. try make conversation next time, ask her if the day's been busy etc. and don't ask her out straight away, you will make her uncomfortable, especialy that she is at work and she has to be nice to her costumers. when she gets comfortable around you, ask her what time she finishes work and would she like to meet up somewhere. it's really that simple. no special skills needed.

from a Polish girl ;)
OP mrnice 1 | 16  
5 Apr 2009 /  #4
It seems Liddl made good business by hiring polish girls.

They certainly did, at least as far as I am concerned:)
beckski 12 | 1,617  
5 Apr 2009 /  #5
Are polish girls hot headed?

Of course we're not hot headed usually... only when it's that time of the month.
OP mrnice 1 | 16  
5 Apr 2009 /  #6
just be yourself, be nice and treat her right, don't try to show off or impress her with money, don't act like a doormat. Polish girls are not very different from UK girls and they appreciate attention and affection, as long as you're being honest and sincere, i don't see why you should fail. try make conversation next time, ask her if the day's been busy etc. and don't ask her out straight away, you will make her uncomfortable, especialy that she is at work and she has to be nice to her costumers. when she gets comfortable around you, ask her what time she finishes work and would she like to meet up somewhere. it's really that simple. no special skills needed.
from a Polish girl ;)

Thanks Justysia.

I do already talk to her, but nowhere further than smalltalk so far, but I know she does remember me and she asks recurring questions. I agree it would definatley be not nice to put her on the spot by asking her out in front of loads of other people. I'd deserve to be thrown back for that, so I wouldnt do it anyway. I'm certainly not the sort to be throwing money around. I live a frugal life. Happiness is my real money:) I have got a house and that but its not the sort of thing I'd tell her, at least not until I knew she loved me for who I was. Saying that I dont think shes a gold digger. It seems she works hard for her money and I can see that, and I respect it too.

Can you teach me some polish chat up lines?
misiu 2 | 5  
5 Apr 2009 /  #7
Don't worry so much! But certainly bring her flowers one day because girls in Poland are accustomed to receiving flowers (hence the flower shops everywhere). And see how she feels too =) If you express an affection for her she won't be shy in expressing affection back.
OP mrnice 1 | 16  
5 Apr 2009 /  #8
Of course we're not hot headed usually... only when it's that time of the month

Thanks beckski. I'm glad to hear polish girls are chilled out. I just hope that I ask her at the right time of the month:)
Eurola 4 | 1,909  
5 Apr 2009 /  #9
How about slipping a nice, short note with your phone number on it at the time of paying for groceries? Say in the note that you like her a lot and would like to ask her out. You may also fold and pin the note to a single flower (not a red one); after that just wait for you phone to ring! :)
southern 75 | 7,096  
5 Apr 2009 /  #10
You can also bring some hundreds of pounds with you and put her in the basket.
Sokrates 8 | 3,346  
6 Apr 2009 /  #11
Slap her with a wet fish.
OP mrnice 1 | 16  
6 Apr 2009 /  #12
You can also bring some hundreds of pounds with you and put her in the basket.

Thanks but I don't have to pay for women. Please accept my heart felt pity if you need to.

Slap her with a wet fish.

Seriously? That's why I asked for advice from Polish Girls:)
Sokrates 8 | 3,346  
6 Apr 2009 /  #13
Seriously? That's why I asked for advice from Polish Girls:)

No seriously you take a huge slimy tuna straight from a freezer, walk up behind her and *SLAP*, an old polish custom, very romantic.
valeo - | 5  
6 Apr 2009 /  #14
mrnice..... just be yourself.
As someone who is shy but met, fell in love with,& married a Polish woman I can tell you this works best. Don't try to be someone your not, don't try & be flash.

Starting off with a smile & a hello is a good way to go. As you start to visit the store on a more regular basis try adding a few questions to the conversation.

How are you?
Have you had a good day?
Have you been busy?
Do you get much time off?
Have you ever been too? (place of interest near to where you live!)
If you have a car, or you can get there by bus, offer to take her for a day out.. no strings just friends.
After a few weeks of small talk with the woman I liked, I offered to take her to a local castle town that she had not been to but wanted to see. It was just a friendly gesture. whilst on our day out we found out that we actualy had simmilar tastes... music, films etc.

We got on very well, so well in fact that 3 weeks after that initial day out my lady moved in with me, we married a year later & 9 mths after that our daughter was born.

In June this year we will be moving to Poland for good. (but that story is for another time).

My friend just be you, what's the worst that can happen? she says no.
Take a deep breath, leave the wet fish in the sea & go say hello.
OP mrnice 1 | 16  
6 Apr 2009 /  #15
No seriously you take a huge slimy tuna straight from a freezer, walk up behind her and *SLAP*, an old polish custom, very romantic.

Lol is that how you polish guys score? No wonder so many polish girls are over here:) I would try your charming customary tradition but:

1. They only have small frozen tuna steaks in Lidl's.
2. Whole tuna fish are bigger than men. I couldn't pick one up and swing it around.
3. I really really really like and respect the girl so I wouldn't want to bash her with a fish.

MORE ADVICE FROM POLISH GIRLS PLEASE:) you take me seriously:)
Sokrates 8 | 3,346  
6 Apr 2009 /  #16
MORE ADVICE FROM POLISH GIRLS PLEASE:)

As a polish man, living with a polish girl, dating polish girls all his life i can tell you that anything that'd work on say, Chinese girl will also work on her, there is absolutely no "polish pick up lines".

Lol is that how you polish guys score? No wonder so many polish girls are over here:) I would try your charming customary tradition but:

Here's real advice though, dont ask women on how to pick them up, they'll tell you how they'd love to be picked up by their dream prince on a white horse but you're not one so their way is not the way to go.

Polish girls typically find it cute if a foreigner tries something in Polish to impress them, if you have Polish friends talk with them let them teach you a single cheesy phrase in Polish like "you're absolutely beatifull" or something, that will catch her attention in a much better way than chatting her up in English, then you can switch to English and if you have a chance at all thats your shot right there, sweettalk yourself into a date and you're soon shagging a straight from the shelf Polish girl.
southern 75 | 7,096  
6 Apr 2009 /  #17
you take a huge slimy tuna straight from a freezer, walk up behind her and *SLAP*, an old polish custom, very romantic.

You give me some excellent ideas.
Sokrates 8 | 3,346  
6 Apr 2009 /  #18
Lol is that how you polish guys score?

Oh no no, we put our cock on her shoulder and say "hi", if she likes my cock she'll date me, i bought my cock in a country and named him Peter, he's an awesome cock, got me into so many dates.
OP mrnice 1 | 16  
6 Apr 2009 /  #19
Lol now I'm convinced that's why there's loads of polish girls here. I haven't really tried that approach myself but I'm pretty sure it would score me a well deserved slap.
sister act 2 | 88  
8 Apr 2009 /  #20
I'm still utterly confused as to how polish people are

Why don't you just ask her, what are you afarid of, The next time your doing your shopping just ask her out.
If she says no then you know where you stand,
OP mrnice 1 | 16  
8 Apr 2009 /  #21
It's not that I'm afraid of asking her out or of her saying no. I think we could easily be friends anyway because we seem to respond well to one another. I'm still waiting for an opportunity to ask her when there's no one else around, at least that way I'm not putting her on the spot in front of other people, because I don't think that's fair and I really don't want to put her out in that way.

What could I write on a banknote in polish? something nice and complimentary towards her? At least if she looks mortified I can always say it was written on there already, before I die of embarrassment-itis. If I get a reply here before 8pm UK time I will go and pass it to her tonight...
FoxxiGold 5 | 30  
8 Apr 2009 /  #22
Hey Mr Nice, you sound like you live up to your name

I'm no expert in all things Polish, but I do have Polish friends, and recently spent some time there, and as far as I can discern they don't seem too different from UK girls - perhaps a little less materialistic and a bit more appreciative but I wouldn't want to negatively stereotype against our UK girls.

I agree with feedback you've already received. Just be yourself and build on a friendship. There's nothing better than seeing a friendly face at work - and speaking as an old romantic - its good to make yourself a 'what if' man. If she's getting the right signals from you (which I'm sure your oozing from all areas) then she has something to go on - but you're still outtareach and 'unattainable'. Ok, so without trying to sound all Mills and Boons - play it admiringly but cool. Then perhaps one Friday you could casually say 'So do you get to play in the weekends' - judging by her answer you will probably know to take it further. But even if she doesn't give you the green light straight away, she will certainly go home and think about what you said, and if interested, once she's is asked again she will know what to say ...

Go and get her Tiger!
joland 4 | 86  
10 Apr 2009 /  #23
so keep us updated how it goes with your Kasia, mrnice
bluebird - | 36  
10 Apr 2009 /  #24
Ask her out dude!

Get her phone number or ideally arrange to meet her after work.

If it is a nice sunny day, you could take her to the Beach!

There is a beautiful Pub in Rhosilli if you are near there.

Maybe use a Lidl trolley to wheel a Tuna down the aisle for the lulz?
OP mrnice 1 | 16  
15 Apr 2009 /  #25
She has a boyfriend already:(
Filios1 8 | 1,336  
15 Apr 2009 /  #26
Thats life!

Might I suggest... you should follow her home one day after work and see where she goes. Perhaps she meets up with her boyfriend on the way. After she sees him off, go talk to the lad, maybe he'll strike you up a deal. He can cheat with some other girl for a few pounds, and you can catch her on the rebound.

Sounds reasonable!
pgtx 30 | 3,156  
15 Apr 2009 /  #27
aawww... maybe she will dump him for you...
;)
FoxxiGold 5 | 30  
15 Apr 2009 /  #28
Thats life!

Might I suggest... you should follow her home one day after work and see where she goes. Perhaps she meets up with her boyfriend on the way. After she sees him off, go talk to the lad, maybe he'll strike you up a deal. He can cheat with some other girl for a few pounds, and you can catch her on the rebound.

Sounds reasonable!

Hey you sound like a right preditor! You know what they say about rebound relationships ...

But Funny!
OP mrnice 1 | 16  
15 Apr 2009 /  #29
I went to loads of trouble to find that out. I searched everywhere on internet to find any information on her and I was surprised that I managed to find it. I found a girl on a polish website who lives in the same place as her in Wales that said she knew her and that she wasn't single. She was quite rude after that. She made me feel like I offended her somehow and I didn't try to. Why do people have to be like that?

Thats life! Might I suggest... you should follow her home one day after work and see where she goes. Perhaps she meets up with her boyfriend on the way. After she sees him off, go talk to the lad, maybe he'll strike you up a deal. He can cheat with some other girl for a few pounds, and you can catch her on the rebound.
Sounds reasonable!

I don't think you've thought this through. I think I'd have more luck bashing him over the head with a big frozen tuna fish.

aawww... maybe she will dump him for you...
;)

Thanks but I'm not going to try anymore. One of the reasons I liked her so much was because she is so smiley and happy. It must be because shes happy with her life. I'm not the kind of person that would even think about spoiling that for her. Now perhaps I should find someone else. I feel unhappy now. I hope it doesn't last long.
Sokrates 8 | 3,346  
15 Apr 2009 /  #30
Why do people have to be like that?

Because you're black or jewish or muslim or asian or because you behaved like a creepy stalker instead of just chatting her up.

I don't think you've thought this through. I think I'd have more luck bashing him over the head with a big frozen tuna fish.

Just go up to her with a huge razor and a T-shirt signed "<3 me or die" and ask her out, see what she replies.

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