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Do Poles Lack in Social Skills and Etiquette?


Ksysia 25 | 430  
8 Dec 2009 /  #31
Rather than cough and splutter or clear his throat

he expected people would knock. I once taught a school of American teenagers to KNOCK simply by doing just that every single time. Before they would just pull on the handle, and of course sometimes the lock was broken.
Seanus 15 | 19,706  
8 Dec 2009 /  #32
You can't leave such things to chance. You have to announce your presence in such situations.
Nika 2 | 507  
8 Dec 2009 /  #33
Take Gliwice for instance, where would you "eat out" in Gliwice? McDonalds and kebab stalls and pizzerias are the only places where you can eat out. Most Poles are pretty thrifty and will go to a restaurant only when they are rich or if there's a big occasion for that.

Gliwice is not the best for restaurants. It had a placed called Something Different but the rent was too high for the upkeep of the building. Gazdówka is a good bet.

come on guys, I come from Tarnowskie-Góry, which is much smaller than Gliwice, and there are numerous places to go out for a dinner or a drink there. Gliwice must have much more to offer but you just don't know about it.
frd 7 | 1,399  
8 Dec 2009 /  #34
Frd, I usually do but this time I didn't.

You shoud have added something like "NAPAD!!!" and smacked him across the face with your fist. ;) He would surely remember that for the rest of his life, and maybe just maybe they would install these locks ;)

Nika

Tarnowskie-Góry? Come on, few kebab houses, post communist style restaurants, pubs for youngsters or homeless drunkards, restaurants for rich people and some junk food huts. And the city is horrible enough not to put your nose outside your house ;)
Nika 2 | 507  
8 Dec 2009 /  #35
Tarnowskie-Góry? Come on, few kebab houses, post communist style restaurants, pubs for youngsters or homeless drunkards, restaurants for rich people and some junk food huts.

here are some places that you might wanto to visit in Tarnowskie-Góry: Wiśniowy Sad, Rymera 6, U Wronów, Leśniczówka, Kurna Chata, Taco, Cafe-Bar Celona, Alicja w Krainie Czarów. But you wouldn't know these places, apparently you prefer kebabs, junk food huts etc.

And the city is horrible enough not to put your nose outside your house

and this city is mine!
Torq 32 | 2,916  
8 Dec 2009 /  #36
and this city is mine!

and will always be thought of with gratitude for giving Poland professor Miodek :-)
frd 7 | 1,399  
8 Dec 2009 /  #37
apparently you prefer kebabs, junk food huts etc.

naah, I prefer good food. Thanks for hints I'll probably try them sometime, but I'm taking a wild guess that half of them are pricey restaurants and the other half pubs for students that serve a pretty narrow variety of meals.

and this city is mine!

ok..ok, it's still better than Dąbrowa Górnicza.. ;)
Nika 2 | 507  
8 Dec 2009 /  #38
Thanks for hints I'll probably try them sometime, but I'm taking a wild guess that half of them are pricey restaurants and the other half pubs for students that serve a pretty narrow variety of meals.

They are worth trying and not pricey at all :)
Seanus 15 | 19,706  
8 Dec 2009 /  #39
NAPAD?? What does that mean?
Ksysia 25 | 430  
8 Dec 2009 /  #40
IT'S A ROBBERY!
Seanus 15 | 19,706  
8 Dec 2009 /  #41
Aha, thanks. The tram etiquette here was a mixed bag. Sometimes young folk would let the oldies on first but I think they got a wee bittie hacked off with the old duffers taking liberties and ramming their way on anyway. Flamin fogies. Some of the old hags are ruthless so I didn't always give up my seat. If they looked nice, I would.
nincompoop_not 2 | 192  
8 Dec 2009 /  #42
NO - Polish people do not lack it
unless you are - as Seamus said - wiesniak or prostak

or come from a small town or a tiny village and never encountered the outer world

but - it doesnt mean they cant be Dolly :)

Im finding quite funny some of the comments.L
Let me ask you - what kind of people you socialise with? Where do you live?

Over the years I found that English-speaking people were happy with a trump on a street justifying the language knowledge- as long as the trupm said 'ok' to anything which sounded like Polish

usually it sounds like - Polska - OK or any other rubbish
tornado2007 11 | 2,274  
8 Dec 2009 /  #43
I think it would be very very unfair to say that Poles lack 'social skills' and even 'etiquette' although i would say (due to the cultural difference) they do seem to go missing at times and in certain situations.
Seanus 15 | 19,706  
8 Dec 2009 /  #44
The inconsiderate nature of not actually hurrying up and acknowledging the turn of others is incredible. The young dudes have basketball practice before us footballers and they are to finish at 21.00. They seem to steal an extra few minutes every time and end when they are good and goddamn ready. Bad etiquette!

I like the social skills in the local mountaineers restaurant. It's always service with a smile and they really treat you like a valued customer. They are very well-trained gents and, as such, I always tip well. Give out good vibes and you will likely get them back.
frd 7 | 1,399  
9 Dec 2009 /  #45
The tram etiquette here was a mixed bag. Sometimes young folk would let the oldies on first but I think they got a wee bittie hacked off with the old duffers taking liberties and ramming their way on anyway.

Yeah it's probably still like that. I remember in primary school there was something my mates called "operation: window", whenever and older lady/mr entered the bus/tram they put on their hoods with face just next to the window - and nobody ever bothered with asking them about the seat. My personal attutide is that I always stand up and let the older person/woman seat in my place, it only exasperates me when that older person comes close and starts moaning before I can even stand up. Or if there's lots of free seats but she has to insist on taking mine.
Seanus 15 | 19,706  
9 Dec 2009 /  #46
Yeah, the barging aspect of it isn't so nice. They can nudge you into tight spots.

Another thing I've noticed is that some Poles don't know how to say goodbye. You can be talking to them about sth interesting and then they'll abruptly cut off and give a quick 'see ya'. There was a thread about this in reference to GG and FB. You can be chatting to them and they'll suddenly just switch off or ignore you completely.
OP cable 3 | 42  
9 Dec 2009 /  #47
how you people meet each other if there was no date of any form?
you just basically shoveled him directly from building site to your house or what?

Erm no, we actually worked togerther for 3 years prior to any kind of romance :-P
Seanus 15 | 19,706  
9 Dec 2009 /  #48
My student commented today that he thought Jesus was Polish when he was younger. From Lwów, former Polish territory. Who could have taught him that? Surely that's bad etiquette? ;) ;)

Jesus, the man from Lvov, LOL. The man from Del Monte says no
BrutalButcher - | 391  
9 Dec 2009 /  #49
Seanus
Maybe they just don't like you.
Seanus 15 | 19,706  
9 Dec 2009 /  #50
What does that have to do with anything?
frd 7 | 1,399  
9 Dec 2009 /  #51
Jesus, the man from Lvov, LOL. The man from Del Monte says no

I suppose he could have thought that after reading few Polish Romanticism age books and heard this statement: "Polska Chrystusem narodów" ( Poland the Christ of nations ), messianism was one of the main ideology then and is clearly visible in the mentioned epoch's literature and art, it states that one of the nations (Poland in that example) will through its suffering redeem itself and other nations.
Torq 32 | 2,916  
9 Dec 2009 /  #52
Jesus, the man from Lvov, LOL.

I always thought Jesus was from Wadowice ;)
f stop 25 | 2,513  
9 Dec 2009 /  #53
Some people prefer to hang out with family and friends at their own home, rather than pay through the nose to be among strangers, and wait among the 'great unwashed'..

Some people spend so much time and effort on their home, that they would like to enjoy it during the precious time they're not traveling or working.

Some people's homes (like mine!) are more desirable places to go to than any club. Being a member of tight-knit group of friends is much more fun in private, rather than public place.

And who still goes to the movies?!? That's just silly.
Seanus 15 | 19,706  
10 Dec 2009 /  #54
Poles tend not to tip which is perceived as bad etiquette amongst many. However, I understand why they don't. If I had the same salary as some people here, I'd be the same. It's all too easy for businessmen to lavishly throw around notes but your average person here cannot afford to do that.
Balkan power  
10 Dec 2009 /  #55
They may lack in social skills and etiquette but that does not bother me since in Balkans primitivity is much higher,so whatever Poles may do,they will never surpass this natural level.
Seanus 15 | 19,706  
10 Dec 2009 /  #56
Many Poles describe Balkans people as 'dziki' and with good reason. People in the Balkans don't realise how alike they are but still fought one another, pointless!

Are you Macedonian or?
Balkan power  
10 Dec 2009 /  #57
No,no.What is dziki?Anyway Poles mix well only with Russians although they will never admit that.
Seanus 15 | 19,706  
10 Dec 2009 /  #58
Dziki means wild. Poles tend to mix well only with themselves, much like the Japanese in that respect. They even ignore one another :)

Some Russians maybe. They are very alike as people.
Balkan power  
10 Dec 2009 /  #59
Yes,wild south.They mean that Balkans are temperamentful.Poles lack spine,they seem spineless compared to Serbs or Germans.Russians are hardcore but very out of space.

But Russians are like bears,they totally disregard other people around them,they walk all over them.And they have natural manners like Poles(sophisticated woman).
Seanus 15 | 19,706  
10 Dec 2009 /  #60
Poles lack spine? Fire them up and you will see that that just isn't the case. They are often indifferent but you can hit their passion points and then they most definitely aren't spineless. I can see some of the fire in Poles that I see in Scots. Touch a raw nerve and you'll see their power.

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