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Wedding in Poland - my experience

22 Oct 2006 /  #1
Yesterday I was in Poland on a typical Polish wedding. Everything was fine - good music, pretty girls, great food. But I couldn't stand one thing - CIGARETTE SMOKING. I was about to die after being a few hours in a banquet hall full of smoke. I should add about 30-40% of all guests smoked a cigarette. Whoever felt like just pulled out a cigarette, didn't ask if she or he may smoke - they just smoked like crazy!!!

Do Poles in Poland don't care about other guests and think they should smoke with them too? I know it was chilly outside, but come on -- when every third guest smokes in one room (where there were many children too!) it's not a pleasure for non-smokers.

Beside this unpleasant "episode" the weeding was great. But next time I go to a Polish wedding in Poland I'll make sure to have a gas mask on me. ://

lef 11 | 478  
22 Oct 2006 /  #2
Thats the Polish way of life......Polish weddings are great,,,, great food, drinks, music and being able to see people relax and enjoy themselves.... the practice of smoking in Poland is unacceptable and it is only time when somebody will get sued for damages at one of these events....hmmmmmmmm
22 Oct 2006 /  #3
I think it's getting better and better -- but some Poles don't have a sense of decency - I mean, they want to be hospitable and stuff and allow guests to do what they like; but don't see a bigger picture that others who don't feel like sitting in smoke don't like it.

On the other hand you write the food was good and girls were nice - so what's the fuss all about? :) In Poland air conditioning or advanced ventilation system is still a luxury good and living in Poland you should have used to it.
OP Frankie  
22 Oct 2006 /  #4
Yes, the wedding (in church and the wedding ceremony) was very fine indeed. I guess I just wanted too much but I should've known there's no such thing as a perfect wedding.

As I wrote, I would love to go to another wedding in Poland - maybe by then I'll have get used to the lack of non-smoking areas. Fortunately, I'm not allergic to alcohol as that would be way too much. Lol
23 Oct 2006 /  #5
Were the bride and groom smokers themselves i think in this case if they are and find it acceptable - its there wedding so why not kinda thing

Hope this makes sense? x
iwona 12 | 542  
23 Oct 2006 /  #6
it doesn't sound so good. As I remember on my wedding people were smoking outside in the hall not in dining room and not in dancing room.

It is slowly changing in Poland but it will take time. I don't smoke and I am against cigarette smoke but it si difficult sometimes.

I remmebr when I started my first job there was this ( new that time) rule not to smoke in the office. My boss -woman in her 60 -completely ignored it. If you told her something shewould get aggresive. Next boss did the same with one difference she would keep open window non stop even with -10 degrees temperature in winter . She liked smoking and fresh air .

I think that maybe the best solution is to install everywhere anti-smoke alarms??:)
krysia 23 | 3,058  
23 Oct 2006 /  #7
Never been to a Polish wedding in Poland, but have been to some in Chicago. They were excellent. The food, music, dances. And even though there were all Polish people there, they did not smoke inside the hall but outside. And there weren't that many who did smoke because many Poles who come to America work very hard and want to save their money so they quit smoking because it's too expensive.
24 Oct 2006 /  #8
But as i pointed out surly if the bride and groom are smokers and do not mind for there guests to smoke then there should not be a problem to what other guests think kinda thing x
28 Apr 2007 /  #9
iM POLISH and all the weddings is went to 98% of people smoke so its not a big deal but when we smoke its outside somewhere unless the party is outside.
29 Apr 2007 /  #10
You have to know how to react to this scene, what I do is I yell "come on you a**holes, I will not breath your cancerous air.
13 Nov 2007 /  #11
I'm weding planner in Poland and i'm surprise because i've never senn wedding where people smoke cigarettes with other guests!
We have always places to smoke - it's always like that!

Maybe You've been on typical countryside wedding?
I don't know...

www perfectmoments pl
in polish version we have new gallery with beautiful photos :)
We have great and perfect weddings... It depedns on money. People earn about 1500 $ when the prise of great wedding ( 100 persons ) it's about 25 000 $ so... not everyone can have this kind of wedding...
BubbaWoo 33 | 3,510  
13 Nov 2007 /  #12
how about registering on the forum karina
isthatu 3 | 1,164  
15 Nov 2007 /  #13
must have been an exeption the one I went to,I was the only smoker :)
All you anti smoking fascists,shame on you,what else do you want to ban just because you dont like it? The facts prove that unless you are trapped in a room for years and years with people smoking you have zero chance of "catching" any smoking related illness. Sure,it doesnt smell very nice,but I think you'll find that the stink of ciggerettes covers up far more offensive smells,especially in pubs and clubs or,dare I say it,sweaty,drunken bodies who have been dancing for hours....

Far more disturbing was being the only non catholic at a service and feeling the eyes of all the sky pilots on me,trying to say with just my eyes " its OK,Im not a heathen,Im Church of Scotland,we dont do all this kneeling and repeat after me lark" :)
db1874 7 | 227  
15 Nov 2007 /  #14
I attended my first polish wedding a few months ago, really enjoyed it but what struck me was the paparazzi style scrum from all the guests to get pictures – even during the ceremony? The official photographer had a tough time to get a clear shot.
15 Nov 2007 /  #15
If you thought it was bad in a wedding, dont go into a nightclub. A housefire would be easier to navigate through :P Oh and Sweaty bodies tend to not kill people and cause health problems :)
isthatu 3 | 1,164  
15 Nov 2007 /  #16
Oh and Sweaty bodies tend to not kill people and cause health problems :)

you,ve not met a Yorkshire Chav then ? lol
masks98 27 | 289  
4 Sep 2008 /  #17
Merged: My first Polish WEDDING!

I'll be off to Zamosc tomorrow to attend a wedding. My girlfriend barred me from eating food all week saying that the wedding will make up for it, what can I expect to find on the tables?

and what can I expect on any other front? Corny dances, is that really a strong tradition here? Ultimate inebriation? Epochal hang-over the next day?

do you guys have any funny or interesting stories from traditional Polish weddings?

by the way, anyone seen this?

sausage 19 | 777  
4 Sep 2008 /  #18
I'll be off to Zamosc tomorrow to attend a wedding

A good chance to use all those Polish language skills that you learnt in just one month!
masks98 27 | 289  
4 Sep 2008 /  #19
hey cut me some slack ! I explained why I had to cancel that project.. now I'm even more busy cuz everyone's back from vacation looking to speak english, so I'll probably redo that challenge around new years or something...

Oh but I learned these fighting words for bacias trying to skip in line at the supermarket, I don't know how to spell it but you'll catch the drift:

"Prosze Pani, Pani to nie stowa!!!"

perhaps throw in a kurwa for emphasis?
sausage 19 | 777  
4 Sep 2008 /  #20
hey cut me some slack !

ha ha! Apparently the extra-strength wedding wodka will help reduce the language barrier...
Grzegorz_ 51 | 6,161  
4 Sep 2008 /  #21
what can I expect to find on the tables?


A good chance to use all those Polish language skills that you learnt in just one month!

lol !
masks98 27 | 289  
4 Sep 2008 /  #22
ha ha! Apparently the extra-strength wedding wodka will help reduce the language barrier...

It always does haha, on my first night in Poland my girl's father came through with the Jack Daniels and had me speaking Polish within 20 minutes... I forgot everything next morning..
loco polaco 3 | 352  
4 Sep 2008 /  #23
hangover? dude, you won't have time for that. it's hair of the dog time first thing in the morn. lol
masks98 27 | 289  
4 Sep 2008 /  #24
?? sonds funny but I don't get it lol.
sausage 19 | 777  
4 Sep 2008 /  #25
hair of the dog... drinking more alcohol instead of proper hangover cures.
loco polaco 3 | 352  
4 Sep 2008 /  #26
that is the proper cure for a hangover. it works better then any other magic trick.
ShelleyS 14 | 2,893  
4 Sep 2008 /  #27
hair of the dog

It's called "hair of the dog that bit you" :)
masks98 27 | 289  
5 Sep 2008 /  #28
ah yes that would make more sense..
Switezianka - | 463  
6 Sep 2008 /  #29
We call hair of the dog klin.

Wypij klina!
McCoy 27 | 1,269  
11 Sep 2008 /  #30
how was the wedding masks? tell us some stories and post a few pics.

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