4000PLNx9 is 36,000
That would be if there were 90 couples, but I think there were 90 guests, approx. 45 couples?
So they got 18,000 zł. I think?
My Polish girlfriend reckons 200 zł but even she admits she doesn't really have a clue and its just a wild guess. I guess if you are only going to the ślub (ceremonial part) then even an 'aul bottle of washing up detergent should do the job. Afterall, you are not getting any grub or drink.
If I was anal, which I am not, I would take into consideration that we are both vegetarians and easily filled. I don't drink alcohol (anymore) and my girlfriend gets drunk just looking at a bottle of wine. But MareGaea has a point, a huge amount of money is generally invested by the hosts in catering for the guests needs. I guess one should try to at least cover the costs of their presence (although at this wedding it could range from 150-400 per person, I'm not sure really).
I didn't bother going to the stag cause I would have known nobody apart from the 'kawaler' (bachelor groom-to-be). My girlfriend is going to the hen party tomorrow. Each invitee has been asked o contribue 110 zł. She and her other close friend think it's really steep. But they haven't a clue what is been organised so I guess their livers will be well oiled by 6am 'za darmo' (for free).
David, I guess you meant 500 zł. as couple. That seems steep.
I'm guessing 200-250 zł is enough. I haven't earned for a year as was working abroad gratis with my partner. She just started a job with NGO that only pays 1600 per month. So she when she heard that the hen was going to be 6% of her monthly wage she was not too pleased.