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Joined: 7 Dec 2007 / Female ♀
Last Post: 27 Dec 2007
Threads: Total: 5 / In This Archive: 5
Posts: Total: 23 / In This Archive: 23
From: england
Speaks Polish?: no
Interests: most things

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okay   
27 Dec 2007
Law / Do I have Polish citizenship? [12]

my father was polish and my mother english can i claim polish citizenship and how do i go about it?
okay   
14 Dec 2007
Love / Polish mens attitude to the English female and sex-the catholic influence [13]

do polish men who come here to work think because of our more "liberal" attitude to sex its okay to have casual relationships because you are english-polish girls dont do that-i just wonder if thats what polish men think and also polish girls seem to "date" english men and seem to "go home " to awaiting boyfriend-selfish, arrogant and insincere. i work with polish people and many in there 20/30 in poland dso not get married they live together-so liberalism is in poland
okay   
14 Dec 2007
Love / why wont he communicate? going crazy [90]

sapphire thank-you
he will have his reasons for the silence- i can talk openly about my feelings-i know many people find it hard to say how they are feeling and bottle things up. but i am not asking for that just some kind of acknowledgement. but it is best to leave it be now.

wildrover you would do that? you are a nice person knowing he is alive and well and i hope happy would be comforting. you are right turning up on his doorstep may have all kinds of consequences probably more for him than me as i do not know his "real" situation and i dont want to cause him added difficulties-i do not think all is well at home.

i will let you know when i am in poland i will pm you and i am looking forward to that beer and meeting you
okay   
12 Dec 2007
Love / why wont he communicate? going crazy [90]

he comes from near Chelmno.
where i work there are many polish workers come and go. before he came a trip to poland was talked about-he knew about this.
as i said he is shy . he and i hit it off-we got on-everything fine.
he worried he wasnt "good" enough-many of his colleagues had more than him-no-one judge him-he didnt want to go back to poland-dont know why-he wouldnt talk about it-he was so happy when he was here.

i know i cant make him communicate but it just seems odd -there was no pressure on him for a full blown relationship.
i hear what you are all saying-just leave it and i think i will.
just concerned about him-he really is a nice guy-this is out of character for him .
okay   
12 Dec 2007
Love / why wont he communicate? going crazy [90]

i am not dependant on this guy
he was the one who depended on me when he was here
he was so insistant he wanted to live in england and not go back to poland that i agreed to help him.
a relationship did develope from an initial friendship
as time has gone by my feelings for him grew stronger and he said the same
i was totally aware that he had circumstances in poland-he never really explained what-but i know he is not married
i did not put pressure on this guy and when he worked away communication was "normal" its since he has been in poland for the longest time since we met that he has gone quiet

i just dont understand the silence? in our own way we could talk about anything- the feeling you have known each other years-something special
my friends are also baffled as to his behaviour as they have seen how well suited we are together
some say leave it
some say go for it
this last few weeks or so i do feel as if i am becoming "obessed" not with him but the situation.
what if he is hurt-i may not get to know -dont think his family may know much about me
the choices i have are continue calling/texting
leave it and see what happens
go see him
a polish friend of mine said she would call/text him-he may explain to her-as his english is not good-but i dont know if its a good idea-he is rather a private person
okay   
11 Dec 2007
Love / why wont he communicate? going crazy [90]

i have been reading what everyone thinks and thank-you

yes i think it is over
i am not a stalker-i just want to know whats happened
if i had been told its over and then continued to text and call-i then would be a stalker.
he was concerned he couldnt be with me because of his "situation" in poland and he was never happy going back.
i told him i would be here for him and i will help him
he isnt very good with his spoken english and is quite shy
this is out of character for him -strange for me to say -after he has ignored me for so long-but he is not a bad person-i just dont think he knows how to deal with this situation.

if i do decide to go see him when i am in poland it is not to cause a scene but to genuienly say hello to someone who i care about-i really am concerned about him-he use to cry when he left me and said he didnt want to go back to poland.

he sometimes said i was too kind and he felt bad he couldnt buy me things-he dosent have a lot of money,
he wondered what i saw in him-his good heart.
so even if his feelings for me are not as deep as mine i care about him as a person.
this is why i am "desperate" to know whats happened to him
he had so many dreams and i encouraged him to follow them-but he has been in poland for so long now i think he has given up on his dreams.
okay   
10 Dec 2007
Love / why wont he communicate? going crazy [90]

wonder what will happen when he comes back to england to work in march-probably use someone else then-or wonder if he would have the cheek to call me!! after all this
okay   
10 Dec 2007
Love / why wont he communicate? going crazy [90]

dont get the wrong idea wildrover i am a nice person remenber-just like you- i am just angry at being treated with disrespect by someone i have feelings for.-but hey if you are into dressing up -well i will pm you-dont want this forum talking about us lol. i will look on my space-feel like we have been through similar experiences-been on your profile you are a teacher of what?

pinkjewel- i know he may never call-dont understand that-but i know it happens-never happened to me before-always managed to get closure or remain friends -so i dont understand this-guess he has his reasons-life is too short to anguish and if he was lonely etc-i gave him what he needed at the time and i guess in time i will see what i have gained from him-because of this so sad no communication-i hope he remembers the love we shared
okay   
10 Dec 2007
Love / why wont he communicate? going crazy [90]

i am prepared for either a negative or positive call-just want to know-i text that yesterday i will leave it for a few days and see how i feel. i think in my heart i know its over-but i hope it isnt and not being told the final goodbye makes me hang on to that hope.
okay   
10 Dec 2007
Love / why wont he communicate? going crazy [90]

i dont feel desperate-i do want to send a "final" text and pinkjewel your suggestion is good anymore suggestions?

we did have a good time together and i do have good memories i would like to think in time i will remenber the good from this experience and like wildrover he is still"friendly" with his x- maybe a friendship will ensue-not yet but in time-guess i need to let go like wildrover said if it was there it will come back.

do i need to do a final text or should i just leave it?
the last text i sent said

" one call from you will make everything ok"
okay   
10 Dec 2007
Love / why wont he communicate? going crazy [90]

i was thinking of texting- your loss
and then if i still felt like i needed to see him face to face when i go to poland id just turn up at his place .he wouldnt be expecting it and say hi.
okay   
10 Dec 2007
Love / why wont he communicate? going crazy [90]

thanks starchild
yes he has got my messages

maybe i should get really angry with him for not telling me where i stand!!!

this is not the way i deal with things but maybe i should text him the following

what the f..... is going on be a real man and tell me where i stand- do you want to see me again or not just f........ tell me.

my friends tell me i can be too nice
what do you think?
okay   
10 Dec 2007
Love / Dh (my husband) is not taking news well.. [12]

is dh your husband/partner?-you already have a child with him?-he doesnt sound as if he cares very much about you being pregnant-waht exactly is he annoyed about?
okay   
10 Dec 2007
Love / why wont he communicate? going crazy [90]

i think you are probably right wildrover- i just find it so hard to believe that he cant tell me the truth.

i think i will stop contacting him-maybe send one last text asking him to tell me the truth

i may stiil be coming to poland in january-whether i see him or not remains to be seen-anyway may take you up on the offer of a beer -where are you based in poland?-must be hard for you being there with your x still around
okay   
10 Dec 2007
Love / why wont he communicate? going crazy [90]

i find it hard to believe he cant be honest with me-i know it will hurt if says he no longer feels the same -but ignoring me hurts more.

it seems such an extreme-we didnt fall out-the last conversation was planning the future-in england.

why cant he tell we whats happened?
i think his family have put pressure on him-but i understand and i will stand by him-if this is the case. my feelings cant be genuine if i say to him them or me -i wouldnt do that-

wildrover maybe he has re-kindled a relationship over in poland-why not say?

from what he has told me i think there is pressure on him to remain in poland -i think he has a responsibilty to provide.

i do feel let down-i know the feelings are real and i thought his were.
maybe it has all become too much for him-the family pressure-the time apart-do you think he has given up on something he wants but doesnt know how he can have it?

i keep reasuring him with my texts so he doesnt give up hope and he knows i am for real-do you think this is a source of pressure on him from me?
okay   
10 Dec 2007
Love / why wont he communicate? going crazy [90]

please i need some advice understanding apolish male friend of mine-here goes!!

i met this guy at work in march this year-he is 30 i am 36- he does not speak much english-i started to help him with his english. we went out to pubs, discos, i took him sight seeing-he met my family-he doesnt earn very much-sends his money home he is the eldest of 6-he lives with his parents in northern rural poland. he never asked for anything but sometimes i bought him little things like cigarrets-tomato sauce-gave him some of my brothers clothes-he was always very apprerciative-he gave me wild flowers-just pick them up as we were walking. we laughed we had fun feelings grew. he said he was very happy in my company, we were starting to fall in love. he cried when he left to work elsewhere in england. we kept in touch by telephone/ texting. we met up when we could-getting harder and harder to leave each time. he went to poland in july-didnt hear from him for 4 weeks-i had always respected there were issuse-with his family reagarding an english girl. he said he told his family about me. he came back in august and we had misseed each other so much-he was only here for a week. he said he wanted to come to england to be with me -he was working for a company that sent him to different places and we started to look for local jobs. he has been working away since august and was back in poland since october. we have kept in touch but i last spoke to him 6 weeks ago when everything was great both saying how we felt-talking about the times we had together and that he couldnt wait to come back to me, my feelings for him have grown and grown-but since he last spoke to me i have heard nothing!!

i sent him a letter and some things he asked for-he recieved it- i calll and text him-but nothing. i have a second number for him-his polish number-which i was to use only in emergencies i call and text him on that-nothing- i have said in the texts i am sorry to use his polish numer but as i havent heard from him i was worried, i asked him if he still cares-nothing-if he still wants me to look for jobs-nothing-has he a girlfriend-nothing-is there a problem with his family-nothing

i am going crazy not knowing what has happened!!!

i maybe going to poland in jan-he knew this was a possibility-iwas to go to poland before i met him.

i have text telling him i would like to meet up when i am in poland-nothing!!

i cant let these feelings go i do not want to cause any problems for him-by turning up- but i need to see him to find out what has happeened -if he has changed his mind-whatever-i am prepared for that-id rather know than wait and pine.

he did say he would call me when he came back to england which will be about march.-along time with no communication .

it seems ridiculous not to meet up with him when i am in poland-do not have to go to his house-he has a car in poland we could meet somewhere-but i am getting no yes nor no from him,

advice please waht should i do
okay   
9 Dec 2007
Life / Contraception methods in Poland [14]

what methods are used withdrawal, the pill , condom-in a non- marital relationship- at what age can a girl get contraception?
okay   
9 Dec 2007
Love / Polish mens attitude to the English female and sex-the catholic influence [13]

i know men from anywhere can do this -but i have been reading the relationship threads and it appears both polish male amd female seem to leave thier english lovers high and dry -quoting their "values" and guilt as the reason to love you and leave you-seems. a bit superficial if you ask me- this is a polish forum so interested in the polish views
okay   
9 Dec 2007
Genealogy / Radomski family [8]

hey a footballer -is he any good?-this good lead somewhere
okay   
9 Dec 2007
Genealogy / Radomski family [8]

well thats a start was he born and bred in uk?
okay   
9 Dec 2007
Love / Polish mens attitude to the English female and sex-the catholic influence [13]

as far as i know Poland is 95% catholic-now i was raised a catholic here in britain-and though i support the ideology regarding love and family-i feel the doctrinesof the catholic church to be inflexible and the cause of stress and self denial-which in my opinion causes sadness and guilty feelings-i believe in allowing individualism to be a way to find happiness and contentment-do what makes you happy as long as you knowingly do not hurt anyone-so in the case of sex before marriage what is the consensus in Poland and i have heard it said that polish people generally believe english girls to be ,should i say liberal with sexual relations outside marriage and many polish man take advantage of this when in britain and then leave the english girl thinking thats ok!!!

i posted this thresd because a freind just told me about na artclt in -i am sorry -the news of the world -that polish men think its ok to come to england and have their sexual kicks with english girls then leave them-comments please
okay   
9 Dec 2007
Genealogy / Radomski family [8]

does anyone know of the Radomski family living in or around Gniewino