/ why wont he communicate? going crazy
please i need some advice understanding apolish male friend of mine-here goes!!
i met this guy at work in march this year-he is 30 i am 36- he does not speak much english-i started to help him with his english. we went out to pubs, discos, i took him sight seeing-he met my family-he doesnt earn very much-sends his money home he is the eldest of 6-he lives with his parents in northern rural poland. he never asked for anything but sometimes i bought him little things like cigarrets-tomato sauce-gave him some of my brothers clothes-he was always very apprerciative-he gave me wild flowers-just pick them up as we were walking. we laughed we had fun feelings grew. he said he was very happy in my company, we were starting to fall in love. he cried when he left to work elsewhere in england. we kept in touch by telephone/ texting. we met up when we could-getting harder and harder to leave each time. he went to poland in july-didnt hear from him for 4 weeks-i had always respected there were issuse-with his family reagarding an english girl. he said he told his family about me. he came back in august and we had misseed each other so much-he was only here for a week. he said he wanted to come to england to be with me -he was working for a company that sent him to different places and we started to look for local jobs. he has been working away since august and was back in poland since october. we have kept in touch but i last spoke to him 6 weeks ago when everything was great both saying how we felt-talking about the times we had together and that he couldnt wait to come back to me, my feelings for him have grown and grown-but since he last spoke to me i have heard nothing!!
i sent him a letter and some things he asked for-he recieved it- i calll and text him-but nothing. i have a second number for him-his polish number-which i was to use only in emergencies i call and text him on that-nothing- i have said in the texts i am sorry to use his polish numer but as i havent heard from him i was worried, i asked him if he still cares-nothing-if he still wants me to look for jobs-nothing-has he a girlfriend-nothing-is there a problem with his family-nothing
i am going crazy not knowing what has happened!!!
i maybe going to poland in jan-he knew this was a possibility-iwas to go to poland before i met him.
i have text telling him i would like to meet up when i am in poland-nothing!!
i cant let these feelings go i do not want to cause any problems for him-by turning up- but i need to see him to find out what has happeened -if he has changed his mind-whatever-i am prepared for that-id rather know than wait and pine.
he did say he would call me when he came back to england which will be about march.-along time with no communication .
it seems ridiculous not to meet up with him when i am in poland-do not have to go to his house-he has a car in poland we could meet somewhere-but i am getting no yes nor no from him,
advice please waht should i do