Love / Polish-American dating success stories [41]

Hey hey,

Sorry it took me so long. Got couhgt in a work stuff, girlfriend problems, etc, etc....
Anyway, I know what you mean. At that point Im very volnurable (just started new job, moving out in 2 weeks, dealing with exams), so I want to get my mind clear before the conversation and get myself on the straight path. A few of my friends had a chance to spent some time with the two of us and they have 2 different sides of the story.. Most likely, knowing myself and the situation and also considering my age, I will go with the reason, not feelings, not to waste more time. I really appreciate your opinion and advices.

So, how about you? You seem very open to a conversations like this, and maybe excperienced? Are you able to translate these thoughts into your personal life?

Speaking of the less intense stuff....I have to stop teaching, or rather didn't choose to continue this profession because of my voice. I speak very softly and it takes a lot of effords for me to speak aloud and slowly. I've notoced that by the end of the day I was just loosing my voice. The other think I was affraid was, that after repeating the same things to different classes day by day, year by year I will regress rather then go foreword. Did you have thoughts like that too, when you started teaching? How is it now?

Poland. I'm from the North, near Gdansk. I was studying in Torun, both beautiful cities!!!! I got tthe chance to travel a lot during my childhood and studies. What part of Poland you like the most.

Have a great weekend!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Love / Polish-American dating success stories [41]

Hello PunchBuggyBlue,

Unfortunatelly I know you are right...Even if I was hoping he may change from confirmed bachelor (45), I know subconsciously that my wisher are ureal and it is not going to happen. And it is exactly like you say. I'm drifting away, because I'm tired of that limbo (more then friend but not a boyfriend) and he gets me back with nice dinner, evening or whatever. And when I'm there again, here comes the distance.... As much as I like him, there isn't any really deep feeling involve in it. So it should be easier to have the conversation. After all, knowing how many habbits he has and how difficult for him is a change, I would have to make more compromises and close one eye more then often. And I would like, when both sides work hard enough to make it last.

Ok, now the nice stuff. I used to be a teacher and camp cancelor and the care giver for children for over 10 years. Now, I'm physical therapist Assist. and my specialization is pediatrics. I do 60% of peds and the rest is adults. I've been always very close to children (younger sis required constant supervision).

What was your prevoius career? What subjects do you teach, what grades?
Hmmm, maybe it's time for you to visit the aquarium again? Things had improved for the past 10 years : ))

Love / Polish-American dating success stories [41]

Ok Boys
I asked..."after the great weekend we spent together, it seem like you were a bit distance afterwords" He said, that he wasn't, and if he was it was not intentional. It was after he stated that I was upset, because he didn't call me the following weekend. Hmmm, honestly, didn't even cross my mind to come up with that idea. After all, we are not dating and we don't have to spend every weekend together. Ok, looks like it starts to make less and less sense to me.

Love / Polish-American dating success stories [41]

Regionpolski,
No worries, its not that bad. I cook, because I like, but I don't spend the whole day in apron : ))) I'm affraid he is too much in his box to get out and try something new, however he's been trying to learn more about my culture and learn some polish.

Thanks for the advice!
S.

Love / Polish-American dating success stories [41]

jtm Wien,
Long story short...I'm 15 years yanger then he is. We dated once, and he decided not to carry this longer, because of the age difference (it was only few dates). But we hooked up again few days later. We never really talked about why the age is not a problrm any more, or why he decided to date me again.. Because of this, I was not sure where I'm standing, is it just for fun, sex or what? I wasn't real, I didn't want to open myself to him or get involved if I didn't know what is the situation. He had never called me his girlfriend. I dumped him over something in February. But in May, we tarted getting closer together, spending lots of time, many, many hours together without having enough of each other. We are not dating, but we spend time together, nice time. And then is the distance. So here is the story....Any ideas?

Love / Which is better? Being single or being in a relationship? [92]

Moon,

I agree, without my friends here, it would be very empty. Still, they will not replace the one whom the last goodnight I wish to say to...After all, at least that's what I want : ))

Love / Which is better? Being single or being in a relationship? [92]

I agree. Relationship is important. No matter how hard and difficult it could be to live life with other person with strange habits, there is nothing better then wake up near somebody you have feelings for...Just the first morning kiss is a start of a good way. There are situations that sometimes you feel like you can't handle any more, or you will never understand her/him, but it comes and goes and with the strong fundation of feelings you can do everything. In my opinion, it is very important if both sides understand that and compromise. I wouldn't give up a life in relationship, even if it takes longer to work things out for a single life. So what that you have the freedom of doing everything you want anywhere, anytime, but it gets boring after years and when you are comming back home tired, there is nobody there waiting for you.

Love / Polish-American dating success stories [41]

Ok guys, here is the thing!
The guy Im interested in (and vice versa) used to date some time ago for a brief period. But we still are into each other and spent time over different excuses: movie, dinner, celebration 1, celebration2...blah, blah, blah... I've noticed that each time we have a great weekend together, and feel really close, he seems distance for the next few days and somehow less interested in until the next great time together. What's up with that? It really confuses me. Any ideas?

Love / Polish-American dating success stories [41]

I had a great weekend! Actually, I've been partying the whole week (not only I look like crap, but I feel like crap 2), I just finished my school and I'm starting new job tomorrow. On Sat I went to my friend's fireworks party with looooooooooots of good drinks (dark and stormy is my #1) and today we went sailing. But tomorrow....yep, 6 am, get up early and face new day!

I agree that optimism and positive thinking goes a long way. After all, nothing puts you down more, when u see a dark future! But what's also important is to stand with both feet on the ground.

Were you born in Netherlands? Do you have polish roots?
Have a great night and good Monday!

Love / Polish-American dating success stories [41]

Believe me, I have planty of patience. I've been working with children for over 10 years, it really give you a lesson.
I went biking today too, usually I do 13-18 miles. Love, love bike riding. After few days of disgusting hot, humid weather, today is just gorgous!

What brings you to polish forum? How did u learn about that?

Well, I'm just going to wait and see what happens, no pressure, but on the other hand, I don't wnt to wait forever! What I am also afraid of is if the second person is willing to work as hard to compromise and work on the relationship....

Have a great Saturday night.

Love / Polish-American dating success stories [41]

BornInThe USA

You are so right! It's not about me, I can be as understaning as possible, have my girls weekend getaway, give him the space he needs...those who were beforme created the problem. So, I guess I have to be patients and build the trust. Where is Isomeer? Never heard about that...BTW, what boat did u rent?

Have a great sail!
Ahoy!!!!

Love / I have met a wonderful Polish woman, but she has a 9 yrs old daughter [66]

I think it's great that you want to be involved with the daughter!!!!
Just as the beggining get her some gift like trendy doll (they will direct you the right way in toys'r' us).
Any board games will make it too (its going to be fun for both of you).
Aquarium trip, zoo trip and you are all set!
Good luck!

Love / Polish-American dating success stories [41]

Thank you all guys. I did met a few nice man here, they were all commitement fobics!!!!!
And I agree that some areas of Baltimore can be tricky, but there are few good places here to bike, hike and sail!

BTW, HAppy Friday!!!!!!

Love / Are polish girls generally curvy, tall with nice round butts [74]

No. not really, most are around 5.4 - 5.8 and the regular size is cup B/C.