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Joined: 26 Jun 2007 / Male ♂
Last Post: 6 Jul 2007
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From: Hilversum, The Netherlands
Speaks Polish?: not yet - my mom kept it to herself
Interests: jazz, movies & theatre, fine baking, fitness, biking, travel

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BornInTheUSA   
6 Jul 2007
Love / Foreigner's opinion about polish ladies [304]

Quoting: BornInTheUSA
I wouldn't mind discovering the polish position... i think its doggy style

Better than the American version - everyone on top.
BornInTheUSA   
6 Jul 2007
Love / Foreigner's opinion about polish ladies [304]

American women *are* lazier -- sorry. Dutch women work hard, but just for themselves. I wouldn't mind discovering the polish position...
BornInTheUSA   
5 Jul 2007
Life / Buying computer system in Poland [20]

Which I am, although I still prefer the term "Renaissance Man"...

:)

("Hot-Burnin' Luuuv Machine" comes in a close second :P )
BornInTheUSA   
5 Jul 2007
Life / Are Poles happy with their sex lives? [33]

My company does websites - lots of 'em - and we were looking at one of the threads in the "Sex and Love" section of this teenage-girl site we run. One girl - 14 - was asking for advice on buying her first dildo. Others were recommending certain vibrators instead, but appreciated a good dildo. 13, 14, 15-years old...damn, things are different here.

Another thread from a few days back from another girl, age 16: she couldn't get her boyfriend to go down on her, so she...um, "used" chocolate pudding. A lot of it...inside and out. Nope - this is true! She woke up the next morning and couldn't find all the pudding, and the bf admits to nothing.

Kids these days. Sheesh.
BornInTheUSA   
5 Jul 2007
Love / Foreigner's opinion about polish ladies [304]

Ah, you're right - you can't walk here in Holland without tripping over one - but that's the point I was trying to make too.

You must have responded when I was re-editing the post. Just not in the mood to be dealing with this right now.
BornInTheUSA   
5 Jul 2007
Love / Foreigner's opinion about polish ladies [304]

What else did you expect from a stupid n. ?

You're kidding me.
So - the stuff I read about Poles having the most racist attitude in Europe is true?
BornInTheUSA   
5 Jul 2007
Love / Polish-American dating success stories [41]

Happy 4th (all two minutes that are left here in Krakow).

Thanks - belated, but the same back. How do you like Krakow?
BornInTheUSA   
3 Jul 2007
Love / Polish-American dating success stories [41]

Not to change the subject, but I just thought it was interesting since I will be looking for a job in Rotterdam (if I cannot get one in Vienna). Seems like you enjoy it there.

The Netherlands reminds me of living in the US in the 60s & 70s, before Reagan, before the dog-eat-dog lifestyle they have now. (Of course I was a teensy kid then, so I'm remembering through rose-colored glasses) I live in the middle of the country, between Amsterdam and Utrecht, 30 minutes from a city - I need to have forest and lakes surrounding me. You're from Vienna, so you know what it's like to have real nature surrounding you..

All that said, I never liked Rotterdam...too jarringly modern, it doesn't reflect the rest of the country. Amsterdam is a mess - great old architecture but too touristy and snobby, and it sprawls. Utrecht is a college town, so maybe MDN would like it but I just wanna yell "Get off my lawn" to those damn kids. ;)

Seriously though - Den Haag's got it. THAT's a great city here to live in...great combo of multiculturalism, traditional and modern design mixed together well, and it's near the beach. Maybe when I make my next million...

Which would be my first million, but I digress. ;)

Quoting me about smokers having a selfish streak: Im not sure about all being selfish, but they definitely have a stubborn streak.

I'm reminded of Pee Wee's Big Adventure: "Shhh! I'm trying to listen to reason!"

Yep - can't say anything, can't enjoy your life passively with the smoke. And everything (...*everything*) tastes of nicotine. What was the old B&H ad? "I'd rather fight than switch"? I'd rather dump than fight.

having lived and dated Dutch women in my 4 years in Holland i can sort of agree with that. They can be a tad mad.. but mad is good too..

I think what gets me about Dutch women is that they baby their men here -- seriously, it's a matriarchal, the men are coddled and the women take responsibility. Personally, I'd prefer to share responsibility and have a balanced relationship than the "my way of the highway"-attitude.

And I thought dating 6' blondes would be a good thing. (*sigh*)

Hey - Enjoy living in Canada! Be careful not to spend too much time at le Chalet Swiss and be sure to find anything but Molson to drink...the Vancouver Island Brewing had some great ales, if I remember (it's been 10 years)...
BornInTheUSA   
2 Jul 2007
Life / Is there anything worse than Polish rap? [148]

You want bad? Try Dutch rappers - such nice, clean-cut boys. Here's Ali B:

nl.youtube.com/watch?v=2tfzI7PlyJY

Acck! Pfft!!
BornInTheUSA   
2 Jul 2007
Travel / Car rental from Berlin into Poland [4]

I rented a car from Sixt in Berlin last september, but also had to remind them of my itinerary. Initially I had booked a Mini Metro, but once they heard I was traveling to Gorzów Wielkopolski for the day, they quickly switched me to a Ford minivan. I was going in to pick-up curtains, not bring back a team of builders! But Sixt was less expensive than anyone else, so give them a try.
BornInTheUSA   
1 Jul 2007
Love / Polish-American dating success stories [41]

I agree that optimism and positive thinking goes a long way. After all, nothing puts you down more, when u see a dark future! But what's also important is to stand with both feet on the ground.

Absolutely. I need to be real, but I see no reason not to be positive about things. That's a hard thing at times too, being a democrat and all...

Were you born in Netherlands? Do you have polish roots?

Nope - not a lick of dutch in me, It's always been a place I wanted to live, so I moved here nearly 10 years ago. I'm not sure where I'll go next - might depend on who I meet, I suppose - but I'm here now. Have a nice apartment, new, paid-off car, all my appliances are 220v...I think I'm stuck here. ;)

I have dated men from many different countries and find that it all comes down to the man and not the country.

Absolutely - the same goes for women. I can also suggest not dating smokers, as they seem to have a selfish streak -- but that's perhaps my prejudice.

The one rule I can say is a general one for me-- the less incredibly good looking a guy is the better he will treat you. And this stems from my need to date good looking men...but I"m slowly getting over that.

I can say I share your dilemma, although I have met some lovely women who were strikingly beautiful, but so bloody insecure and that caused more problems than necessary. Arrogant or neurotic, sometimes having "looks" would be a curse on behavior.

Guess I'm blessed with looking slightly better-than-average but that's it...most people, when they speak of my looks always say "kind"...and so I tend to attract the ones who are most needy. After the recent past I'm on a hiatus of sorts, but it's interesting to hear that women have it as bad too. I should know that, from all the Lifetime TV crap that comes here, but it's great too hear it's not just me.
BornInTheUSA   
1 Jul 2007
Love / Polish-American dating success stories [41]

Well, I'm just going to wait and see what happens, no pressure, but on the other hand, I don't want to wait forever! What I am also afraid of is if the second person is willing to work as hard to compromise and work on the relationship....

I get the impression you're no-one's fool, so you'll know when enough is enough. A lot of it is staying positive and optimistic, working for the best instead of hoping for it. At least that's what I think...your milage may vary. I just can't live without optimism, even the cautious variety.

What brings you to polish forum? How did u learn about that?

I had met a very nice polish girl on vacation in Berlin, and we spoke a lot about polish families, food, religion, feminism...one of those great discussions that go on until the sun comes up. It was a great few days but we had to part ways (she was going on to Ireland) but I began to revisit my roots.

I came across polishmarriage.org just recently and sent a note to complementing its content, and Gosia sent me a note back with this address. I generally like it - there are some really decent people here. I'm not sure how long I'll stay or what I'll take away from here (the amount of bandwidth wasted on baiters like Nate, for example) but it's interesting, and I'm enjoying my time.

Did you have a great saturday night? I've recovered from my friends' 2-day bachelor party...happy to say, I held my own and still did my bike ride today. But I look like crap. ;)
BornInTheUSA   
30 Jun 2007
Love / Polish-American dating success stories [41]

The hardest thing is to be patient - I think sometimes we can run out as fast as we ran in. Perhaps it's the old fight-or-flight response at work?

Still, the one thing I do remember from my past loves is that when you both are on the same page and know that you need to work things out, the working together part can be quite bonding. Slow down and have fun - remember, if it's fun, it's probably even more fun at half the speed. That applies to a lot of things ;)

I mistyped earlier (my dutch still stinks at times) - I meant the Ijmeer here in The Netherlands, about 20 minutes south of Amsterdam. The weather looks like crap though, so I might just stick to my usual sunday bike ride (~30Km) and stay out of the water. When you go into the water, you go into the food chain, and you don't go in at the top...

;)
BornInTheUSA   
30 Jun 2007
Love / Polish-American dating success stories [41]

Very cool - I head Baltimore is turning itself around and is becoming a great place to live again. And it's always best when you can meet people doing things you both like or have in common.

Commitment-phobics, though? Yeah - I know a few women that way too. It's possibly less about you but more about who came before you...some people forget to live in the moment. They're just trying not to make the same mistake twice (or x3, 4, 5...). They probably need a bit more encouragement to break out. Probably been there.

Sailing sounds great - I think I'll rent a boat and head out over the Isomeer tomorrow. Good idea - thanks!
BornInTheUSA   
29 Jun 2007
Love / Ok GUYS....THIS is what women want...stop acting lame [238]

A little confidence is a good thing....too much....foolish.

That it's exactly (you're clearly better at summarizing than me...) but if you walk around puffing your chest out and looking all-He-Man-ish, you'd look like a cartoon. Quiet confidence works the best... and damned if I don't try to be a bit more like Gary Cooper every day.

But a polish version, of course. ;)
BornInTheUSA   
29 Jun 2007
Love / Ok GUYS....THIS is what women want...stop acting lame [238]

But he can't understand that now (could we have understood it then?)

True, but then I didn't think I was god's gift to the world either...

Then I was happy being good. Now I'm happier being better. ;)
BornInTheUSA   
29 Jun 2007
Love / Polish-American dating success stories [41]

i agree that you should be yourself, and being open and honest is always the right way to go.

Best. Advice. Ever.

i know i shouldn't generalize about american men, there are good ones, it just seems very hard to find them. i can only speak from my own personal experiences and what i've personally observed, but i find the american men i've encountered to be very selfish. what i've experienced is men who are looking for women who make them feel good about themselves. they like compliments. they like having everything be all about them.

Hmm - you know, I thought the same about American women. They can be selfish, constantly seeking attention and praise to feel good about themselves, and often dualistic with their opinions (my favourite quote: "there's our money, and my money - and no, they don't mix").

But once I moved to the Netherlands and dated dutch, finnish, irish and english women, I realized it's more about the kind of woman I attract than women in general, and that I needed to be a bit more clear in my own head about who I should - and importantly - shouldn't date. There are those you want to give yourself to, and then those who suck it out of you (and not in a fun way). Took me a long time to make that connection but the relationships since have been much healthier than I ever knew before.
BornInTheUSA   
29 Jun 2007
Love / Ok GUYS....THIS is what women want...stop acting lame [238]

He'll think you are over 50 too, and well past it if you don't agree with him <grin>

Heh - not nearly there...yet.

Here's the part I don't get about this thread...why agree with him? Because he's young?

That would be the most *ss-backwards logic I've ever heard. I am soooo much better at - well, everything! - than I was when I was his age (somewhere between 14 and 25, I'm guessing, depending on the conversation).

If you knew anything about other parts of the world then you would know that scottsdale is the premiew, hip, posh place to live in all of the southwest USA

Dude - do you even know what "the hood" is? Or is this like the Paris Hilton-hood?

I went to ASU for a summer and I know Scottsdale - put your hat on right, pick your pants up and act your age, and go have a Whataburger for me.

;)
BornInTheUSA   
28 Jun 2007
Love / Ok GUYS....THIS is what women want...stop acting lame [238]

Hey - not just any "hood", but the *Scottsdale hood*... yo yo

This stuff is silly. Be yourself, be honest, be upfront and forthright and it works.
If it doesn't, reconsider your options. There are always more compatible people out there.

(kids these days...sheesh)
BornInTheUSA   
28 Jun 2007
Food / Polish vs american food [34]

If you can find it, seek out Chef Paul seasonings. I get it from an expat store here in Amsterdam - really good, if you're not near the real thing. Cajun blackened fish tacos....yum!

(PS: Sorry for the "postcard" earlier)
BornInTheUSA   
28 Jun 2007
Love / Are all Polish girls skinny? [85]

I'm not at all anorexic, nor over-weight for that matter.
I exercise daily and eat healthy foods, in order to stay lean and fit.

Sorry Beckski - perhaps a poor example of my humor/flirting technique.
It's a good photo and I think one can see that you are indeed very healthy.
(now running the other direction from this thread...)
BornInTheUSA   
27 Jun 2007
Love / Are all Polish girls skinny? [85]

Please tell me... do I look skinny to you???

Not in the least - but back up a bit and let's be sure about this... ;)

I don't think there is only 1 reason why people get fat, but I think we can agree on this:

* Exercise daily - even if it's just a low-impact walk or bike ride. The couch is not your friend.
* Eat healthy foods - less processed, more natural…perhaps better.
* Fat/Satisfaction versus Volume - perhaps even a little fat is fine if you do the first two points. You're more likely to eat a big bag of low-fat junk versus a little fatty stuff that quickly satisfies.

* Did I mention regular exercise?
* Hydration is essential - it fuels your muscles so they consume fat during exercise.
* Avoid diet drinks and regular sodas & drink water whenever possible. It'll be hard the first week or two, but you'll get over it, and your body won't always crave "novelty".

* People have different metabolisms and/or a natural gene preference sometimes. Some of us will have a harder time losing weight than others. It's normal - love your body and find pleasure in it. Self-loathing usually kills all motivation towards exercise, eating well, etc.

* Those of us who can eat anything and not gain weight? Be nice about it and don't show off - it annoys the normal people, and there's more of us normal folk than you. ;)