Love / Someone please explain this to me [14]

Well, I hear u people. I heard. Thanks. Now does anyone have a nice s320 circa 94?

ROAD TRIP!!!!!!!!!!

Love / BLACK GUYS POLISH WOMEN [809]

WTF??

Love / Someone please explain this to me [14]

You are right on this. I sent the money cause I knew there was a bad situation there. I was there before and I had offered to help. But you are right. One Lover is One Provider. I doubt she has a new man (it has been confirmed for me), but I guess she needs to lose to realise. Non the less, I have to find an Merc s320 (circa 94) and hit the autobahn. Damn this is going to be fun. I don't know how I will get over her, but I do know that copious amounts of alcohol and random (safe) sex will help ha ha ha, but a new life, new beginning. She never asked for the money, I offered to help, it dawned to me when she told me she was robbed, and now last night she tells me she has gone to sell her phone to make ends meet that there was something wrong. I told her good luck and I wish her well and I meant it.

Love / Someone please explain this to me [14]

It worked for you, but does not work for me. Exiting a commitment, to me, not a good sign. If u r already committed, have bought a house together, and then all over sudden leave, Patty, thats not a good sign. If you tell ur husband all over sudden out of the blue u r not ready to be his wife after getting married, I dont think he would take it kindly. I think u r supposed to be a team, thru thick and thin, and when u r not sure of the relationship, talk about it, try work it, not freeze up. To me, its painted doom all the way. She could be taking advantage of me emotionally, financially probably, but when I help, and she throws it back at my face, thats the last straw. When u commit, to me, u start working on things together, we bought a house, when u break up, thats one thing, when u have a house, a life together, pets and things like this, and then all over sudden someone is not ready, wont talk about it, and does not listen to everyone warning her, thats a self destructive path. Sometimes its good just to follow the lead, cause it comes with trust. I made many sacrifices, and I paid a lot (not money), but a lot in life, and she wont even listen to me, not a good sign. Even when I say how are u doing, its met with a dont ask me that question. To me, its somewhere close to betrayal. The part that says thru thick and thin, thats the part she failed on, and thats why I am pushing her away. I dont want to be an emotional wreck which clearly I already am. The relationship may be doomed, and I accept, but even on friendship, she sucks. All her friends are turning from her cause she just wont listen or talk. She has become heavily selfish. I want to help, but she has to be willing to receive help. It works two ways.

Everyone is telling me to walk away, give her space, and thats what I am doing. Except, I wont hold back anymore for her, if she made a bad decision, she has to live with it. If she comes back and wants to work, fine, if not, too bad. If she comes back too late, its too late. Its just the way I see it.

And it does not matter anymore, we have said our peace. Any hope of friendship and reconciliation has just gone to hell. Thanks Patty, but this things, are just meant to be or not to be.

Love / Someone please explain this to me [14]


Thats is what I've been trying to do. Sit down and talk about it, but she just seems to hang in limbo. I probably generalized too much, but I would have thought that when one person in the relationship is down, in trouble or something, the other helps. She hit a rough patch in life, that made her question if the relationship was a priority, so she said well, I'm not ready to be in a relationship like this cause things have changed. And I was ready to let her go, cause i would not want to hold back anyone, but she does not want to talk or let go. I admit it, I am in love with her, and she is probably in love with me, but for me, its either all or nothing, this 50/50 thing does not work for me. And friendship after a relationship is even more difficult for me. And she seems more unsure about all that she is doing, but from what I know, all her friends said she messed up breaking up with me, same as her mum, her grandma, but she seems to know better. She won't listen, she won't move, she is just there floating, and obviously dead weight to everyone to a point her mother asked her to move out, and be on her own. If she were to acknowledge that she messed up and wants to work things out, I'd be game, but she is just there, stagnated. I told her I plan to tour Poland by road, and I'll be going to Augustow near our home town Bialystok and she is already creating issues about it. So I told her that if she wants to come, its all good, it could be good time for us to figure our selves out, but she can't seem to make up her mind. And she told me that before me, she had someone wait 6 years for her to tell him it wasn't going to work. And he waited patiently and he was crushed, and I felt for him and he told her she had a cold heart. Now I see what he meant. I just don't know what to do or say, so I said, until she figures it out, I'm gone, and I hope she decides soon before its too late if it isn't already.

Love / BLACK GUYS POLISH WOMEN [809]

Tongue rules everywhere. But, the more conservative the Pole (absolutely no pun intended), the more scared they will be. Personally, dropping the tongue raises the bar, much higher in the game. I love giving tongue. Polish guys I spoke with? Ha ha ha, tongue??? No!!!! Vodka Vodka Vodka.

And any man who gives a ***** head, u need to have your head *****d. The stars stand for a woman in business for herself.

Love / BLACK GUYS POLISH WOMEN [809]

errr sorry

Love / BLACK GUYS POLISH WOMEN [809]

I know. I could date any Polish woman, as long as they dont drink way too much and smoke. My ex, she drunk a ton and smoked a lot. In a lot of ways, I miss her and wish her back, but now I know, it was probably for the better. Im from a conservative country (dont ask where), if my family knew she drunk or smoked, it would not be approved. Drinking anything else but beer and vodka is fine in my conservative country for women, mostly aqua pops. However, subconsciously, I also wished that she never drunk as much or smoked, so its probably for the better. So next Polish woman if she is Polish will be very conservative, and I know this is probably impossible, from Gdansk, plus I want to dig up an old Ethiopian flame, she could come back, and Ethiopian women, they know their game. They are plenty hot, can cook, and work hard, and dedicate their lives entirely to their men upon request. They appreciate a lot. A whole lot. They are the most loyal women on this planet. 100%.

Love / It's going to take more for me to trust a Polish woman again... [22]

Feelings, i don't play around with em, they are dangerous, but, if she comes back, finds me single, I think I would take her back but after a lot of work and if she is ready to commit without issues. Question is, if she does not come back, what then? This infantile hope, I need to kill.

Love / BLACK GUYS POLISH WOMEN [809]

Before, I had a thing for English chicks, cause they were refined, fun, took pride in themselves. Most Brit chicks I met on the international scene were up to par. But they let themselves go, like the adopted Western culture (American), and loud, drinking, looking like sh*t, I find it a huge turnoff. When I hook up with some Polish girls here, even for drinks and talk, I noticed they try mark out their territory and trying to be like the British women, trying to be loud, they lose their innocence very quickly and veer off. It could be isolated cases, but its definitely like this. So smart me, I'll hook up with someone in Poland, fly out every month or two weeks to see them, and when they feel ready for something hook up. They will still retain their values and respect and by the time u bring em here, they will appreciate the effort and time you made cause UK, if u have time, you spend it mostly sleeping or drunk. Its a rude comment but "imported women" appreciate sh*t more than the ones who are here. And they are more likely to stick with you than locally available ones. But it takes a lot of time and a whole lot of patience.

Love / BLACK GUYS POLISH WOMEN [809]

The English part is true. I don't mean to offend, but the English girls are gone, into a different zone. And what is sadder is that some Polish girls are adapting to this. Its really sad.

Love / It's going to take more for me to trust a Polish woman again... [22]

My head was screwed. Big time. And its cost me a lot. I was depressed, I lost weight, blah blah blah, but I knew I had to come out. I hate being a bastard, cause it does not need to go there, but if this is the case, time to play. If she comes back, she is going to have a nightmare getting back in, and since I'm free, she does not get automatic entry back. She has to slave for it. And I know she will come see me in summer. I just need to be ready and get some outside game ;)

Love / BLACK GUYS POLISH WOMEN [809]

When I was in Poland with my ex and family, I noticed that people were uncomfortable with me being there. I thought heck, its my blackness and all, but it was more than that. I could see some insecurities and questions being asked in Polski, whats it like, is he nice, but I do know that there are women who see beyond colour. I see beyond colour. My ex before this was a half malaysian half coloured (not black if u r in south africa), and she was cool about it. Before was a German Portuguese. Damn, now that I think about it, all my exes have been mixed cause my recent ex is half polish half arab. Maybe this mixing up has something to do with this. For Polish white guys, its the booty, thats all they ever asked me about, big round booty and how u handle it. Its always about the booty. It was sad when I told them I had not knocked over black booty in over 8 years, and I forgot what that feels like. Harrasment??? Not really, but you wont be welcome in many Polish places either, but once the vodka is out and you outdrink them (if that is possible) then they are your buddies for life. However you will get the usual uncomfortable stares.

My experience.

Love / It's going to take more for me to trust a Polish woman again... [22]

Plenty mothers, im already staking the for sale sign and hunting lawns. What do u mean she will return my feelings? I know she is in love with me, she can say what she says, but when we talk, she is hiding them or she is using me on skype for emotional support. Damn it why do i have to be a daft nice guy?

Love / BLACK GUYS POLISH WOMEN [809]

The way I understand it (I've been black for a very long time :) ) A black person calls another black person the n word. Its normal. A different (not black) person who is close to a black person can also use this endearing term, provided everyone is happy with it. A different person who is not close to a black person using that word, here is a phrase to use along with that word: Smith & Wesson next to your head. My ex used to call me n*gga and i use to call her b*tch and it worked for us. Until the ex part came and I call her the b word and mean something else :) but thats just me

Love / It's going to take more for me to trust a Polish woman again... [22]

Im 26 this year, she will be 24