Love / Polish young generation vs older girls [21]

As i went to Poland when i was 18 and am now 26 i end up spending a lot of time around 32/33 year old women i've known over there, last time a table of 7 of them and just me , actually after an hour of their pure talk about men it does become torturous .

Still they all looked good and some younger girls like 23 and 24 came late and i thought they had no personalities and weren't even as atttractive really .

Love / My Perfect Love Story so I thought [73]

I chatted to my person online for a year and a half and that was too long without meeting , but due to being only 18 a few months before i was unable to really , like the guy was with his Visa.

The woman i liked who ended up going with a guy there whilst we were talking online said she did it because he was there.Like it or not a woman has needs and you can't do it from a distance really the affection just can't be shown and your often fighting a losing battle.This online then going with someone local theme seems to be happening a lot and i do think its fair enough but whoever it is should tell you right away , really she could have told the OP much sooner same as woman i chatted to left it til 2 weeks before i went and also i was asked to visit as a friend only but put me in an awkward position as it was so late.

Thinking back i met a few nice local girls here in the UK during the time and maybe i should have prioritised the people actually here so lessons learnt.It still hurts when you find that out though i felt sick and empty at the end of it but i know its because you lost the dream, the ideallistic life you imagined rather than an actual relationship.

Love / A Story of mine [47]

My first post and story is almost identical to Joe's. I was 16 and got chatting to a 22 yr old in a place about an hour from Wroclaw.We were chatting on yahoo in a tennis chat room of all places and things moved on to phone calls and emails.Ran up several £300 monthly bills and secretly paid them with my savings lol.When i was just turned 18 i decided to visit , told my mum i wouldn't be at the family bbq as i was off to Poland, said i was volunteering at a school lol still to this day i never found the moment to tell my family even 8 years later lol.

Left fake addresses and phone numbers just incase which was dangerous really and off i went.

Took the 24 hour coach from Northampton and went on my first ever trip abroad lol, will never do long coach journeys ever again, when that little old lady opened the boiled eggs in 30 degree heat on a packed coach.....

About 3 weeks before i went she said she met someone at her uni and thought she loved him but i dismissed it as she told me she loved me for over a year and thought i'd just go as a friend if not.

She met me with her b/f at Wroclaw station and he was off to Spain so i stayed with her at her parents place and they were away too so had 3 days of me and her on our own.

I was smitten just like joe was, took maybe 5 seconds and i was hooked and knew i'd just gone on the slippery slope of going as a friend when really it was more to me.

We had an ok few days , but in the evenings she'd go to see her b/f at his uncles before he went to spain, i knew straight away i'd made a huge error, 1st day there and i was left to watch tv at her parents , she got back about 2am and was annoyed i'd waited up , from what i know now that the guy was only with her for sex which she admits (he dumped her about 2 months after i went ) its safe to assume they'd been at it before he left.

I stayed in a spare room and it was ok.I met her parents and cousins/grandparents all fascinated to meet me as its a small town suppose they'd not met many UK people.I remember thinking when i have in-laws and extended family i want them to be like this .By day 4 her dad was taking me fishing and telling me he thought she'd leave that guy soon and to wait for her , i had a huge breakfast spread of about 8 plates of meat put on for me every morning and was treated like a king.

4th night she took me to a pub with her friend and she met some people that she claimed she didn't know but they were very friendly, she sat opposite me next to some random guy and i was happy enough but this guy was all over her and i was getting drunk and jealous and starting doing shots of Krupnik (which i can still taste) and had to leave as i for the only time in my life openly cried in public , just couldn't cope with it all so from then on i stayed in whilst she went out to meet this new guy (i guessed then she was just after anyone, actually felt gutted for her b/f as he was decent to me, shook my hand and didn't kiss her or anything infront of me as he knew i liked her).

She took me some places like an old castle and for a game of tennis and i did love it but knew my Polish experiment as i called it was on its last legs.

We were due to stay together in Wroclaw at her brothers flat who was away then get the train to Sopot to watch a tennis tournament but she told me to go home when we got to Wroclaw and told me to never mention it to her parents .I then stumped up the £40 for the ticket she paid for when we planned it so i even paid for the privilidge.

I have a sense of adventure and also had my dads platinum credit card (for emergencies) so booked into the Holiday Inn for 2 nights whilst she went to Sopot, i had a great time explored in the day time and then got my coach home.

She ended up meeting a guy 6 months after i left and got married and had 2 kids and said she felt she needed to do it to calm down and did apologise for being cruel when i went.I still see her for a beer every year i have been since (8 and counting) and that night i cried at the pub a friend of hers helped me and i went back the summer after and stayed with him and his g/f and they're now my friends i stay with each year and met loads of people so i am glad i went.I still get the odd twinge that things didn't work out but i have done great things there since and she's still an acquaintance so its ok.

I'll be back for my Annual visit in 2 weeks in time for the Reggae Dub festival in Bielawa and getting through my bodyweight in Bigos and Zywiec, i know its a long story but i bet theres others who have had similar , might even finally tell my family this weekend who i stayed with all that time ago just to see what they say.

Na Zdrowie!