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Misty   
11 Apr 2009
Love / SOS!! I feel a little hopeless with my Polish husband... [58]

When I first time met him, he was very different guy. I still remember that he is very kind, always arround me, and he likes to read books...Since the internet is getting more and more advanced, he quits the tv and newspapers, also quit to communicate with me. he started addicting to the internet blogs and social networks...

Then you need to tell him outright, he quits the Internet or you quit him. It's a simple enough message and if he doesn't get it then go. I hope you have friends or family around who you can turn to.

If this man is psychically beating you, then it is time to get out of this marriage.

Very true. It seems his addiction to the Internet is as dangerous as that of an addiction to drugs or alcohol. He's become short-tempered and illogical.
Misty   
12 Apr 2009
Love / SOS!! I feel a little hopeless with my Polish husband... [58]

Yes, he's irrational. I've never dealt with anyone addicted to the Internet. I imagine that this addiction is as over-powering as that of addiction to drugs, drink or gambling. You either have to stick by him and help him get through it, so you have to seek help for him because he won't do it himself, or you leave him.

Canada is not his country, he'll never feel free and at home there

I was thinking about that and there might be something in it. This addiction to the social networking sites could be caused by the sudden contact with people from his childhood in Poland (that is if he was born and brought up in Poland), if not there could be the sudden contact with people from an earlier part of his life wherever he was brought up. He might be aching for an earlier part of his life.

Good luck eangel.
Misty   
12 Apr 2009
Love / SOS!! I feel a little hopeless with my Polish husband... [58]

Maybe he is addicted to porn?

I'm inclined to believe you could be right after reading:

# Pornography places men on an emotional roller coaster. One minute they're happy, the next they're sad; calm, then angry; kind, then cold. These moods change without warning, causing stress and pain for wives, children, friends and associates. Feelings of estrangement ensue, further isolating and alienating them from their loved ones, which often drive men even deeper into the self-medicating escape of pornography.
# Men isolated on the slippery slope of pornography typically fail in their families and marriages, and in their relations with people in general. They are less effective, less reliable, less creative, and more prone to meanness and fits of anger. In essence, pornography turns men into zombie-like characters who are but a shadow of their true selves and potential.

This is from Net Nanny - Men as victims.

Sounds a bit like eangel's guy...
Misty   
24 Apr 2009
Love / I'm pregnant by my Polish boyfriend but he wants me to abort it! [132]

hi all i've been with my polish boyfriend for almost a year until last month he started ringing and texting another girl constantly and i overheard his plans to go meet her in poland and telling her he was completely single so we had a huge fight. now i find out that i'm 2 months pregnant.

About this, if he told this other girl he was completely single then he has no respect for you in the least. Just to be sure, was he talking/texting in Polish with her and if so, do you totally understand it?

Regarding the rest...

Ultimately it is not this guys decision. It's yours. You are carrying the being inside of you. This guy might have got you into this situation but clearly he cannot cope with being a father, yet probably you can cope with being a mother. Speak to people around you, trusted friends, trusted family. Your father might have opinions but they are based on thought and opinion rather than reality and when faced with reality his opinion might change. You were in a relationship for a year with this guy so it wasn't casual and your dad will realise that I am sure.

In the end, as I said, the decision is yours so please do not let this guy decide for you as clearly he is going to pursue the relationship with the other female. So either way you don't end up with the guy. Basically he wants you to abort to protect his reputation with this other female and that's not right. Make sure if you choose to abort the reasons are nothing to do with the guy.

Good luck with whichever decision you make. :)
Misty   
25 May 2009
Work / How are nurses graded in Poland and what is their typical salary? [14]

I would agree that nurses learning their trade are now doing so with the hope of plying their trade outside of Poland but their big stumbling blocks are the English language. The test for this is more difficult now. I've just done a supervision in the UK and it was hard and I am already a Reg in the UK.

I would hope that the level of nursing in the UK and PL would become somewhat more equal as they both have a lot to offer each other.