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Help with a Polish girl -How do I know if she is "interested"?


miaxxx 5 | 20  
7 Nov 2009 /  #1
So...I am an English man in Poland since about 1 month! I am a teacher here! I love languages and am already learning a little Polish!

I've met a girl (one of my students actually) she is really nice! How do I know if she is "interested" or is only friends because "i am englsih" (everybody wants a foreign friend syndrome)

Is there a Polish "etiquette" I should follow? Do I need to ask her fathers permission before I ask her out ;-) ^_^

Seriously....how do i know if she's being "friendly" or if she is being "Friendly"

cheers everyone!!!

nice country by the way!! love the language!!!

xxx
irishdeano 5 | 304  
7 Nov 2009 /  #2
Hmmm you dont need to ask her father,

Shes your student its not very good to be dating your students no matter what age they are, You should know if she likes you more, just ask her out the worst she can say is no
OP miaxxx 5 | 20  
7 Nov 2009 /  #3
about dating students? why not? we are both adults??

yes we went out but there were other people! like i said! how do you know if it's a case of "foreign friend syndrome" i have lived in many countries and a lot of the time there can be a tendency for the natives to "want to have a foreign friend" not saying all the time!

but yeah your right i guess the worse she can say is no!!

cheers ! guess i knew that already! i was just wondering if there was some kind of taboo with them!!

im no casanova and am not good at the best of times! so being a "stranger in strange land" im even more so reluctant so to speak
irishdeano 5 | 304  
7 Nov 2009 /  #4
well u do get alot of them like that when they here u speak, but she should do different things

its just unprofessional to date a student because u will always favour them lol well i would anyway haha
OP miaxxx 5 | 20  
7 Nov 2009 /  #5
i know she should do different things!!! but before you get to doing different things!!???????????????????????????????????? ;-)

also i only see her once a week as a student so Im not really worried about favouring her ;-)

chhers deano
irishdeano 5 | 304  
7 Nov 2009 /  #6
You should be able to tell by how she looks at u, talk with u, flick her hair etc the normal things girls do, lick there lips etc

are u a native speaker teacher of english there or what?
ShelleyS 14 | 2,893  
7 Nov 2009 /  #7
lick there lips etc

What?????? That just sounds nasty!!

...I am an English man in Poland since about 1 month!

are u a native speaker teacher of english there or what?

You have your answer, but Im not sure I'd use " since about 1 month"
OP miaxxx 5 | 20  
7 Nov 2009 /  #8
yes i am indeed!!about 2 3 hrs east from krakow

and yeah you are right!! but like i said before!! sometimes im not sure about the "foregin friend thing"

and also you know what foreign girls (and boys) are like!! they are lot more comfortable and touching someone on the knee doesnt always mean they wanna jump into bed with you!!

if it doesnt rain!! im meeting her tomorrow!! (2nd time out of school and 1st time not in a group) ??????????????

yeah yeah im here about relationship!! not grammar!!! come on!! everyone is lazy on the internet!!! ;-)
irishdeano 5 | 304  
7 Nov 2009 /  #9
whats the closest town city your in?
Sokrates 8 | 3,346  
7 Nov 2009 /  #10
Shes your student its not very good to be dating your students no matter what age they are

Nah if they're both adults and thats not at Uni (our universities are weird like that) its ok.

Just walk up to her one time and ask her out on a coffee, see how she reacts and you'll know what are you standing on.

Edit. start a convo dont go for it right away.

Or you could follow Southers school of dating but i'm not sure where can you get a ballgag or handcuffs for a good price.

flick her hair etc the normal things girls

Grab her butt, slap her and tell her "i know you want me b*tch.

but yeah your right i guess the worse she can say is no!!

Actually she can do lotsa worse things, like tell you she's a lesbian in a relationship with an older woman and then show you a pic of some 80+ yrs topless German prn star making out with her.
Wroclaw 44 | 5,384  
7 Nov 2009 /  #11
mia

1. i doubt you are male

2. i doubt you are english

3. "a little! i am learning! i am living in south east Poland since one month"
.....an example of typical english as spoken by a Pole.
OP miaxxx 5 | 20  
7 Nov 2009 /  #12
so would one prefer that i spoke our majesty's the queen grammatically correct perfect english when one has a limit of only 100 characters!

I was just asking some advise! why do internet discussions always turn into proficiency debates!!????

blow me down and shoot me for not being grammatically correct on an internet thread!!!
if you look at my profile again you will notice i was not making a sentence but rather a list!!! 1 a little (implying not that much), 2. i am learning!! come on have you really got nothng better to do!!??? (shoot me down oh look a typo<<<)

as for being male?? last time i looked i was scientifically speaking a male!! not that i go to the gym or eat testosterone burgers. But for the most part i am indeed what is commonly known as part of the male population!!

so i refer you all to my original post!!!

(Deano i guess the nearest big town/city is Rzeszów)
osiol 55 | 3,922  
7 Nov 2009 /  #13
I am teacher on English since two ago year. Mine lesson's are bests.
OP miaxxx 5 | 20  
7 Nov 2009 /  #14
thanks man!! at least someone managed to see past the typos and grammar!!!

i type and speak like i eat!!! (probably not translatable in english but there is a latin phrase that's used!)

yeah we are in a private lingo school!! shes a year older than me!

(southers school......?????)

i hope she aint no lesbo 80 year old......etc etc etc ;-)
beckski 12 | 1,617  
7 Nov 2009 /  #15
about dating students? why not? we are both adults??

I've had attractive college professors in the past. Flirted with them a lot also. However, I knew where to draw the line. No professor/student relationships; that's just so unprofessional.
OP miaxxx 5 | 20  
7 Nov 2009 /  #16
but surely its a good way to meet someone?

I mean, i came here and i dont know anyone! the majority of people i will meet at work as it were! im not really the going to the pub "on the pull" type! so how else am i going to meet people here? unprofessional?

even if you are both adults?
Wroclaw 44 | 5,384  
7 Nov 2009 /  #17
but surely its a good way to meet someone?

not it isn't. it is abuse of your situation/power and at the very least would get you fired.

i'm still not convinced that your original post is genuine.
OP miaxxx 5 | 20  
7 Nov 2009 /  #18
even if both parties are willing? how is that abuse? consenting adults? like i say she is 1 year older than me too!!

why it is not of the genuine?
Barney 15 | 1,476  
7 Nov 2009 /  #19
why it is not of the genuine?

The penny, she hasnt dropped.
sadieann 2 | 205  
7 Nov 2009 /  #20
I agree, it's abuse of power. Do you value your position and furthering your career? Most Universities don't condone dating students and even forbid. Your English is noticeably off and I don't think it's internet slack. Pop Quiz: What University did you attend. <LOL>
ShelleyS 14 | 2,893  
7 Nov 2009 /  #21
2. i doubt you are english

Astute! Mr W. As always.
OP miaxxx 5 | 20  
7 Nov 2009 /  #22
so is better i am to write like it in this way?

come one!!! please!!! i just came here for some advice!! not for a debate on grammar or which university i attended!

yawn yawn!! always the same on the internet! everyone suddenly becomes a professor of whatever language!!

i was jsut trying to get some advise!! obviously i have been for the most part wasting my time!!

if you read the posts again you will see that i am in fact not teaching in a university!!

which one did i go to???

the most important one of all!!!!!!

miaxxx
Wroclaw 44 | 5,384  
8 Nov 2009 /  #23
come one!!! please!!! i just came here for some advice!! not for a debate on grammar or which university i attended!

you have been given some advice. it's up to you whether you act on it or not.
Misty 5 | 144  
8 Nov 2009 /  #24
miaxxx I think you're in an extremely hard place..

Best advice, if this girl is one of your students, keep her that way.
beckski 12 | 1,617  
8 Nov 2009 /  #25
i am in fact not teaching in a university!!

It doesn't matter whether you're teaching at a university, junior college, private school, public school, etc. Teacher and student relationships should remain on a professional level.
southern 75 | 7,096  
8 Nov 2009 /  #26
follow Southers school of dating

What is that?
OP miaxxx 5 | 20  
8 Nov 2009 /  #27
Misty
beckski

thanks for the advise !!! and for managing to stick to the subject!! and not whether the post was grammatically correct or not!!

i was just curious!!

i was just wondering!!

i hope i will not burn in education hell for being lazy with grammar on an intenet site!!

although i must say that i have been told by the directors of the school that student/teacher relationships are fine!!

come on we are all adults!! (arent we?)
i am not talking about 30 year olds and 17 year olds!! im talking about a woman that is a year older than me for heavens sake!!

i was just wondering actually!! she was the one who invited me out first!! which brings me back to my original post!! is it a case of the "foreign friend syndrome"
Wroclaw 44 | 5,384  
8 Nov 2009 /  #28
is it a case of the "foreign friend syndrome"

only you can know the answer to that.
CacyUlcia 2 | 46  
8 Nov 2009 /  #29
Grab her butt, slap her and tell her "i know you want me b*tch.

LOL, hahaha! Sokrates, what did she say after you did that? Did you make a nice girl cry?

How do I know if she is "interested" or is only friends because "i am englsih"

Even if she is, don't jump her to end it at that interest. It's stupid and useless.

It doesn't matter whether you're teaching at a university, junior college, private school, public school, etc. Teacher and student relationships should remain on a professional level.

True, if such relationships began professionally, most likely it will end the same: If the two had a cooperative teacher/student relationship then it would be professional to network and stay connected for professional reasons, after the English course is over. Also relationships change, it's normal and acceptable in the Polish culture for the ex teacher & student to become friends only, as a result of their cooperative professional relationship. :)

although i must say that i have been told by the directors of the school that student/teacher relationships are fine!!

If she’s interested in learning English and you’re interested in learning Polish like you told us, then by the end of your course offer her private English lessons for learning Polish; you could get to know her better. If one of you feels uncomfortable to proceed further because of what other people would think about your relationship, then you could find a job at a different school.

i hope i will not burn in education hell for being lazy with grammar on an intenet site!!

probably

i'm still not convinced that your original post is genuine.

me either
King Sobieski 2 | 716  
8 Nov 2009 /  #30
osiol was taking the mickey out of you with this comment and you failed to pick it up and subsequently thank him....

I am teacher on English since two ago year. Mine lesson's are bests.


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