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Misty   
25 May 2009
Work / How are nurses graded in Poland and what is their typical salary? [14]

I would agree that nurses learning their trade are now doing so with the hope of plying their trade outside of Poland but their big stumbling blocks are the English language. The test for this is more difficult now. I've just done a supervision in the UK and it was hard and I am already a Reg in the UK.

I would hope that the level of nursing in the UK and PL would become somewhat more equal as they both have a lot to offer each other.
Misty   
24 Apr 2009
Love / I'm pregnant by my Polish boyfriend but he wants me to abort it! [132]

hi all i've been with my polish boyfriend for almost a year until last month he started ringing and texting another girl constantly and i overheard his plans to go meet her in poland and telling her he was completely single so we had a huge fight. now i find out that i'm 2 months pregnant.

About this, if he told this other girl he was completely single then he has no respect for you in the least. Just to be sure, was he talking/texting in Polish with her and if so, do you totally understand it?

Regarding the rest...

Ultimately it is not this guys decision. It's yours. You are carrying the being inside of you. This guy might have got you into this situation but clearly he cannot cope with being a father, yet probably you can cope with being a mother. Speak to people around you, trusted friends, trusted family. Your father might have opinions but they are based on thought and opinion rather than reality and when faced with reality his opinion might change. You were in a relationship for a year with this guy so it wasn't casual and your dad will realise that I am sure.

In the end, as I said, the decision is yours so please do not let this guy decide for you as clearly he is going to pursue the relationship with the other female. So either way you don't end up with the guy. Basically he wants you to abort to protect his reputation with this other female and that's not right. Make sure if you choose to abort the reasons are nothing to do with the guy.

Good luck with whichever decision you make. :)
Misty   
12 Apr 2009
Love / SOS!! I feel a little hopeless with my Polish husband... [58]

Maybe he is addicted to porn?

I'm inclined to believe you could be right after reading:

# Pornography places men on an emotional roller coaster. One minute they're happy, the next they're sad; calm, then angry; kind, then cold. These moods change without warning, causing stress and pain for wives, children, friends and associates. Feelings of estrangement ensue, further isolating and alienating them from their loved ones, which often drive men even deeper into the self-medicating escape of pornography.
# Men isolated on the slippery slope of pornography typically fail in their families and marriages, and in their relations with people in general. They are less effective, less reliable, less creative, and more prone to meanness and fits of anger. In essence, pornography turns men into zombie-like characters who are but a shadow of their true selves and potential.

This is from Net Nanny - Men as victims.

Sounds a bit like eangel's guy...
Misty   
12 Apr 2009
Love / SOS!! I feel a little hopeless with my Polish husband... [58]

Yes, he's irrational. I've never dealt with anyone addicted to the Internet. I imagine that this addiction is as over-powering as that of addiction to drugs, drink or gambling. You either have to stick by him and help him get through it, so you have to seek help for him because he won't do it himself, or you leave him.

Canada is not his country, he'll never feel free and at home there

I was thinking about that and there might be something in it. This addiction to the social networking sites could be caused by the sudden contact with people from his childhood in Poland (that is if he was born and brought up in Poland), if not there could be the sudden contact with people from an earlier part of his life wherever he was brought up. He might be aching for an earlier part of his life.

Good luck eangel.
Misty   
11 Apr 2009
Love / SOS!! I feel a little hopeless with my Polish husband... [58]

When I first time met him, he was very different guy. I still remember that he is very kind, always arround me, and he likes to read books...Since the internet is getting more and more advanced, he quits the tv and newspapers, also quit to communicate with me. he started addicting to the internet blogs and social networks...

Then you need to tell him outright, he quits the Internet or you quit him. It's a simple enough message and if he doesn't get it then go. I hope you have friends or family around who you can turn to.

If this man is psychically beating you, then it is time to get out of this marriage.

Very true. It seems his addiction to the Internet is as dangerous as that of an addiction to drugs or alcohol. He's become short-tempered and illogical.
Misty   
11 Apr 2009
Love / SOS!! I feel a little hopeless with my Polish husband... [58]

This is computer/internet addiction, isn't it?

Yes and quite a bad addiction if he is doing nothing else all day. Sounds like he doesn't have a job either. Is that right eangel?

What was he like when you first met? Was he a different guy? Did he spend as much time on the computer?

what I think you should consider leaving him

That's good advice. He doesn't seem to bother while you are there tending to him all the time. Perhaps if you took yourself out the picture...?
Misty   
5 Mar 2009
USA, Canada / Good job for Polish in USA [34]

That's a sad story. What is your MA in though? Also I think it depends where you move too. Are you big town/little town or city? It's hard to break into the job market anywhere when you are a new person to that market but especially now, in this climate...good luck for the future. Whilst you have the love of your husband you're always going be a rich girl.
Misty   
1 Mar 2009
Work / New English 'teacher' in Poland (I have no qualifications). [119]

Not everyone is cut out for teaching.

No, that's right and this guy won't know if he is or isn't until he tries it. Then if he is any good at it, it makes going for the qualification worthwhile. If he's not good or doesn't like it then he didn't waste his time putting himself through the qualification.

The qualification isn't everything, there are teachers with qualifications who are poor teachers. My friends sister and her class have just put in a complaint about their English teacher because the woman is just not interested.
Misty   
21 Feb 2009
UK, Ireland / Supermarkets in Poland: differences and similarities to the UK. [62]

but then in sainsbury's they keep changing the bloody layout

Awww poor you. You do realise that they do this so that customer have to search their stores for the product they want and they do this in the hope that when the customer are searching for the desired product they pick up other stuff.
Misty   
21 Feb 2009
UK, Ireland / Supermarkets in Poland: differences and similarities to the UK. [62]

Oi Attitude,

The girl is just asking for similarities or differences and I notice already one difference in that PD saw those things about the checkouts and Wroclaw described them as cigarette dispensers. So there is a difference.

Also in attitudes, the serving staff. Less helpful in Poland apparently.
Misty   
20 Feb 2009
Love / My Polish boyfriend and his drinking habit. [60]

Katy I think you did the right thing. You've been very strong. Keep ignoring him (use the block feature on your phone!) and you're right, you deserve much better than him. Good luck girl! :)
Misty   
17 Feb 2009
Love / My Polish boyfriend and his drinking habit. [60]

I think i love him help!!!

Well, if you think that love is getting told to clean up puke and being shoved around then you go for it girl!

In reality, I think you know the truth. What exactly DO YOU love about him? What are his good points? Does he have any? He's just goading you with this stuff about how much you should be drinking, he wants some justification for his drinking around you and if you start to drink as much as he does he has that justification.

Dump him and do it soon...

pawian, those posts are most unlike you and I hope they're tongue in cheek or something.
Misty   
14 Feb 2009
News / Poland..wake up to a multicultural world [1059]

and despite your 4 whole months in england you know nothing about the assimilation of immigrants into the uk. you have drawn conclusions from your unfortunate and self-inflicted experiences

Sokrates, this comment has hit the nail right on the head. Perhaps if your experiences have been different you would have different views. Four months is not enough at all. Did you travel around or remain in the one area?

I have a friend who won't return to Poland because where she lives she sees too much intolerance. She likes the UK for the fact it is more tolerant (about more issues than race). She has friends here from Romania, England, Philippines, Scotland, Wales, Ireland, Sweden and France which she enjoys and learns from. She says she wouldn't have this opportunity in Poland (at least where she comes from).
Misty   
13 Feb 2009
News / Poland..wake up to a multicultural world [1059]

Well, there are slums in UK history too. Poverty often causes that more than anything else. You're saying that anyone who is not white cannot be civilised but I have met some pretty uncivilised white people. We could go on like this ALL day but we won't. ;)

Also one more thing, i just found out that St. Georges day parade in London got cancelled because of 'racists' i imagine thats a pretty important day for Brits and they just lost it because of this "flavor" you keep talking about.

Yes there is a problem in the UK that it's gone "Politically Correct" crazy. That's politicians making decisions based on...what? They think people will be offended.
Misty   
13 Feb 2009
News / Poland..wake up to a multicultural world [1059]

Correct! Bravo! You're probably the first who get the point i'm making. I'm all for the odd black or muslim but i'm firmly against what UK or Germany is doing, Poland if it opens up should first and foremost open to the east instead of taking in hostile and unproductive minorities.

Not really. A country should accept people who are suitable to be in the country regardless of what colour they are.
Misty   
13 Feb 2009
News / Poland..wake up to a multicultural world [1059]

There is a difference between what BubbaWoo is talking about "multiculturalism" and "mass immigration".

Being multicultural is having people from all over living and working together and cultures mixing which is a good thing.

However, Sokrates, you're going on about mass immigration which is when countries don't control who enter the country. There is a problem with that in the UK but it's not to do with colour, it's to do with amount.

I should add - I'm all for multiculturalism so it stands to reason there must be migration to bring that into effect.
Misty   
13 Feb 2009
Feedback / Where is PF heading (Site Interface/Design wise) in the future? [21]

What about people who are not quite popular because of their different views and opinions? They can't say what they want just because bunch of sheeps don't like them?

Ah, worried that your opinions would be voted down because you actually annoy people. It's what I thought. If your opinions were interesting and not inflammatory, why would you worry?
Misty   
10 Feb 2009
Love / Polish wedding customs/traditions? Aussie marrying Polish. [21]

We are getting married first here in Australia and he will not have his family here so I would like to make it feel Polish.

Make sure that the reception lasts for one day, then it's Polish. ;)

If his family is not there then you just have to make a nice day, not include pretend Polish'ness'.

Just make sure he enjoys himself and spoil him. ;)
Misty   
9 Feb 2009
Language / IS POLISH LANGUAGE'S VULGARALISATION MEDIA-DRIVEN? [23]

I keep being subjected to Polish TV, yet so much of it is not actually Polish. Very little, in fact.

You aren't subjected to it. Turn the channel man!

Yep. Big films these days are actually horrifically bad, incomprehensible how people still get entertained, when batman is the number 1 film you know there is something a miss, utter crap.

A good point.
Misty   
9 Feb 2009
News / Polish engineer beheaded in Pakistan. [347]

Sometimes it doesn't feel like we're living in the 21st century.

Absolutely spot on. Humans really seem to have regressed as a race.

What a horrible death. I remember watching (well only a few seconds - i just couldn't finish it) the beheading of Daniel Pearl. Simply horrible.

I watched Ken Bigely's (apology if name spelling is wrong) death. It was horrible indeed. I didn't watch Daniel Pearl's yet. It's a horrible death indeed. We need to stop it happening to our people.

They demanded some prisoners to be released. Skin them alive now and send the tapes to Al-Jazeera.

Would only result in more deaths for us. Don't believe they care about their own suffering this fate.
Misty   
8 Feb 2009
News / Polish engineer beheaded in Pakistan. [347]

Its hard to say. They don't have any moral support of masses in general. Their tactics are threat based. For example, one day some shopkeepers in a multimedia market would get a message to close down their businesses or face the consequences. If they don't comply, they would blow up a shop or two and make their point. So I would say that their tactics are threat based which are not likely to win any hearts and minds. Besides Pakistan is worlds 5th largest country with such a huge level of diversity that its painful.....really. To control such a massive population with threat alone is not likely going to work.

So in answer to SeanBM's question, the Taleban are getting stronger. Why are they getting stronger? Because those shopkeepers are doing what they say and there is no power to stop that. The Taleban aren't out to win hearts and minds, they're out to kill those who they feel are against them whether that feeling is justified or not. If, bit by bit, the Taleban infiltrate Pakistan by blowing up a shop here, a school there, a church here, a hospital there, they can soon control because people will fear going against them in case they are the next to be blown up by them.
Misty   
8 Feb 2009
News / Polish engineer beheaded in Pakistan. [347]

The British are always apologists for these pigs

That's an unfair comment and a very strange one. I'm not sure what your reasoning is behind it.

I don't believe Bhenazir Bhutto when she said OBL was killed by Omar Sheikh.

If Osama Bin Laden is dead it's due to his diabetes and not anything else. He was a sick man about two/three years ago and I doubt he got any better.

I can remember cities like Cairo, Islamabad, Beirut literally partying in the streets after 9/11. Jumping up and down with happiness.

Yes I remember that too. Sickened me to the stomach. Your point?

Frankly, I wish they would just get out of the way and stay out of the way.

LOL. Yes you Americans think everything is about you. Do you realise that these groups like Taliban and Al Qaeda just hate the west, so don't take it so personally.
Misty   
8 Feb 2009
News / Polish engineer beheaded in Pakistan. [347]

It's time to realise that while the US and UK governments think they are one step ahead of the Taliban and Al Qaeda actually the opposite is true. The Western governments are fond of broadcasting when they foil a plan but when do they ever actually make any positive steps in finishing the Taliban or Al Qaeda? They don't.

The Taliban and Al Qaeda will always be beheading people or blowing them up and sadly, there is not a damn thing the western governments can do about it. Even if they did manage to catch Osama Bin Laden (for example) what does that do to Al Qaeda? Not a thing, because there is always someone else to step into his shoes and so many cells all over the world. It's never-ending.

So now another innocent life is lost. The west kills some Taliban or imprisons them and rightly so but then the west is hurt again with yet another innocent dying. We kill their guilty so they kill our innocent.