Finefilly
4 Apr 2008
Love / My polish girlfriend has changed following death of dad.. [153]
There's some good points here regarding your situation (particularly EbonyandBathory). I think the main thing that is the most difficult when you lose a parent is that other's seem to think there is a cut-off point for mourning. Yes, there are (quasi) official guidelines in most cultures for a mourning period but, let's face it, if you've lost your mum or dad your emotions don't go along with guidelines.
Anger is a very common reaction with bereavement - similarly sudden periods of detachment from others may be on the cards too - it's not directed at you, believe me.
This will be a testing time for both of you and if you have barrow-loads of patience you will both be the stronger for it. Just don't expect that once a year is up 'she should be ok now'.... I was still 'talking' to my dad (in the car usually) two good years after his death. You may think that's odd but two years is a blink of an eye in your emotional life.
Take care x
There's some good points here regarding your situation (particularly EbonyandBathory). I think the main thing that is the most difficult when you lose a parent is that other's seem to think there is a cut-off point for mourning. Yes, there are (quasi) official guidelines in most cultures for a mourning period but, let's face it, if you've lost your mum or dad your emotions don't go along with guidelines.
Anger is a very common reaction with bereavement - similarly sudden periods of detachment from others may be on the cards too - it's not directed at you, believe me.
This will be a testing time for both of you and if you have barrow-loads of patience you will both be the stronger for it. Just don't expect that once a year is up 'she should be ok now'.... I was still 'talking' to my dad (in the car usually) two good years after his death. You may think that's odd but two years is a blink of an eye in your emotional life.
Take care x