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My polish ex threatens to commit suicide after separation [62]
[quote=plk123]
don't blame him for that loose cannon. is that how you took rejection?
excuse me, but I have seen alot of men and women go thru similar circumstances
and most of the time the relationship was basically a joke, whether it was the
his or her fault , someone didnt communicate well enough to say, Im not dating for
a relationship. I just like companionship.. and Im not looking for long term.. if he
would have used these words to begin with who knows what would have happened
but I believe she thought he cared more about her, and she must have wanted more
and thought he was the one.
thats why I am asking, did you tell her in the beginning southern that all your really
looking for is female companionship or did you woo her till you got her in bed and
now your in a circumstance that could have been avoided by simple communication?
men and women both do this to each other , it happens, you just dont feel the
attraction and for southern he apparently only feels the physical part of it, I have
a friend who was so in love with my hubbys best friend, he liked getting the cake
but as far as goin any further, he didnt feel that way about her. it sucked to be
in the middle of it, she loved him deeply, and would do anything in the world for him
but of course he only wanted to keep her around for the sexual part of it.
when she wanted to "talk" he would say the things she wanted to hear, and keep her
mind flowing with lies, and then few days later same old thing again, I really dont like
you that way, so she would move on, and at some point did have someone living with
her, but again, he played the cool mystery dude and she fell hard again, or let her
guard down.. and this happend like 5 or 6 maybe even more times I dont know anymore
because we dont live close so its over for good now, but to this day, she still loves
him and the feeling was never mutual.
I could understand his feelings ,that he wasnt attracted.. but I didnt respect how he
handled it, he kept it going, give little hints that he might like her, then not give her
a second glance the next time he was over, then do it again..
then he would say to me, dont get involved, but he would do it at my home, I said well
then dont do it over my house.. you involve me when its my friend your hurting
constantly over and over..
and then I would hear, well ,she keeps attacking me. and yes women do this, because
some might think thats the only way to keep the spark alive..
as for your question of how I handled rejection. like anyone else, sulk for a day or two
then pick myself up and move on.. but I would still have the questions in the back of
my mind of what did I do wrong? why? and this is the same question men and women
ask when a relationship goes wrong and you still have strong feelings for that person.
anyway. my ten cents <~added few extra cents for inflation reasons.. :)
