Posts by angelika04

angelika04

13 May 2009

Love / Dating a Polish guy..acceptance in family? [45]

his mum and brothers gf always refer to me as "Ona" which I find a little rude

Yes it is quite rude when we refer to each other as on or ona when the person is still in the room. They reason why they are doing this might be because they don't have respect for you, they don't want you to know that they are talking about you, or a combination of both.

I'm Polish and I have a Polish boyfriend and his 30 year old cousin pisses me off so bad when she refers to me as "ta twoja" or "ona" right in front of me, because she forgets my name ( we've been dating for 3 years and she still forgets my name). It is very highly annoying lol. I just sometimes want to call her a fat cow or something but that would definatelly send me into the "exile" section of his family. lol

angelika04

13 May 2009

Love / Sick of a Certain Polish Lady - my boyfriends friend [34]

Your boyfriend is taking advantage of the fact that you're a stupid little girl and has absolutely no regard for your opinion whatsoever, especially if your opinion interferes with his "hump the ex" schedule, any normal woman would draw the line ages ago and dump the craphead if he crossed it even once.

Unfortunatelly, missbutterfly, I have to agree with what Sokrates said here. This relationship is unhealthy and unfair to you. Also I'm not sure if you said that your boyfriend is Polish or not... But if he is then as a Polish girl I have to tell you that when it comes to marraige in the future he will most likelly chose her over you because she is Polish and will fit into his family better. I'm not trying to be mean to you or anything, I just fell bad for you that you keep putting yourself through this and wasting your time over and over and over and over again. Just dump him, he is not worth ****.

angelika04

13 May 2009

Love / Questions about Polish women [17]

1. She can complain alot / can be negative. - Common or no?[/quote]

All nationalities do that not just Polish. Get use to it.

2. Talks about family, but says how bad things are, not loving, mean, but then calls mom and sends money home on a regular basis to help out?

Very very common, this is almost like a golden rule with Polish people who still have family in Poland.

3. Wants to leave the country, but committed to renting a room and helping a friend. She is very unhappy with situation, but doesnt want to leave for a EU nation. Says she promised a friend to stay. Loyalty a strong traight?

A least that shows loyalty lol

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4. Sending money home to supposedly help for food and clothes -Sounds fishy -Common or no?

No this is NOT FISHY or a trait of a GOLDDIGGER. Every single Polsih person I know including my family does this and if they do not then they will be looked at as traitors and be hated/insulted by the family in Poland. It is almost like an obligation to send money to your family in Poland. Not only does she proboblly send money she soon will most likelly also start sending clothes, non perishable food items, toys for little kids in the family, and things like that at least one or twice a year to her family.

5. Common in the culture for money NOT to be the most important? She said she would sign a prenuptual and give up all rights if she married someone. Said she would only marry for love. Common or no?

I guess that depends on her, but I think she is stupid to say/ do that especially if you guys would end up having kids and then getting a divorce.

6. Educated with a masters degree in EU law. I hear college is limited for the few in Poland. Is this true?

Education is extremelly important in Poland and I know many poor people who go to college in Poland and come to America during the summer to make money to pay for the college.

If you like her a lot then just keep dating her and see how things go. From all the questions you just asked though I can tell you that she is not a gold digger, this is normal behavior for Polish people who are loyal to their family.